Is this too 'white' to wear to a wedding

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Is this too white to wear to a wedding? I can't decide.

It's beautiful but honestly I'd be a bit shocked if I saw a guest in that at a wedding.

I’d be gutted if someone wore this to my wedding, if you like it buy it and wear it somewhere else, just not at the wedding. As other posters have said it’s considered rude and bad form. All that tulle and the colour it’s very bridal, it would look fabulous on a bride at a registry office ceremony.

Yes

It is a bit bridal, but it's mostly wedding guest-ish due to the shorter length, and it's highly unlikely that the bride or wedding party would be wearing something similar and that you might be confused for one of the wedding party or trying to upstage the bride.

If you like it, go for it.

Hi OP,

Have a look at Little Mistress, Quiz Clothing and Lipsy for alternatives. Also look on Asos, I think they have a whole section on formal dresses;

m.asos.com/women/occasion-wear/wedding-outfits/cat/?cid=15493&currentpricerange=5-475&nlid=ww|clothing|shop%20by%20occasion&refine=attribute_900:1465

I wouldn't wear the particular dress that you've pasted here as, even setting aside the social etiquette, you won't feel properly comfortable in it as you'll be doubting your choice and wondering what others are thinking.

OP, if, as you say, the bride is wearing a full on, traditional style wedding dress then I think this dress would be fine for a guest.
Pick out a colour from the dress and get a bag and shoes in the same to break it up a little. Or wear a little cropped jacket over it in a colour.
When I got married, a friend wore white wide leg trousers with a matching white top. I can assure you nobody mistook her for the bride and it did not concern me in the slightest!

Yes, beautiful dress though.

Someone wore a white dress to my wedding and everyone seemed to be annoyed except me! Probably not worth risk if you don't want judgey looks even if the bride wouldnt mind! ASOS does gorgeous dresses in the occasion section

Several women wore white/cream to my wedding, I have worn cream for more than one wedding, no-one commented or remotely thought it was an issue, and I never knew it was an issue for anyone until I read about it on MN. I thought it was something that died out in the 1950s. But some Mumsnetters like to keep the 1950s alive and well.

I’d be gutted if someone wore this to my wedding

Can I ask why?

Didn't you have far better things to be doing and enjoying, on your wedding day?

Do you think anyone would have thought more of the random person wearing white (or not even white) than you, the bride?

Obviously as thedowagercuntess you can obviously afford to invite random people to your wedding, whereas I would invite close friends and family. I would hope that my nearest and dearest would show their respect to me as the bride, by not wearing white to my wedding. It is my opinion and how I would feel, you’re fully entitled to yours.

I wouldn't have been bothered if someone had worn white to my wedding, but I didn't wear white myself.

That dress is gorgeous and I would have worn it to get married in had it been around 24 years ago. So I probably wouldn't wear it as a guest.

Your wedding guests are people you like and love - don't you just want them to turn up in what makes them feel good?

Don't you have far better things to be concerned about on the day - like marrying the love of your life, and celebrating with special people...?

It seems incredibly insecure to me - you're the star of the day, all eyes are on you (if such things really are important to you) regardless of what guests are wearing, but as you say, we all have our own feelings about things.

I think it’s lovely and would be fine for a wedding if you accessorise it right. Pick up the grey tone for shoes, bag and a jacket, cardi or wrap and it won’t look bridal at all.

I think it's fine.
I have never seen a bride wear a dress like that, ever.
Most brides wear white or off white big strapless floor length satin affairs with veils.
That dress is absolutely nothing like that.
I've wore cream to a wedding before and I can assure you the bride loved my outfit.

Honestly - pick a shade you like from the dress to accessorise, and it will look just lovely.

Agree with those saying it’s too bridal on its own, but if teamed with a coloured jacket and shoes then you’d probably get away with it

Personally I wouldn't wear it to a wedding, however if you pair it with a coloured jacket or accessories/ shoes/ bag it will break it up more.

(Though when I got married a few years ago, dh's cousin (16 years old) wore a knee length peach dress. After the wedding someone asked if I thought she was wrong to wear a peach dress as it was quite a light colour. I burst out laughing at such a ridiculous comment and said that I thought she looked stunning in it and I wanted to ask where she got it from. I wore a pure white ball gown with long train and two tier veil, she wore a knee length peach dress with accessories. I think it was obvious who the bride was).

I think it's a gorgeous dress and very suitable for a wedding (as someone else mentioned, what other kind of occasion would you wear it to, realistically?). I would wear it, and I would not be offended if you wore it to my wedding. No one will mistake you for the bride.

It’s not about being mistaken for the bride. It’s about having the manners to not wear white or cream to another woman’s wedding. I’m shocked that some of you insist you’ve never heard of this.

Even my husband knows you don’t wear white to another woman’s wedding.

Having seen the picture where the pattern shows up better, I think it’s lovely and perfectly suitable.

Don’t wear a jacket or wrap with it though, as it will ruin it.. so pretty.

I’ve also rarely seen a post where everyone is agreed the dress is nice, whether or not they think it’s suitable... 😀

Some posters seem to be insinuating that I'm unaware that guests shouldn't be wearing white - I am perfectly aware that some brides believe this, which should be obvious given that I asked the question in the first place!

I was asking because I was unsure whether the dress 'counted' as wearing white given that it's covered in coloured flowers. And the product description even says 'pink contrasting underlining' so I was wondering if it was just my eyes making it look white, as I can't see any pink in the underlining!

I may order it and see if the underlining actually is pink and whether the colours are stronger in the flesh. I probably won't be wearing a jacket or anything as the wedding is in a hot country.

Thanks to everyone for their opinions and advice!

Bettyfood 😂 I've never really thought it an issue, but it obviously is.

It’s not about being mistaken for the bride. It’s about having the manners to not wear white or cream to another woman’s wedding. I’m shocked that some of you insist you’ve never heard of this

No-one cares though. If someone did care, I'd be glad that they were upset by it, as they shouldn't be so precious.

Good for you, OP (I also think it may well look pale pink on).