Does my grey hair make me look slovenly?

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Im 38 and have quite a lot of grey hair.

It's thicker than my brown hair and I wonder if people would think it looks slovenly or unprofessional as it's neither all brown nor all grey.

I work in quite a smart environment and I've noticed that everyone else colours theirs.

I really don't mind it but hairdressers keep telling me to start colouring it and I wonder what other people would think. It's quite noticeable.

Yours looks lovely.

I think some people have missed the point that mine is neither grey nor brown. It's starting to go grey and the grey hairs are quite difficult to groom.

I'd be very happy with a full head of grey hair and really like that look. Until I go fully grey I'm not sure about the patchy look as everyone else at work seems to colour theirs at the in between stage.

I don't have children but I think years of IVF has made me start going grey.

Holy shit - how is grey hair solvenly.

I have peppered grey hair, should I be sacked not not being presentable? On that basis wrinkles are slovenly too. That’s half my colleagues gone.

Ive been grey for about 6 years now and I am 50. Sod the dying process. Add some highlights, keep cuttin gyour hair up, gradually fade out the highlights and boom...grey hair. It takes a while and steady nerves because at certain points it might look like a bit of a dogs dinner but it is worth it.
Grey hair is coarser and needs to be managed with a good blowdry or style cut into it.
Other than that, it is much easier to have than constantly battling with dye.
You will be a silver fox. Remembr though, if you wear make up, your skin tone changes with age and it might be an idea to update your make up routine. On the other hand, dyed hair can drain your skin because it should be sitting alongside your natural grey!
It looks brilliant when you get there and is worth the effort.
Go for it.

Try Hairprint it is a natural, none toxic way of colouring hair.

I have some grey round my hairline, and I colour mine, but I work with a woman who reappeared after a holiday with a steel-grey crop from shoulder length brown hair and she looks AMAZING. The cut really suits her as she has quite delicate features, so it’s a fantastic contrast, and she looks so chic.

On the flip side, I also work with a woman who dyes her hair, but leaves it until she has two inches of grey roots. Personally, I don’t think this looks great, and feel like you need to commit one way or another.

My hair is streaky, patchy, etc. Far from homogenous. If I dyed it, it would still be patchy, with the added joy of roots growing in. Because my hair is multi-coloured by nature.
No one has fainted yet, or been put off.

T. May looks half-dead no matter how she styles/ cuts/ colours her hair. Her hair is irrelevant and the very least of her worries, TBH. I'm not a great believer that faces reflect souls, but her case is quite clear-cut.

Rather than colouring it maybe you could try a mega conditioning treatment like Olaplex 1 and 2. I am 50 and have steadily been going white since my 20's and know what you mean about them not behaving like the rest of your hair.

I think this is a real shame that you would feel so judged for your grey hairs at work. Embrace the Gray's who cares what the perception is, if you are professional at work and good at your job then that's all that is important!

No one has judged me. Rather I've noticed the difference and it knocked my confidence a bit.

Not at all sexist saying that Teresa would look better with dyed hair. Obama would look better with some just for men too, and Martin Kemp.

Not ageist either, just preference. Some greys look amazing.

I know what you mean. If my hair was proper grey, I'd quite like it. My mum's is finally almost all grey and looks so much better than the in between. Maybe it's cos grey and brown.don't work. But I'm odd about colours; some patterns or shades can make me feel physically sick or out of sorts. I live in a pattern free house.

I have a few wiry white hairs in my brown hair now, but have decided I cannot be bothered to dye my hair (possibly ever ) the same way I happily go out with unshaven legs (though I'll occasionally wax them).

Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter (DH, kids, friends, family) don't mind

I still feel very feminine and confident and professional fwiw (age 47)

God I would not bother!

Mine is fading from red to s strange colour but I am going to dye it soon but more highlights and red bits
I think grey roots is not a good look but a mix of colours is ok - I miss my red now it’s going

I'm 50.. going grey and stopped colouring mine 2 years ago. I don't think I look slovenly or unkempt ...I just have greying hair!
I do miss my brown hair..but that's with rose tinted glasses...the reality was too dark-then good for 2 weeks=then roots. Plus the cost and the irritation to my scalp.
I now have healthy soft hair that I can use GHDs on without fear of breakage. I can't wait to be MORE grey!

Obama would look better with some just for men too, and Martin Kemp.

That's obviously a matter of opinion, I believe a lot of people think Martin Kemp looks great with grey hair and a lot better than he did when he was young.

I like my grey, but do have a bit of a slovenly streak I guess, although I prefer to use lazy as I think slovenly is quite a sexist term. My observation is that some people get it really wrong when they dye over their grey, choosing colours that are too dark or too bright and don't go well with their skin tones, possibly because that has also changed a bit with age. This is as true for men as it is women in my opinion, there are some very obviously dyed haired men out there that look a bit strange now (although that may be the plastic surgery too).

Dye your hair if you think you look better for it, not because everyone else does.

I’m 50 and grey, but I colour it and use a spray to top up the roots. I’d love to let it go, but I know from past experience I would be judged. I run my own dog daycare/holiday business, but the pathetic truth is, new clients would wonder if I was young enough for the demanding work. I’m probably fitter than most women my age, but sadly i would be judged on the colour of my hair. If I was a man the same clients would probably think my grey hair meant I would be good with dogs as I’d be more experienced. I’ve even had this discussion with regular clients and they’ve ALL said they would actually think like that. 😟

Cowes How did you do it? I have plenty of silver but can't work out how to stop colouring and just go natural (I'm 44)

Im 60 and I went grey decades ago so I started the 4 weekly visits to the Salon to colour my hair. And it was every 4 weeks because I was determined never to have roots on display given how awful they can look. Eight months ago I thought to myself to hell with this and I decided to go grey and Im well on my way to it by letting my hair grow out - roots and all!

My grey is a beautiful silvery grey and come August all of the remaining old blonde should be gone. But I will admit Im having a wash out rinse done this week because I have a wedding to go to and I dont want my friend to be looking at the pictures and saying - jesus, she's spoiled my pictures

The 2 pp have lovely grey hair because its uniform and in good condition.
If your hair is healthy clean styled groomed not frazzled or dry then its fine. It depends on the condition your hair is in and if you still make effort in your grooming in general anyway.

Don't do it. You'll end up on a treadmill that is so very hard to get off. I started going grey in my early 20s and honestly wish I'd just gone with it - I can't realistically see how to stop.

Fwiw, the most senior, credible and respected women I have worked with present themselves well but tend not to colour their hair. The ones who do just don't have the same gravitas and I include myself in that. Just my experience, obviously, but I think it's largely to do with confidence.

It takes me 35 minutes every five weeks or so with a box of hair colour to do my greys. It makes me look a lot younger, but I realise not everyone cares about that

I would say you probably need to up your conditioner game if you are starting to get some greys - they can be much coarser/drier than non-grey. I noticed this on myself as I started to get more grey hairs - it got very dry and bushy.

If you are trying to avoid "slovenly" then having sleek, soft, well-conditioned hair (of any colour!) would be a good start. Hair oils are great for this.

My hair is about 25% grey 75% brown. It looks unkempt unless I straighten or blow-dry it. I'd much rather do that and spend the £700 a year that professional colouring would cost on a holiday.

I have dark brown hair with a few wiry greys and work in one of the last remaining jobs that requires a suit 😀 My theory - and I'm sticking to it - is that really good conditioner and a good and regular cut will do me fine thank you.

At the grand old age of 32 I have pepperpot hair and grew it out last year. I used to bleach it to try to get that pure white till I realised I'm halfway there the natural way and it'll only get whiter as I get older so why not grow it out now? I use purple toners everyday to ashen the last of the brown and it also highlights the grey which give an overall silver look.

There are many things to be anti in this world - ageing isn't one of them