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I cannot wear this to a '30s/'40s themed wedding, can I!

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Guestdressquestion · 01/04/2018 20:45

Friend getting married in June. Wedding is 'Old Hollywood glamour' theme (we have been told to think silver screen sirens).

I was wandering through my wardrobe with DP (as you do, on a Sunday!) and he suggested this dress. See pics.

I love this dress and it's new to me but I cannot wear this '40s dress to a wedding. I am no shrinking violet but it's too much for a wedding, yes?

DP thinks I am being silly and that I could just "wear a cardigan" over it - but... I really don't think I can in good conscience wear it. Grateful for views (that I can show DP :) )

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GinIsIn · 01/04/2018 20:46

If that’s the theme of the wedding o don’t see why not?

KirstenRaymonde · 01/04/2018 20:47

Its fantastic! You must wear it!

Onceuponatimethen · 01/04/2018 20:47

I think he’s right - he’s but with wrap over top. But I have no taste so don’t listen to me!!

Onceuponatimethen · 01/04/2018 20:47

It’s a gorgeous dress!! Wrap for day and then as is for evening

ShiftyMcGifty · 01/04/2018 20:48

Looks fine if everyone is actually going to stick to the theme and go over the top in old Hollywood glamour.

I’d personally ask the bride or enquire about the bridesmaid dresses. If your dress tops/outshines them, then it’s too much.

Schlimbesserung · 01/04/2018 20:48

It's perfect! If you feel too exposed I'm sure you could find a suitable wrap or stole.

Eatsleepworkrepeat · 01/04/2018 20:48

Totally fits the theme... If you upstage the bride that's her own problem for insisting in the dress code! 😁

Timeforabiscuit · 01/04/2018 20:49

Its perfect!,

KirstenRaymonde · 01/04/2018 20:52

Should add - always better to be overdressed than under.

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Guestdressquestion · 01/04/2018 20:56

Ah! That was not the response I was expecting (DP currently gloating). Maybe I will check with some of the other guests and see what they are doing... Grin

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Guestdressquestion · 01/04/2018 20:58

I shall also ask about bridesmaids - good idea.

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MelanieCheeks · 01/04/2018 21:00

It totally fits the theme!

What is your alternative?

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Guestdressquestion · 01/04/2018 21:29

Well, I have some elegant long black dresses - but they might be a bit dour, even with some sparkle. I also have a couple of tea dresses but not quite right.

Am really keen not to buy anything new - I have so many clothes!

Is an evening wedding, btw.

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Housewife2010 · 02/04/2018 06:15

I think it's rather bridezilla to impose a dress theme on your guests. Weddings can already take a lot of planning and money to attend ( I have spent a lot of time in the past searching for a suitable outfit , shoes and bag). To add a dress theme on top is very demanding. Yes, a person can decline to go but if it is a close friend or family member you are expected to go and would probably want to. ( Btw the dress would look great. Make sure you wear red lipstick too).

villainousbroodmare · 02/04/2018 06:19

That would be perfect. Short jacket, wrap on top (but don't be afraid to drop that over the back of a chair once you're in).

Somersetter · 02/04/2018 06:20

I think it's perfect. Tough theme for anyone who's not that into clothes though - I'd panic reading that!

Somersetter · 02/04/2018 06:26

If you Google old Hollywood glamour you get lots of dresses very similar to that.

I think ideally you need a faux fur stole not a cardigan though. (Glamour does not = cardigan in my book Grin)

I cannot wear this to a '30s/'40s themed wedding, can I!
SleepingInYourFlowerbed · 02/04/2018 08:12

What would you imagine wearing to the wedding with that theme? Because to me that dress fits it perfectly. I can't think of anything that wouldn't potentially upstage the bride with that theme choice!

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Guestdressquestion · 02/04/2018 08:28

Hehe, I was a bit Hmm at the cardigan idea too. I like the idea of red lipstick too.

OK, once I check with the bride/bridesmaids and figure out what they are wearing (and that the bridal party isn't wearing gold, for instance) I think I may go for it.

Thank you all!

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DillyDilly · 02/04/2018 11:25

I’m curious - what did you buy the dress for, if not to wear it to an event such as this themed wedding ??

honeylou42 · 02/04/2018 11:28

It's beautiful go for it Smile

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 02/04/2018 11:31

The last wedding I went to with a theme like this, I turned up in a very similar dress to the bridesmaids. Bride (who was v. Bridezilla on the run up to the wedding) burst out laughing and said 'well, I asked for that, didn't I?' And then we all moved on.

It's a perfect dress for the theme, you should wear it.

(Not with a cardie though. I've never seen a screen siren in a cardie.)

windchimesabotage · 02/04/2018 11:32

that dress is perfect!! its beautiful. With a darker coloured cardi and lipstick in case the bridesmaids are in gold or a similar colour.

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Guestdressquestion · 02/04/2018 11:34

I like the 'screen siren in a cardie' quote.

And the dress was bought for the various black tie dos/glitzy award ceremonies that I go to occasionally (though not nearly often enough!) Grin

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WatchingFromTheWings · 02/04/2018 11:35

That dress is perfect! Fake fur stole and a big necklace!

Where did you get it from??