Dress for a 9yr old for a funeral

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We have DH's grandmother's funeral at the end of the week, I'm not sure what DD should wear. Would this be appropriate with a cardigan? Most of her clothes are too bright

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or this

black dress

School uniform?

I really like the blue dress. I don’t think anyone would expect a child to wear black to a funeral. Mum always said that children shouldn’t be put in black morning.

No one wore black to dads (I wore white) and I wore a flowery dress to mums.

I wondered about this, but wasn't sure if it was too bright

flower dress

School uniform has probably seen better days, it did cross my mind

The navy next one.

Ah, navy next one isn't available for 2 weeks, will have to try local store

I like the flower dress. I think it's a nice balance for a child. Will she be warm enough? It's freezing in most places atm.

I like the next one, that’s one here from Zara m.zara.com/uk/en/dress-with-bow-at-the-neck-p00485605.html?v1=5755526&v2=358082 it would still need a cardigan

Did she give or particularly like any of your dd s clothes? I don't think there is any need for a child to wear dark colours to a funeral.

I like that Zara one, also found one on the Debenham website

There's nothing with particular emotional ties that would fit

All the outfits shown would be fine. DD 11 last year had her grandads funeral the day before her 12th birthday and it was away from home so we had to stay over. She wore a dress which was black and cream with a very tiny print with a black collar and she wore a black cardigan with it. I don’t think anyone would comment or expect a child so young to be head to toe in black.
Have you talked to her about what will happen just to prepare her as it can be quite shocking for them.
She’s not wore the dress again since as like your DD she still likes bright coliurs and the dress wasn’t really her.

If you want plain black gao have a long sleeved one that looks warmer www.gap.co.uk/browse/product.do?cid=1102005&pcid=65702&vid=1&pid=000909680001 but you would possibly have to ring the store as I don’t think they have the right size

Sorry for your loss op.

I've just lost a post with links which don't seem to be working now but have a look at John Lewis and Cyrillus UK who both have nice navy blue dresses with white collars. As pps have said, I think navy blue is more appropriate than black for a child at a funeral.

We took my DD to my mother's funeral when she was eight, and it was around about this time of year, and she wore a navy blue wool coat with navy blue beret, scarf and gloves, and tights, over a navy blue corduroy dress under which was a cream cotton polo. They were all quite plain things that she wore again on other occasions.

I don’t think you need to go overboard with a full on outfit with a matching beret and coat OP any of the ones suggested here would work. The main thing is that she is warm and has an awareness of what will happen.
My DS wore some new black jeans and a new wine coloured shirt and a jacket he already had and DD wore the black and cream dress which from a distance the print didn’t look unlike the John Lewis one shown here.

Er, I didn't consider the outfit "overboard"; the church was freezing (hence the hat, gloves and scarf), the coat and pinafore she had anyway, and the funeral consisted of a full requiem mass, so the outfit was appropriate thanks. The point I'm making is that it's fine to wear clothes you have already.

And there was lots of standing about in horizontal rain afterwards as it happens!

Take the weather into account - she’ll need to be in something warm. As a side note, I was advised by a friend not to wear a dress I really liked to my mother’s funeral as it would always remind me of her funeral afterwards. You may prefer to get her something you can pass on straight away rather than get value from.

Steamcloud Sorry steam cloud it sounded like it may have all been purchased for the day to coordinate and I was worried the OP and others may feel it necessary to go overboard spending money they didn’t hAve on clothes they maybe unlikely to wear again.
Our DCs grandad was a down to earth Yorkshireman who wasn’t into fuss the service was lovely and it reflected that.

No worries Hellsbells agree it's not necessary to buy a new outfit. My late mother was down-to-earth too and she wouldn't have minded a jot what everyone wore. A lot of people wore a version of office clothes I think, and most of the DC (it happened to be all girls) were dressed in plainish coats and hats, with a variety of dresses underneath.

My DDs both wore black skirts with white long sleeved tops to my Grandad's funeral. They had black and white floral dresses for my grandmother's.

I agree with biggrernolive - don't ask her to wear something she is fond of. My girls both wore a black cord skirt & a pretty green cardigan to their grandma's funeral. Neither of them ever wore the items again - it made them sad even seeing them in their wardrobes.

I would ask her what she wants to wear there may be a colour or pattern that reminds dd of your grandmother, and dd has to be comfortable for the day as it's going to be very confusing for her. For my granddads funeral my mum took me out to choose a top to go with by black school trousers, I went to a lot of family funerals as a young kid and I'm glad I wasn't told what to wear.

We went smart but not too somber for my DD when she attended her Grandfathers funeral and school uniform for her Grandmothers.

Yes, meant to say before that black separates with coloured top or sprigged black would be very appropriate I think; meant just that head to toe black for a child is possibly a bit too much, but each to their own of course.

Yes I think most people want to make a bit of an effort out of respect. Clean and tidy anyway.