Dinner set present for a friends 40th?

[Jas8085]

I’m not sure it’s appropriate? This guy is a good friend and they invited all of us over for his 40th at a restaurant. They other day I was at Tesco buying grocery, I found a lovely dinner set and just thought it’ll be a nice present.
The party is tomorrow and the present is wrapped. I’m now thinking if it’s a stupid present!
What do you think ladies?

Does he live by himself? It is an unusual 40th gift but plates get chipped and broken and it can be good to have a nice set of crockery. I just bought a new dinner set recently and it gives me immense pleasure!

No, he lives with his wife and two boys

I’d love it personally! But depends on the person. If in doubt, give him a bottle of champers.. and keep the dinner set for yourself!

In that case i am not sure it is a great 40th gift. It says here is a gift for the whole family not just a special gift for him.

Not appropriate at all. It’s personal taste, semi-permanent and very obvious in the house.

Inappropriate!

Noooo!

It's a no from me sorry.

😕 champagne or restaurant vouchers for somewhere swanky nearby

No, you need to get something for him, not his whole family.

Ok - what can I get him? Champagne? Chocolates ? Or just an amazon gift voucher?

Would nice whisky or gin be good?

Another no here. It's practical, family oriented and embarrassingly obvious if he decides not to use it. Unless you know they're currently eating off something far worse, and maybe not even then, it's an inappropriate gift for a birthday.

Exchange it for the best champagne you can get for the money.

I have to agree - that’s really not a great 40th present, it’s too much a matter of taste and also a bit practical not fun/indulgent.

Unless he has expressed an interest in this particular dinner set then I'd say it's a strange gift. He and his wife may think you don't like their current set and may see you as pushing your tastes on them.

If someone just randomly gave me a Tesco crockery set for my birthday I'd be a bit

What indulgent things does he like?...

Eating out?
Alcohol?
Films?
Theatre?
Music concerts?
Any hobbies?
Favourite brands?

Come on you can do better for a good friend! What does he like? Get him something he wouldn't usually treat himself to that is related to something he already likes

I know what you’ve done op.
You knew what mumsnet would say.
So you’ll have to keep the dinner set for yourself unfortunately (nudge nudge wink wink).

It’s a LOVELY dinner set! (Not a cheap one)

Ok then. I’ll keep it. I think I lost the receipt - so can’t return it

From tesco?

It probably is lovely to you OP. But I wouldn't give it as a gift and I know it's ungrateful but I wouldn't want to receive a dinner set for my birthday. If someone gave my DH one I'd be a bit .

Ok ok - I’m keeping the dinner set!

Champagne? Won’t a lot of people give it?

What about Amazon gift voucher?

Champers/whiskey/alcohol

40year old whisky?

An amazon voucher is nearly as bad as a dinner service imo.