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I've just sneaked at my Christmas Present & he's got me the wrong colour!

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 16:33

It's very expensive, hes bought it online, should I confess now and hopefully get the right colour?

Or do I act surprised Christmas Day and suck it up?

It's not an awful colour, in fact it's very similar, however he's chosen a cooler tone and I'd have loved the warmer tone.

It's something I've lusted after for ages and I never get a present he buys without my input so I'm very proud of him.

I need to suck it up don't I?

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Alorsmum · 22/11/2016 22:05

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ClarissaDarling · 22/11/2016 22:15

Is it the Antigona or Pandora?! If so I love the blush/pink nude, but would still say a yes yes to the stone!

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 22:24

It's the Antigona.

I've decided I'm going to try and find the Blush one and replace it without him knowing and if I can't get it, I'll get the tan one and slip it in the box instead Grin

You're all right, he won't notice at all, and if he does on Christmas Day I'm sure he'll laugh about it if I told him the truth!

Off I go to find the Blush one...

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OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 22/11/2016 22:26

honestly? i think in this instance, yeah, you should suck it up and learn to love it for the fact he bought you something beautiful he thinks you'll love without you needing to drag him to go and get it. it might niggle for a while but you'll probably totally deflate him if you say anything and he might never bother trying again. i know it's a pain when something isn't your idea of perfect but maybe it was the closest he could get and he thinks you'll love it just as much or maybe as others have said, he doesn't realise there's a difference. love it because it's bought with love and don't worry over the wrong tone!

ExitPursuedBySpartacus · 22/11/2016 22:27

You search his bank statements?

Floisme · 22/11/2016 22:31

I think OneNight is right.

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 22:39

I've just found pictures of both, the one I thought was grey ish is actually looking more yellow to me.

I've just sneaked at my Christmas Present & he's got me the wrong colour!
I've just sneaked at my Christmas Present & he's got me the wrong colour!
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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 22:40

I think you're right OneNight, suck it up and buy some more outfits that will go with the yellow toned bag. Bless him, he's really tried and I am so grateful, even though I don't sound it.

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Northernlurker · 22/11/2016 22:42

Absolutely suck it up and make sure you act surprised. My dh would be gutted if I sneaked a look at my present then secretly changed it because it was the wrong tone.

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 22:45

Exit - we treat our bank accounts as though they're joint, we are a family and share our finances, I have his bank app and full login and so does he have mine. I wouldn't think twice of him transferring money out of my account into his and neither would he if I did it. We're very transparent, it works fine for us although I can see why it wouldn't work for some.

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Giveusawobble · 22/11/2016 22:54

Holy shit that bag is £1300!

I really don't get handbags

Seriously though at that price you need to be getting the right one.

HoneyDragon · 22/11/2016 23:01

Can you after Xmas say that a small minority had quality issue with a fastener and you need to get yours checked?

Then come back with the right colour and say they offered an immediate swap or to order in another in six weeks?

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 23:01

I know, Giveus, that was my thinking, it needs to be right as it's so expensive. I've never spent more than £50 on a bag. We can certainly afford it, but I just don't seem to spend on myself. Whereas DH does like 'designer' items and has a fair few things of value.
I feel bad for even looking, but glad I did as I can get used to the fact it's the slightly wrong shade befote I open it next Blush

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Giveusawobble · 22/11/2016 23:03

He's done an excellent thoughtful job, but after your initial surprise and joy on the day I would really gently ask if he minded if you saw that the yellow one was available.

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 23:04

Honey, we live a good way from anywhere that sells them, it's have to be a day trip to go and sort it in person, but definitely viable. Great idea. The retailer he purchased it from doesn't seem to sell the Blush one at all, so maybe I could exchange it for the Tan one then.

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 23:05

I haven't seen the yellow one Grin

What shade of yellow exactly?...

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burnishedsilver · 22/11/2016 23:10

They look quite different in the photos.

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 23:15

They're google pics, I can't actually find the Blush one on a website as I saw it a while ago in Harrods and it was part of the runway collection.

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ExitPursuedBySpartacus · 22/11/2016 23:16

Thanks for the explanation re your finances. Confused

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 23:19

You questioned if I search his bank statements. I simply explained. Not sure why you're confused?

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ExitPursuedBySpartacus · 22/11/2016 23:24

And I can't understand how you can tell the colour of a handbag from a bank statement.

Ilovetorrentialrain · 22/11/2016 23:25

OP you lucky thing, that's a lovely bag. Sorry I can't help with the dilemma, I'd be inclined to just leave it and love what he chose, but it's got to be right for you.

TheCraicDealer · 22/11/2016 23:26

I was about to tell you buck up but for that money you absolutely want the right one. You know, one you'll get use out of rather than glare guiltily at it looking forlorn at the bottom of the wardrobe. Going somewhat against the grain I'd leave it a week or so (closer to Xmas) and tell him you found it , you're delighted, he's so thoughtful etc. Then tactfully ask would he mind awfully if you swapped it for the other shade? If he knew you wanted it he knows you and obviously listens to you, so it's not going to be a surprise to him that you were fussy about the colour. You could even turn it into a nice coupley pre-Xmas outing. Whilst subterfuge and swapping it out has its benefits, it just wouldn't sit right with me lying to an obviously decent fella who's gone the extra mile.

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OhGiveOver · 22/11/2016 23:28

Huh? I've actually seen the bag, it was in the box in the garage and I looked at it. When the previous posters suggested sending it back for the right colour, I looked on the website and couldn't find it, so double checked which retailer he purchased it from as the box says the retailer (Selfridges) and checked the bank which said selfridges. But couldn't find the Bag on there.

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TheCraicDealer · 22/11/2016 23:30

Ahhhh, the blush one is £300 dearer on the Harrods website.