Do you dress to look sexy, smart, pretty, attractive ?

[Pisssssedofff]

What's the overall aim or look you go for ?
You know when you meet some people and they've more or less hot exactly what you've got on but somehow they always look, girlie, pretty, just nice.
Somehow no matter what I wear I just don't :-(

Decent (i.e. not naked, knickers not on show)
Clean (struggle with this one)
No holes in clothes (struggle with this too)
Unobtrusive at work (clinical job, I should be the background)
Mildly arty at the weekend - boho but with strong shapes and plain colours rather than floaty patterns.

I aim for simple chic.

I fear that it translates as scruffy.

I try and go for effortless, expensive casual. This is usually a biker, jumper or t shirt, jeans and boots or trainers but they will always be good quality, clean and in the right size.
I dunno what this is really - definitely not pretty or smart so cool possibly! I don't have the figure for smart anyway as I'm short, size 12 and booby.

Try to look pretty and stylish. Sometimes feel I achieve this - plain colours, skirts and boots not jeans. However, as per pp I too have had horrible realisation that am dressed like a clown at times. I am short and slim, look alright as casual / pretty but total failure at sexy / glamorous / smart. Just look like a 12 yr old in fancy dress. I no longer try!

I dress to look a bit foxy and a bit edgy. So heels, but boots, always always make up, clothes that fit.

Age appropriate (I hope!) so not skin tight, bare legs and massive brows.

Makes me feel better and able to face the world.

pissedoff, you sound very similar to me!

i try to look smart but my hair lets me down - just no time to colour and style it.

I'll go with smart, pretty and attractive.
I go with what fits my shape.
Currently rocking size 14-16.
Always a dress. Nice shoes or boots in winter.
Always a smattering of make up
Longish Highlighted hair
I'm 65 next birthday

I enjoy my clothes. I like lots of colour, maybe on a black background then I can wear a dress with black boots and opaques in winter.
Got some nice knitted dresses for winter that I'll wear with a half slip under.
Last 2.5 weeks it's been sundresses and bare legs all the way.

I am for cool, low key and attractive

Unfortunately I am naturally very scruffy so have to put in a lot of effort just to look like I I put the lights on before I got dressed.

More and more I find I have to buy super smart, think Hobbs to hit the low key cool I feel i am inside.

Never thought about it before. Cool, confident and, the old MN favourite, polished/groomed, I suppose.

Meant to add before posting. There are occasions where I want to look sexy or super smart but day to day the above post is what I'm thinking if when choosing clothes. I do want to look attractive too.

I think I'm mostly sporty/outdoorsy/practical but also clean and smart, I don't look scruffy. At work I have to wear scrubs or a tunic or 'branded' polo shirt and I spend most of my spare time at the gym, yoga, climbing, running and dog walking. For everyday wear I mostly wear high-end sports and outdoor gear (LuluLemon, Prana, Arc'teryx, Rab, Patagonia etc.), skinny jeans and Superdry hoodies.

For going out (shopping, cinema, lunch, casual dinner etc.) I'm still low key and I don't do trendy, but I have a good figure (5'7 and toned size 8) and I know what suits me. I stick to blue, black or grey skinnies; Converse, brown or black ankle boots or brown knee-high boots and a vest-style or strappy top, smart t-shirt, breton-style job or some kind of knitwear. I'm never what you'd call bang on trend but I don't really aim to be, it's not 'me'.

I guess that girlie or glamorous would be least like my style of dressing. I never wear skirts or dresses or heels unless going to a wedding or party. I have a few nice ones for things like that, but day to day they don't fit with my job or lifestyle and it's not a look that I'd feel comfortable in.

Ooooh never really thought about this before
For work I try to look smart, professional etc
Dates etc I try to look sexy but in a dressing to suit my curves way and bit understated
Casual I aim for stylish with a nod towards trendy and trying not to look too fat
For all of the above I do groomed ie nice jewellery, hair cut n coloured, manicure, polished footwear, good accessories, a great coat also finishes me well

Comfort is important to me but top of the list is feeling like 'me' - it's taken me years to figure out what me is and I'm still working on it but roughly it's:

• stylish and with a nod to what's fashionable
• slightly edgy/arty
• polished but not prissy
• decent quality - I don't care if something's from Primark or a designer boutique but it needs to hang well, be flattering and the fabric and fastenings need to look and feel good
• situation appropriate

And it's definitely not:

• pretty, girly
• overly, obviously trying to be sexy
• fake eg tan/hair/nails
• slavishly following fashion regardless of what looks good
• unflattering (which as a 5'2 booby size 14(ish) can be really tricky

I aim to look elegant and stylish.

I do not want to look girly, sexy or fashionable.

I think I understand what you're feeling OP, I have it too a lot: sometimes I look at the models on my favourite clothes sites and think 'that's it, I want that look exactly.' Then when I have more or less that exact look, I'm not happy. It's like I've only just realised that the reality is I'm not a 5'10 20 yr old model so the clothes might look just a tad different on me.

Or, sometimes, I'll put together my own outfit and feel dissatisfied, even while recognising that if I saw it on someone else (or online on a model), I'd covet it.

I think this is all about perception of ourselves and feeding the dissatisfaction that leads to a fairly serious clothes habit (not a judgement - I have a massive habit) and spending more money.

i've never thought about it but i would definitely say there's nothing 'sexy' about the way i dress. as a general rule my clothes are quite modest but they always fit properly, never to small or too big, they are clean and decent quality. I suppose, thinking about it, i do look quite 'pretty' and 'feminine' in general but it think that goes hand in hand with the sort of fifties silhouette i favour as it's best suited to my body shape currently. If i go too casual with jeans hoodies that sort of thing, i do tend to look on the scruffy side so i only usually wear jeans around the house or if im ill or in a rush and they are the first thing to hand

I would like to look confident, because I don't often feel that way about how I look.

I have a bit of a love hate relationship with clothes, especially post DC with no time or money for thinking about clothes. And getting older it needs more time and money to not look shit I am finding! Gah.

Pissedoff - I think I feel the same. I try to buy the right clothes. I think I'm let down because I always feel like I don't have the "right" shoes, or my hair isn't as sleek as it should be. I think they make the big difference between me and someone else who might be wearing exactly the same outfit.
I'd aim for confident - because that's what I never feel. And presentable, not trendy (I'm too old), but up to date.

Totally understand the man in drag feeling, I'm tall and not the skinniest and feel the same frequently.

I try to wear fitted things as they seem to look better, with the aim of things "going" skinny jeans, slightly baggier top, wide elf trousers, fitted top / jacket. Similar colours. Usually stick to black grey white navy.

Find it tricky!

I like to wear classic and simple items that are comfortable and feel 'me'. I will probably always be a bit girly, I am tallish and leggy and have a babyface. I could never do sexy.

Elf trousers?! Wide LEG.

I was dying to see those elf trousers 😂

The two things that stopped me feeling, all too often, 'not right' was first a Colours day, and then the Style day, with House of Colour.

Now I feel 'right' and 'me' pretty much every day and whatever the occasion, I still buy too many clothes but now I really like them all, rather than going off them without understanding why.

I love fashion but I aim for Swedish androgynous and lots of black.
I wear a uniform of black skinnies and black tops and ankle boots. With sparkly bits occasionally.

Comfortable, low-decision-requiring. I wear suede trainers, Conversesque or DMs; jeans or high-cotton-content trackie bottoms; long- or short-sleeved cotton T-shirt; high-cotton-content hoodie; and something over the top of that - in winter, usually my longish black leather coat (which urgently needs a button! Damn eBay button order is taking ages) but sometimes a very long wool coat or a cheap duffel coat, in summer a leather or pleather jacket. I like hats - I wear a trapper with the earflaps down, a beret or another woollen hat in winter, and a baseball cap, bucket hat or wide-brimmed sunhat in summer.

I probably look terrible