What is acceptable fashion for a mummy?

[ShanaMitchell]

I'm a young mum who has managed to get my body back to a state that I'm pretty happy with (but nowhere near as much as before, but who is right? It was all worth it for what I have now!). I haven't got a huge mum-tum or many stretch marks and I'm content with my size but many ladies my age are still rocking disco pants, high waisted shorts and other very-not-mummyish clothing that I just couldn't imagine wearing now I have a little one, as much as I'd really like to. I'm not saying crop tops and bum shorts... (I mean, I'm not 15) but the things I would style casually before bubba. So my question is: can a young mummy pull off clothes meant for her age without it being weird because she has a baby, or is that a red-zone, no-go area?

Like Kylie Minogues gold ones Usual

Two years on I'm wearing a geeky top (Doge crossed with Game of thrones, "very winter much soon" if anyone cares)

Ovaries, I see your T shirt and raise you the 'Jon Snoge' GoT/Doge crossover one I'm wearing

In my case they are called to pigs in a blanket pants, not disco. Or an abomination.

No. These. I bet you're wearing some RIGHT NOW, Usual.

Daily fail is that you?

OP's post is a bit silly but really, some of the responses are just as silly. Not changing your knickers for 2 days? Come on!

These are disco pants aren't they?
Olivia Newton John style..

Spot on Down. Surprisingly flattering actually.

I don't know, I used to call DH 'hubby', before my my initiation. I think OP could be legit. It's a bewildering place, the post-childbirth landscape. It's very easy to lose your identity, esp. If, like me, you are a young mother in your area. I was 10-15y younger than the rest of my antenatal group and spent a lot of the time feeling like an outsider. Even now, at 31, none of my close friends have children. I recently met up with an old school friend, who lives locally. I hadn't seen her since we left 6th form. Her first is 6m old and her family live abroad. She was so grateful to talk to someone who she could relate to.

Off topic and not my business really, as I'm a grandmother now, but is 'bubba' now an OK word for a baby, because I find it cringe-y? Probably just because I'm old-fashioned. Have never heard my DDIL use it.

Apologies for my "old bitches" comment but don't think there's any need for the piss take whether you think the question is stupid or don't like the use of the word mummy or bubba or whatever was said, I was a fairly young mum with my first dd (24) and suffered terribly with post natal depression and lost my way for a while it can be a vulnerable time, this post hit a nerve.

The message is clear from all posters though. Wear what you please.

Yes, most and foremost any mother is a woman and should keep their identity as they please.

BTW, not many young women talk about "ladies" their own age.

Hmm, I'm hoping that the op hasn't been back because it is a piss take rather than because she's too scared of you old vipers. I never understand the snobbery on here about bubba etc. Each to their own surely.

Op, I was early 30s when I had my first so not particularly young but I think whatever age its daunting as unless you have the confidence to wear what you've always worn you want to fit in. Also if you've been used to office wear/uniform etc and only wearing casual stuff at weekends it can be weird to dress sown every day.

I had a clothes crisis after having my son and I was 35! I posted on here a lot and got some great advice.

OP - if you are still reading this, sorry you've had a pasting for asking a perfectly reasonable question!

I was much older when I had DC1 in my 30s, but the whole "wear what you wore before" doesn't really work when what you wore before were suits in the week, clothes for big nights out on Friday and Saturday nights then having a few slobbing about clothes for Saturday & sunday afternoon hangovers (didn't really see much of Saturday and Sunday mornings before DCs). A few 'smart casual' clothes for lunches on Saturday & Sunday, but no where near enough clothes to last a whole week. All my money went on work clothes and 'going out' stuff, I didn't have a casual style and did also fall down the Whitestuff/Fatface hole for a while.

My basic wardrobe is skinny jeans/jeggings (add in disco pants if you have the figure for them), long sleeved tees in the spring/autumn, jumpers in the winter and nice tees in the summer. I've got a pile of jersey dresses that don't need to be ironed for the summer that are long enough to cover my arse should I be scrabbling around on the floor with DCs at toddler groups (maxi dresses are good for this). I tend to stick to only a limited colour palate of shades that suit me and 'go together' easily as I don't have time to think in the mornings. I realised the other day I own 4 denim dresses of a variety of styles and shapes, perfect on their own with flat sandals in the summer, add tights, cardie and boots in the winter.

I avoid pattern execept on dresses, I don't have time to make sure things go and am scarred by the "A line jazzy pattern skirt" FatFace stage.

Obviously until your DC is closer to 2.5, it's best to avoid dangly earrings and necklaces that can break easily - bracelets are good for making you feel like you've made an effort without risking harm to you or your DC.

Being a Mother is only part of who you are, dress for the person you are in total, not just one bit of it.

Wear anything you like, as long as it doesn't frighten onlookers. But please stop calling your poor child 'bubba'.