What is acceptable fashion for a mummy?

[ShanaMitchell]

I'm a young mum who has managed to get my body back to a state that I'm pretty happy with (but nowhere near as much as before, but who is right? It was all worth it for what I have now!). I haven't got a huge mum-tum or many stretch marks and I'm content with my size but many ladies my age are still rocking disco pants, high waisted shorts and other very-not-mummyish clothing that I just couldn't imagine wearing now I have a little one, as much as I'd really like to. I'm not saying crop tops and bum shorts... (I mean, I'm not 15) but the things I would style casually before bubba. So my question is: can a young mummy pull off clothes meant for her age without it being weird because she has a baby, or is that a red-zone, no-go area?

I mean, when you drink too much of it.

In 20 years' time you'll wish you did!

Ha! Maybe, cheers to that!

I've got this falling off the shoulder thing going on today

Slutty mummy

Haha skinnies I mean!

My style advice:

Don't wear coats or tops with metal zips. At some point you will gouge baby with the zip.

Dont wear spiky necklaces for the same reason.

Don't wear long earrings if you like having earlobes.

Bear in mind you'll probably spend a lot of time sprawled on the floor so try out your outfit in a floor seated position.

Anything else is fine.

I don't wear quite the same things as before kids. I used to wear a lot of mini skirts and dresses, but they're just not practical when you're on the floor with a baby/toddler (and I'm less confident in my body, even though I'm still skinny I have a saggy pot-belly - no more skin-tight dresses). I breastfed for quite a while too so that limited what I could wear for a while. I haven't worn white trousers for years either. Apart from those things, I wear what I like - clothes make me feel good.

oh and I have given up on delicate necklaces for the past several years

(ooh...shiny...pull...break...scatter)

Wear what you like OP

There will come a point when you realise:
You have worn the same knickers for 2 days,
You realise that the baby has thrown up all down your back,
That your favourite jumper will gather dust in a drawer as it makes the baby itch.

I take my hat off to you thinking about outfits. I just wear whatever jeans didn't get vommed on the previous day and accessorise my outfits with a fetching muslin draped over one shoulder.

A lot of you have been pretty bitchy here I have to say. There's really no need for it.
I understand where you are coming from op. I also had my child at a reasonably young age and felt like I probably lost a lot of my identity at the time. My child had special needs and hence a lot of hospital appointments etc where I needed to be taken seriously and didn't want to be judged for my age. I therefore dressed in a way that made me seem so much older. I did sometimes find it hard when my peers were going out in tiny dresses etc and I felt like I couldn't wear something like that as I was a Mum. So silly when I think about it now!
I look back now and wish I had been more true to myself and had worn what I actually really liked and reflected my personality, not what I thought the image of a good mother should be at the time. It's only now I'm in my thirties that I seem to have reached the stage where I actually don't care what anybody else thinks of how I dress and that I am so much more than just a Mother.

People on here are totally correct in that being a Mother shouldn't change how you dress Wear what you like and feel good in. Clearly when you're a Mum of young children you do often have to be practical with some of your choices, but honestly nothing should be out of bounds. It sounds like you have a lovely figure so make the most of it!

Today I'm wearing nipple tassels and a thong. Wipe clean and keeps all the attention on me the mummy and not my bubbas.

As pp have said, the only change in my style when the kids were very small was probably more of a focus on clothes I could sit on the floor in in comfort/without things gaping. Now they're a bit older I don't think my parental status plays any role in my clothing choices. The only reason I don't wear some of my pre-baby clothes is because of the child-induced visit from the boob fairy, which meant loads of nice dresses no longer fitted in the chest. :(

I had DD at nineteen. Before having her I wore geeky tops, jeans and converse. I came out of hospital wearing a geeky top, jeans and converse. Two years on I'm wearing a geeky top (Doge crossed with Game of thrones, "very winter much soon" if anyone cares), jeans and converse.

Maybe I should have taken having DD as my opportunity to start wandering around in a toga or a gimp suit or something exciting to reaffirm my young mum status.

Well right now I'm wearing pjs bottoms, a stripy top with a hole in it and mismatched socks. Totally rocking it too!

Wolf fleece 😂😂😂😂
Do they still sell these or was there just one big batch that is going in and out of charity shops all the time??

OP, wear what you want. I had DS1 when I was very young, I tried to dress older to be taken more seriously as a mother for quite a few years. However, 9 years on, my day outfits usually consist of black skinny jeans, plain grey/black/white vest top, choker necklace and leather jacket, with dr marten high heeled boots or black Nike free runner trainers. I've also bleached my hair platinum... I've lost the plot!

Ovaries I'm drinking out of a Doge mug. Much caffeine, many sips.

I know what you mean OP, my sister was a young mother and felt judged for it. She wasn't though, it was in her mind. Wear what makes you feel like yourself; it might take you a while to find out what that is but that shift in identity happens to most of us when we have a first baby, regardless of age.

I recommend a straight jacket, OP to stop you typing such bilge. Failing that, your school uniform and furry toes will do.

Tigger

I think some of you have been really nasty and bitchy towards the OP - shame on you S&B Board - I think you're generally all really nice (Remus etc).

OP - you do get mums wearing the Converse, skinny jeans, biker jacket combo with obligatory Boden breton striped top - these mums can vary from late 20s to 40s...

It's entirely up to you though - if one day you want to wear shorts and a vest top and its sunny with flats then go for it. If you want to wear something more concealing or revealing then go for it. what do your friends of a similar age wear?

I think puglife's suggestions are sensible and good.

Its also a question for me it would be do I want to spend ages getting stains (eg baby sick, baby food etc) out of eg a white blouse/top and ironing stuff that needs to be ironed or do I want more comfy moveable clothes?

There's a lot in eg River Island etc (joggers etc) that I'd wear if I were a young mum.

Just wear something that is comfortable and easy to care for (ie if baby throws up on it). I tended to stick to stuff that I could chase my kids around in, so jeggings, tops that didn't show my boobs off to all and sundry and converse or flats.

I'm now heading towards a dress and leggings stage due to the kind of work I do, but it's all horses for courses at the end of the day. Just wear what you want and have the confidence to pull it off.

The mums that look the best on the school run are the most individual. They ooze confidence and have their own style- regardless of age. I wish I had that myself...sigh!

Blimey there are some right old bitches on this thread tonight! Wear what you want to op,

The only wardrobe change I think needs to be made when you have a baby is to forget about wearing anything that is dry clean only - it's just not worth the hassle. Apart from that anything goes.