May wedding; partner wearing kilt

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Any suggestions about what to wear to a May wedding. My partner is planning on wearing a kilt. Should I try to match him a bit...or not?

I'm quite liking the green...bit nervous that it could go just right...or just wrong

There is a danger that the wrong green could end up looking very twee and matchy.

I'd keep it soft if going green.

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My DH wears a kilt lots for formal do’s. I have never, ever felt the need to match or consider what i was wearing. I just wear what i like. That is sort of how is done in the wilds of Scotland!

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My "go to" outfits for formal do's have tended to be black bluesky so I've never really considered it too much either. I wore the burgundy to a wedding to tone in with the kilt and the only other wedding he wore a kilt to was mine so I didn't try to match that either :)

And thinking about it I do have a long formal dress in burgundy too so maybe I've done it before as well but i can't think that was a conscious decision that time.

I like the MKFS dress best of all those options.

I'd go with a brightish blue, cobolt or royal blue, I think. The dress you were thinking of is fab.

this is quite nice

If you wear a kilt be 100% sure it isn't the same tartan as anyone in the wedding party, major fashion faux pas.

I have worn black dresses, red dresses, flowery dresses and striped dresses when DH has worn his kilt. Ooh and also a black and red spotty one. All fine.

I am Scottish and have never known anyone to try to match their dress to their partner's kilt! I would just wear whatever you think is nicest/most flattering. Although remember you will probably have to ceilidh dance in it!

I think actually trying to match your outfit to the kilt would be a bit of a faux pas and seen as trying a bit too hard.

ItsLikeRain, doesn't everyone just wear their family tartan? In which case how can it be a faux-pas to have the same one?

Perhaps Cheddar it would look like the laddie was bitter about being family but not part of the wedding party

Belt and waistcoat - now that's a faux pas!

Lol he's not family OR part of the wedding party...he's just a fella

is he wearing the fancy pants jacket....I really like the jacobean shirts, esp if he's not included in the wedding big nobs.

I think actually trying to match your outfit to the kilt would be a bit of a faux pas and seen as trying a bit too hard.

Really? I definitely wouldn't go too matchy but I really don't think there is such a thing as trying to hard when getting dressed up for a wedding - unless of course you try to outdo the bride/wedding party.

As I said before, I'd try not to clash and I think patterns can be difficult - but then I think that for weddings regardless - I prefer when you see the wedding photos to see the guests co-ordinating rather than clashing florals and geometrics in every colour - i'm a bit anal clearly :o

Not helpful but I've recently been to a wedding where the Scottish men wore kilts, it's such a handsome look.

Have you ever been to an occasion where your partner was in Highland dress previously? What did you do? Can he advise, assuming he's Scottish?

I never make any attempt to co-ordinate or not with my DH's kilt at weddings etc, no one does as far as I know. I have been to manyany kilted weddings and I have never once thought, or heard anyone else comment on, whether someone is matching their partner! Wear something you are happy with and it'll be fine.

TorrentialRain - yes I like a man in a kilt..my ex would never wear one so this is good. We went to a Burns supper together and DP wore a kilt. I wore black velvet and cream lace that night but I def want to be summery for the wedding. I think I'm just going to go for it without trying to be too matchy. Thanks everyone for suggestions!

I've never heard of wearing family tartan being a fashion faux pas. My dh wears his every chance he gets.

I wear whatever I want. I have to admit that the best photos were when I wore green. Dh's family tartan is similar to The Black Watch tartan though.

If you wear a kilt be 100% sure it isn't the same tartan as anyone in the wedding party, major fashion faux pas.

Totally disagree as a large proportion of people just wear their own family tartan - as a result even without random coincidence it would be very common to have people at a wedding but not part of the bridal party in the same tartan as fairly distant relatives will have the same tartan.

I've never considered matching my outfit to DH's kilt and am not aware of it being a thing.

I'm in Scotland and DP wears his family tartan to all weddings. I have never ever considered whether my outfit goes, it's just like a man wearing a suit or black tie here.

Do people really try not to clash with their partner's kilt .

Scottish here too, so have attended lots of weddings with kilted partners as have most women I know. I've never considered whether I'd "go" .

It's just like a man wearing a suit or black tie here.

But then I would probably wear black for a black tie do and if it was a suit event, i'd co-ordinate his tie to my outfit. Clearly I live in a different world to everyone else though :o

There have been threads before about it, yes. Some people seem to get very hung up on it indeed mind a lot.

There have also been threads where people have been desperately in search of coordinating dress for themselves and tie for husband. Honestly.

This OP is just gently musing on the subject compared to all that.