A dress or similar for my Mother's funeral. Am stuck.

[SirVixofVixHall]

This is in parallel to my thread about a dress for my DD (age 11).
Anyway. Am in the midst of grief and organising, and have nothing at all to wear. My weight goes up and down (thyroid probs) and at the moment I'm at the fat end, not helped by eating my bodyweight in biscuits while my mother was ill.
I'm size 12ish I think, in most things. I might need a 14 if the sizing was on the small side. I'm tall, and I have a small frame as I was a size 6-8 before the thyroid packed up. So a narrow back, but a big cup size. (28GG) I HATE my knees (chub) and anyway as I'm tallish things can be shorter on me, so I need a midi length. Would consider a maxi. I look better in grey than black but accept that it will probably need to be black, navy ok too. Or even a very dark green that I could wear under a black or grey coat. I have an old fashioned face, and look better in vintage, I don't do modern drapey type things, they don't suit me. I have been hunting for a 30s or 40s suit but no luck, so need to buy something new, and it will have to be online as I'm in the middle of nowhere.

If you've got through all that then i salute you! And I'm sorry to throw out the search but my brain is cotton wool, I'm exhausted from caring for my Mum as she was dying, and I want to look lovely for her. .

Sorry to hear about your loss

I have this dress in cobalt. And it's the most functional, flattering dress I've ever had. Non creasing, washable & drip dry, suits everyone I've ever lent it to! I was considering buying it in black for funerals/formal events

Sorry to hear about your loss

I have this dress in cobalt. And it's the most functional, flattering dress I've ever had. Non creasing, washable & drip dry, suits everyone I've ever lent it to! I was considering buying it in black for funerals/formal events

WindPowerRanger that poem is so lovely. I hadn't read it before, although I am v. fond of Seamus Heaney. Thank you so much for posting it.
And to everyone for all the help, support and kind suggestions.

I hope today is not too much of an ordeal . Thinking of you , and your lovely daughters . Stand tall and proud .

Glad you like the poem.

How about this, it is dark blue and loner length and a very forties look

dress

or even "longer"...

Thank you Jamie, i like that dress.
Well I've just got home, and I am worn out, but everything went well. The service was lovely, my daughter sang like an angel. My nephew did his reading really well. And I sang with my daughter. The flowers were unbelievably beautiful. I wore a Nancy Mac dress in the end. Not the one shown earlier as it arrived and didn't fit me properly. I was going to wear the 40s dress, but I woke up with a killer headache, and it is quite heavy, and weighty on the back of the neck, which tends to make headaches worse with me, so I went with another Nancy Mac dress that I already had, which is long, and black silk satin, but with a large flower print in a brownish colour. I had a black coat with little embroidered flowers. It was comfortable as its bias cut.
It felt horrible "leaving" my mother in the grave. Even though she is in with my Dad, and I know that she isn't there anyway, any more. Just walking away was the most difficult part of the day for me. That, and hearing my dd's sweet soaring voice, which floored me.
Thank you to everyone for all the kindness and good wishes, honestly it has helped and I've really felt the warmth and care of all you wonderful women.

The dress you wore sounds beautiful and I am sure looked stunning . What a sense of style you have, no wonder you worked in fashion. I am so pleased the service went well but know exactly what you mean about the finality of it all. A close friend said to me when she was dying "you don't have to stop loving me just because I am gone". I have taken great comfort from that and think of her often / talk to her sometimes .
Well done to your dd, such composure and poise . (Has she considered the National Youth Choir? My dd - now 20 - spent her teenage years in it and it was a life changing experience for her)
Take it easy today, you need to be kind to yourself after all your hard work in organising such a marvellous tribute to your mother .

I hadn't heard of the National Youth Choir, will have a google. She is in the school choir. We are in Wales, so we have the eisteddfod system which is really good for singing, both solo and chorally.

Well done my lovely.

Thank you Paradise, gonegrey and everyone. I feel bleakly sad today. But I am glad that the service was lovely.