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Do you get "hit on"?

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Jmangel · 06/04/2016 17:05

Following on from a thread yesterday, I realised I never get hit on. Now I'm 43 but even 20years ago, I wouldn't have been hit on in everyday scenarios. Yes I would have been approached in a club or bar, but not paying for petrol, whilst at work etc. So do you get hit on or not? I know we're supposed to be above all of this and not be validated by everyone else's opinion of us, but starting to think I am officially past it! I'm reading a really annoying book at the moment by Paula Daly, The mistake I made, and in it, the protagonist cannot move for romantic and sexual advances - So much so that it's beginning to grate as not realistic, but then maybe it is and it's just me that gets overlooked! If you reply to this rambling, please let us know you're age and what you would rate yourself out of 10 in attractiveness terms. I would rate myself 6/10 on a very good day!

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snickers251 · 06/04/2016 20:25

Early 30s and no never

My dh does get told he's punching above his weight and ask how he got me but he gets girls flirting with him a lot more than I get hit on so he can't be that bad lol

I don't care in the slightest. I probably wouldn't even notice someone hitting on me anyway

EnglishFern · 06/04/2016 20:47

No, never, and don't think I ever have been.

I have Bitchy Resting Face.

Bananajam · 06/04/2016 20:48

Yes, weirdly now I do in my mid 40's but never as a teenager/early 20's. I got stopped in the street and asked out and men where I work give me the eye but I'm happily married and don't encourage it. I don't think I'm particularly gorgeous, I would say average. It's not always flattering.

RunswickBay · 06/04/2016 20:55

Yes lots .. I think it's more to do with being smiley and confident as I get more attention now than 20 years ago. I'm more comfortable in my skin now.

Am quite tall, slim and quite confident.

I enjoy it at times but mostly I don't especially at work and when I'm out with friends and want to catch up with them not some random .

Twinklestein · 06/04/2016 20:58

Yes a lot but I look 15 years younger than I am. I find it just as annoying as ever.

I'm surprised how many guys are into older women (altho my husband says they don't realise I'm older than them).

Kenworthington · 06/04/2016 21:01

Haha no! I don't! Although I did get a fb message earlier from some woman in the U.S. (I'm on a caregivers group that's maknly us based) saying sorry for being stalkerish but she thought I was beautiful (and she had trawled through ALL my photos). She's seemingly married (to a man!). It was all a bit odd tbf

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 06/04/2016 21:08

I do on (rare) nights out, but otherwise I am usually carrying one or more screaming toddlers, which seems to put everyone off except nice women saying things like "hang in there". I don't get hit on at work because I work with DH. I'm 32.

MeganChips · 06/04/2016 21:12

All the time and I have no idea why! I'm ok looking and I scrub up well but I'm no supermodel.

All I can think of is I have a bit of a Sid James sense of humour so maybe I come across as flirty?

Snoopydo · 06/04/2016 21:20

Those of you who do get hit on in every day life, what does it involve? How does it go as I can't imagine it unless I am on a night out on the town.

PollyPerky · 06/04/2016 22:02

In my recent memory I've had men come up and talk to me when choosing things in shops (ie- oooh you should try XYZ, much better - with a glint in the eye), on trains- sitting next to me and asking where I live, am going etc and being a bit flirty, in shops when serving me, sitting on a river bank eating my sarnies while DH went to grab a coffee from a hut.....

They weren't overly leery but were making conversation.

lemonade30 · 06/04/2016 23:25

No, never.

Most men simply aren't brave enough

RunswickBay · 07/04/2016 13:16

Snoopy I've had men come up and say they think of me all the time, they think I'm beautiful, my husband is a lucky man, the odd marriage proposal and some more filthy ones bleugh!

I'm really nothing special.

mumofthemonsters808 · 07/04/2016 13:37

There is a difference in how we each interpret a "hit", for me to say I'd been hit on, it would be someone asking for my number and not someone just making polite conversation. I've met some women who insist a bloke fancies them, just because he has spoken to them, I've also met men who think because a woman has smiled, she physically wants them. I find it fascinating how we all interpret social signals differently and I think it correlates with self confidence.In answer to your question, the answers No.

Twinklestein · 07/04/2016 18:19

I agree that ordinary chatting is not being 'hit on'. For that a guy would have to ask for my number, ask me out, actively chat me up, flirt, pester, sexual comments etc.

oldlaundbooth · 07/04/2016 18:24

I'm far too hot to be hit upon.

Just kidding.

Well, at the time I don't realise it but afterwards I think to myself 'That fella was actually flirting with me'.

It's my fault a lot of the time though - I'm too friendly.

One of my major faults also is thinking men are gay that are actually straight. I tend to be more friendly with supposedly gay men, who turn out to be straight!

I need to just live under a nice cosy rock really.

Aducknotallama · 07/04/2016 19:32

I recently lost a lot of weight and now seem to get hit on a lot. Its pretty annoying especially at the gym and in the pool! Am 35 with a teenage ds and consider myself average looking. In terms of how you define 'hit on' I mean being asked out on a date or for my number.

sunnydayinmay · 07/04/2016 19:38

I think that I've always been lucky as I can sort of turn it on and off. So, I can be pretty invisible if I want to be, but if I want to I can turn it back on. Sort of volume control.

Friends used to laugh about it when I was younger, but it can be useful now.

That probably makes no sense. Hard to put into words.

SimonLeBonOnAndOn · 07/04/2016 19:41

I'm a chatty person so speak to lots of strangers male and femal, but don't think that equates to being hit on.
Don't think I've ever been hit on in the last 20 years.
I'm 43.

Pringlesandwine · 07/04/2016 19:47

Never used to when married and miserable. He told me I was overweight and unattractive and I believed him.
Now I'm with someone who tells me I'm beautiful and makes me happy, I get more attention from other men. It must be a confidence thing! And my smile which was missing for many years!!

Onsera3 · 07/04/2016 19:47

I've always been hit on. Hate it, makes me feel harassed. How bad it is depends on the country. My home country is not so bad. Italy is my worst. France quite bad. If say UK moderate/bad.

Doesn't seem to matter what you're wearing or if you have no makeup on at the gym.

A lot better now that I'm always with my young DC. Used to make me so uncomfortable.

Snoopydo · 07/04/2016 19:55

Oh. Whatever the definition that doesn't happen to me.

Obs2016 · 07/04/2016 20:09

No. Hardly ever, Even when I was young, not hit on. Can't even remember a time I was. Not like hit on/ chatted up in a club. Guess I'm just one of those. Had relationships and sex, but not really hit on.

Hadagutsful · 07/04/2016 20:25

Never. Seriously. Ever. But have been with DH since we were 17 and he's a catch (and improved with age) so I suspect I'm the scuzzy half of the couple where people are thinking "how did she land him??"

Also, I've been told I'm scary. Which I choose to take as a compliment. I'm confident and intelligent and witty. Oh and modest too.

coveredinhopeandvaseline · 07/04/2016 20:55

I used to get hit on all the time. The guy who played Charlie Stubbs in Corrie hit on me in the Angel Islington about 8 years ago.
But I am now 32, carrying 2 stone of baby weight and haven't been out in a lifetime...husband still hits on me though

MsBojangles · 08/04/2016 00:55

Nope, I can't begin to imagine what it must be like to have blokes requesting blow jobs the minute you step outside your front door

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