Spring is sprung, the grass is ris, I wonder where the crepeys is

[herbaceous]

As requested!

Oh Herbs ( are you still there?) well done ds, on stage prowess. I worked on a show of Oliver many years ago but could still tell you every scene and every song in order.

Auriga , I can't even imagine the pain you are going through. And BD as well. And over and over again too. Just unspeakable.you have both so much strength, and I wish you all the more in the weeks to come. You have my utmost admiration.

Addle, we were mid conversation on Saturday when I got distracted. ( doing waitress bit) I'm sorry about that, but look forward to chatting again, and maybe seeing you here for a long lunch someday? Likewise Mrs S. and Stropps ( we were only just getting down to the nitty gritty)

Rose, sorry you are feeling under the weather.I hope the day goes well in spite of sniffling.

Love to everyone having a shitty time atm.

Dh is is harrumphing about dds domestic set up and has decided on being predisposed to loathe the gf. I don't feel that at all dcrepeys. They are like two peas in a pod strangely my only concern is that dd is on an even keel, happy and working towards her degree, all of which are true. And she is still in touch with us. I think Dh is just going to have to get over it somehow. Not easy, I know.

I'm back! And haven't broken the computer! It does seem to be working faster now, so I'm evidently an IT genius.

Vexing but petty friends issue, referred to in the past, but must just re-vent. I went to university with two women, S and C. Both are still good friends. They see each other quite a lot. There are also lots of other mutual university friends.

If I go out with any of the other university friends, S and C want to be invited too, and if they're not kick up an almighty stink (saying I do it deliberately to hurt them, etc). Yet they meet up with uni friends without inviting me. I was not invited to S's birthday party, while others were, and yesterday discovered that they had both been to visit another mutual university friend 'a few times'. Never mentioned it before.

Now, I don't mind them doing stuff on their own - it's not possible to include everyone in everything. But why one rule for me, and one for them? S nearly ruined my birthday by having a hissy fit that I hadn't invited her to the v small lunch (for people she mainly didn't know) I was having the day after the party...

In Farming News, we have two new Minature Shetland ponies in the next door field ( like the one in the Amazon Ad) omg I am in rapture. They are beyond adorable. Molly !!!! Pictures to follow.

I really must do domestic chores now and not gaze into next doors field

ADORABLE!!!!!!

Apparently - get this - aunt was speaking to her (lovely) daughter at my parents', then asked to speak to my mum, and said immediately to her "I really don't want you to go to a hospice but I can't convince MI".

My mum went ballistic at her. But wtf? How the hell dare she give the impression I am trying to force my mother into something?? I do - and my sister does - feel v strongly that a hospice would be preferable to their home. But it's not some kind of grim isolation ward, ffs.

Very cute, Crem.

Herbs - I wouldn't call adults who behave like that friends. Just so childish to carry on like that.

Sorry to rant.

Herbs, I would be v cross too.

They are moving mum today...... Hooray....

MI - cross posted with yours.

Your family really take the for interference & meddling. Poor you, you must be at your wit's end with them all.

BD - That's great news - am hoping it is somewhere suitable for you & the rest of the family?

MI that is just so out of order! My god who do some people think they are?!?

Magi - close-ish and recommended....... Hopefully we can get dad onto an even keel...

Hurrah, BD!

Indian family, innit. Mind you, friend of a friend apparently had Mexican (I think it was) extended family ringing up to shout Hail Marys.

Thank goodness, BD that's great.

MI for crying out loud, what's it got to do with them. Butt out!

It's like, I have to do all sorts of mollifying should I inadvertently leave one of them out, yet they quite freely tell me 'oh yes, I saw xxx the other day' and I'm somehow not credited with the same feelings of being left out as they are. I feel I should say something next time it happens, but not sure what...

And GRRRRR on your behalf, MI. Who the hell do they think they are! As you haven't got enough to worry about, without the PA machinations of aunts.

And BD - this is good news. Hopefully a bit of certainty will bring some peace of mind.

MI - you have to take a laugh when you find it - the ringing up to shout Hail Marys is a wonderful tale (not for the poor person it was inflicted on, though).

Crem - even keel, working and happy....who could want more. I think you are on the money and am happy for you...and OMG how gorgeous!

MI, blimey, if the biscuits hadn't already been taken, then this does!

herbs, agree they don't sound like friends.

Herbs they are babies and they are controlling you. Just adopt their casual attitude to it and arrange to see who you want. If they question it (like they're so important...not!), just be breezy about it ..."Oh yes....I saw X yesterday...." I'd be boiling too. If they launch into the shite about being hurt at being left out, I'd be inclined to try and get across that they're not quite as important as they seem to think they are!

MI oh goodness. It's one thing the rellies interfering and saying stuff. It's another thing when they completely misrepresent you and put the wrong spin on everything. I have no idea how one should handle this...maybe by quietly saying "I'm sure that's something that DM can decide for herself with support from me, Dsis and DF"

Cremo I think people differ a lot in the time it takes to accept things....

BD fingers crossed for your DM's move.

My head is full of cotton wool...I have gotten through the class somehow, hopefully with no one noticing I'm not firing on all thrusters. I now have to go to this meeting on theatre finance...WAAAaaaaaa Have taken heavy duty pain killers. Rats.....I am so intolerant of illness.

Cremo, you have ponies in a field next door??? I have been living in London too long!

Herbs, well done on the IT front. Maybe you should become more thespian with these friends and do unto them as they do to you. Ie kick up a big stink and cry to them when you find out that they have met up without you?

MI

And BD, hoooooooray! So pleased to hear that

Herbs - say what you have said here. Point out that you don't seem to count, and you are tired of being berated and having to be careful of their feelings when they aren't careful of yours. Tell them this is NOT how friends behave...

Actually, BD's advice is spot-on!

Thank you ladies - both for your advice, and confirmation that I'm not being a big old drama llama. I just can't bear this kind of schoolgirl crap. Didn't get it when I was 15, and certainly don't want to have to deal with it now. I'm sure they have 'issues', but that isn't my problem!

Hola, guapas! Sorry to miss the fun on Saturday. AM suffering from a horrid virus which I can't seem to shift. Been a week now. Am unable to swallow or speak very well, plus it's in my ears now so my (already poor) hearing is even dodgier. Still, I am sure I will mend...

Rudy, sorry things are stressful and upsetting. Hope things calm down soon. Thinking of you .

Sorry, too, to read the latest updates from MI and Auriga. The aged parent gig is a very poor one indeed. BD, hope your mum is comfortable and things settle for your dad very soon. Hope you can have a good day on Wednesday post exam.

Crem, the ponies are so sweet. I think you are right to accept DD and her GF as is. I can see it must be hard for your DH if he is traditional, though, but as you say she is working, in touch, well and happy. Maybe it will last and maybe it won't but at least it is not getting in the way of her degree and seems to be allowing her happiness at the moment.

Herbs, they sound a bit toxic and a bit childish. I struggle when grown up women behave worse than a bunch of ten year olds. I also have friends like that who are very divisive and I feel sooooooo much better when I give them a wide berth.

Rose, hope you feel better soon.

I have done so little today. I need to galvanise myself. I had a look at the clothes in Sainsbury's today and they didn't inspire me alas. However, the trousers of truth are a tad looser so perhaps things are moving in the right direction....

Til later, crepeys

In S & B news, do we like these

Or how about these ? Too Sandy from Grease?