Crepe Oddity

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Sorry.

DD2 is 12 (weeps)...

I am going to frighten DreamQueen away now with my terrible confession, but I quite enjoyed nit combing especially with one of those zappers. Do you have dc, DreamQueen (if you want to say)? I have two late teens, mostly nit-free!

MI, is there any way you and your dsis can tell these rellies that you are both charging around, will be missing messages and you will be in touch if there is any news. It just sounds exhausting and you have other priorities (my dsis and I had to pull the drawbridge up a bit in this way and ignore people, or they would have bled us dry, while thinking they were helping/sharing/discussing hospital car parking - ignore this suggestion if it falls into that category!).

Lalsy, I am trying to adopt your excellent advice. I'm not being tough enough with people who ring me mid-afternoon. Or Skype messages asking me why my mum isn't answering her phone

Good luck, MI (we recorded a message for our answerphone saying we wouldn't return calls and no news was no news - how technologically quaint does that seem now?). Can you still buy those electronic nit zappers? - I found them good for rage venting as well as delousing!

DD2 had hideous nit infestation the other week, and she is nearly 15. Waist length, thick curly hair is unhelpful (and yes, I have taken the kitchen scissors to it before when she has had nits).

Spent today in a long workshop with inadequate lunch (only salads - I was starving by 3). All of the great and the good chose to attend the session I was chairing/facilitating, which initially made me quite nervous, but I told myself to MTFU, and it worked really well, as they all had lots to say, and all I had to do was steer them along to make sure we finished on time with a nice summing up of the way forward. I also delegated the writing up of the session to one of them, so win-win as far as I was concerned.

For those of you who are unable to tolerate NSAIDs orally, there is always the suppository route...

My insomnia is due to a large cat who wants to sleep on me, preferably on my head. He gets sent back to his blankie, but as soon as he knows I am asleep, creeps up the bed.

Sounds like a triumph, MrsS.

My insomnia is occasionally dog-related, when ddog is overcome by an urgent need to clear the garden of foxes in the middle of the night.

Well sweet dreams and a good nights sleep to all.

I'm safely tucked up at a friends house in Surrey ( as always on Mondays, I have my night away from home!) and we have shared all worries, aspirations, family gossip and a bottle of wine so all good. I'm very very full of cold so will be sneezing my way back into London tomorrow!

Laisy I'm happy to say that all my nit days are behind me. I have a son who will be 30 this year. luckily for some reason I found that boys didn't get nits as much as the girls in school did, so never really had to do the combing thingy!
hopefully today will be better than yesterday & the very frustating stuff that the internet kept knocking me off will work today. fingers crossed.
Crem your beach looks so lovely!
MrsS I couldn't cope with cat sleeping on my head either. DS has a dog that I mind sometimes, dog insists on sleeping in the bed. Warm in the winter but too hot in summer.

I am now going to grumble. (Bear with me.) It is DD1’s birthday. She hasn’t wanted a huge amount – couple of things to which she sent us links, and to have a few friends round for supper. I HAVE SORTED ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING. I know DP has been busy but it has probably not escaped his notice that I’ve had quite a few things preoccupying me too. I asked him to do the online ordering; he didn’t, and then got all “I will, I will, you don’t understand how busy I am” on me. I didn’t, of course, have to cook for tonight – we’d previously agreed to get takeout, but running up a mattar paneer on Sunday took me all of five quite enjoyable minutes – but I did have to think about it all and, you know, ask her what she’d like to do/eat/etc. The killer was when she was opening a few presents from us at breakfast (oh, and I think my DSis has, quite uncharacteristically, forgotten) and DP said “oh, hang on, that’s from DD2 and she’d like you to open it later”…it wasn’t. It was from us. I knew this because I’d ordered it.

I know DP is weird about birthdays and doesn’t understand Fuss. (He didn’t give me anything for my first birthday after we’d got together, saying vaguely he supposed he could order me a few books online - and then I got distracted by a positive pregnancy test anyway). But I resent – and have told him so, except it gets subsumed into All He Is Doing In Other Ways – having to do all the thinking about a nice birthday for a charming 15 year old who is really very little worry and he ought damn well to appreciate. Not to speak of a nice 52 year old whom he also ought to appreciate.

MI I feel your pain.... Dp is a bit like this except he does go on the mile on my birthday (breakfast in bed, pressie, dinner, cake) He does tend to leave ds to me but I think I generally know what ds wants. But yes the lack of engagement makes me very stabby.....

MI, yep. He could have just sorted it, and you would have had a little bit more brain space and time.

Gave up years ago with DH & presents. I've always done DS & just give large hints/Amazon wish list for myself.

I am fed up with winter. It's been grey, wet & windy for ever. And one minute I feel cold, so turn the heating up & then it's too hot & I get in a lather. Winter can just bugger off. Now.

MI - can so relate to birthdays (and Christmas) and doing all the work plus not feeling valued. I had a serious falling out with MiL a few years back when she tild DD2, aged 10 that she was spoilt for expecting presents and cake on her birthday!

I think sometimes bits of DP’s upbringing (sent back to England from the US to be brought up by his grandmother when he was a baby, as both his parents were PhD students and already had a toddler: then later on sent to boarding-school) really show. (No doubt my own spectacularly dysfunctional upbringing shows too, mind.) There is day to day enjoyable stuff that he just doesn’t notice. The fact that if it’s your birthday it’s nice to have a supper you particularly like and a few friends round to watch Pitch Perfect 2. And having been a rather subdued young man at boarding-school he also doesn’t appreciate the fact that DD1, despite being gorgeous and ebullient and popular, is also very, very little trouble. I don’t mean she should be rewarded for not being very little trouble, but I do think it would be nice if he noticed.

There's a fascinating link I picked up from the 'incompetent husbands' thread, which talks about emotional energy, which I think is what is sometimes forgotten by dh's around the world. Makes interesting reading, I think.
drive.google.com/file/d/0B0UUYL6kaNeBTDBRbkJkeUtabEk/view?pref=2&pli=1

God knows if that works from a phone!

All this talk of nits is giving me an itchy head.

I need to go to an optician. My distance vision is now nearly as fading as my near sight. But where to go? SpecSavers? Or a dear local specialist. I fear once I see expensive frames, a pair of £50 SS numbers aren't going to cut it...

I've used specsavers for ages & have been very happy with them.

I always look in the mens' section as well as the womens, as they often have some nice ones & tend to be cheaper.

These are very similar to mine & I love the fineform range as they are so light. I've had this pair for nearly 2 years & they are still going strong. With vari focal lenses, anti scratch coat & the various discounts they always seem to offer they came in at about £275 all done.

Get them tested, get your prescription and start looking around. I still haven’t settled on frames but am going to check in www.cubitts.co.uk/ here when they get the new smallish cat-eye frame they’re due to receive. I particularly like the way frames have optional colours.

Oh dear. Cubitts is very lovely, isn't it. Damn and blast.

herbs glasses direct online will let you try on 4 different frames at home. I've used them before & found them good. I get my prescription & upload it to them.

I use specsavers as when I break my glasses, which happens regularly, I can get them sorted wherever I am. They have very pricey ranges, if that is your bag. My local one also seems to operate as a community care outpost, with lots of lost souls being allowed to sit around in the warmth bantering with nice kind people. I like that.

Pricey isn't my bag, no. I'd seen some perfectly nice ones on SpecSavers website, but then made the error of clicking on the Cubitts link. I'm getting my eyes tested later today, and will then no doubt dither some more about what to do. My current, reading, glasses are just el cheapos, as I don't wear them 'in public', but if I'm splashing out on varifocals, I want them to be just right!

I'd be a bit wary of buying varifocals on line, as I always find that mine need at least one adjustment before they fit properly. Fit is vital for varifocals.

Definitely! When I got varifocals I was there for hours. Then a very firm assistant took me in hand and told me my head is massive and there were only two options anyway .

My ex-optician friend said just that. She also said that 'these days', bifocals aren't as hideous as they used to be. I'm not sure I could cope with the shame.