Crepe Oddity

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Sorry.

Oh, BTM. How grim.
Everyone has always said DD1 looks like me, from when she was a new baby. (Except for DP’s mum and her sister, who insisted she looked like that grandmother.) With my characters, I think it’s going to be the general look of the nose and mouth. It’s just a suspicion – there are a lot of unfinished stories, which I want to leave ambiguous.

Cremo enjoy!

Rose many thanks for the offer.

I am home tonight for a difficult family conversation tomorrow. Decisions need to be made.

I am currently hammering through a tonne of work in a 'that will have to do' way.

happy hol Crem

Sorry to read about everyone coping with aged parents.

I have a diary but rarely remember to fill it in, tend to use my phone or think I'll rememer stuff but invariably i don't.

We have a bread bin but bread end up on the top of it (I suspect that is dp being lazy)

MI it's gait in our family - my dbro and ddad walk the same. Ds whilst looking like me, has dp's hair line and finger nails......

I have done more work this morning than in a while - very productive in a 'don't care' kind of way. It was also not present reading anonymous feedback and trying to work out if it was me they were bitching about - some of them were incredibly rude......

Palliative care nurse postponed her visit till Monday. Instead, I've spent ages chasing up the stair lift/ bed lever /emergency alarm. I've given my mother's details over & over again in order to be put through to the wrong person four or five times & leave messages on several wrong answering machines.

Lesson learned: I should not have let that OT out of this house without getting all her contact details. She has done two out of the five things she said she'd do & I'm left with no way of following up the others.

Still, DM has actually expressed some appreciation of the new chair, much safer & better for her back.

Elsewhere on MN, lots of threads and a web-chat to trigger more misery. Think I need to hide all the threads except this one. unless there is a thread full of funny cat and dog pics?

Crem Have a FANTASTIC time

White sauce...isn't that what the sieve was invented for? The 'Cook' Mac and Cheese was delicious by the way...way better than any I would have made. Highly recommended.

Features in common...sometimes it's the mannerisms that give it away...I don't know if that's nature or nurture though

Our bread ends up on or in front of the bread bin because everyone's too darn lazy to throw away the mouldy remains of the previous loaf, putrifying inside.... See Waf you're not as nuts as you think...Oh and smells, being a witch, (which I am...) I have been cursed with a highly sensitive sense of smell and go round the house Febrezeing everything and everyone. Thinking of hiring a Portaloo for the garden for DH and DS.....the Victorians know what they were about, didn't they... with that outside privy.

I still have my trusty file o fax...but I do agree with you Dreamqueen One does actually have to write in it,and look in it occasionally !

Tilly I got lots of invaluable help, advice and support from Monty when we were forced to see that care homes were the only option. Good person to have a mini MU with for loads of reasons! Are you there, Monty?

Auriga even the community OT's usually have a base at the local hospital. I'd be clogging up their line until I got what I wanted. You poor thing...how stressful but good about the chair.

We have a family night out with some friends to hear jazz locally at our theatre. The saxophonist played in the band with DS2 for the xmas show and he wanted to see the former play in his own jazz band for a birthday outing. I am making a cake to take with.

I have wall calendar Rudy - a month at a view - like that I can direct operations.

I can make cheese sauce - one of the few things I can do efficiently; mac cheese being much demanded in this house. Bread on top of the bread bin though.

Magi - fabulous idea to go away for a month - the DC's have expectations of a traditional christmas though.

MI - in France they just say a "family air" if you can't put your finger on why people look similar - something about the configuration of the features.

Did overtime with the older class today I asked the little blighters which one was Luke and they all pointed at each other. Also lots of blue paint sloshed about. I am definitely in need of wine.

MI - my FB picture is me and my cousin if you want to spot any family likenesses. I agree with mannerisms - my cousin, who grew up not knowing our grandmother at all, has so many of her mannerisms - as do my mother and I. Maybe an odd turn of phrase - some expression used by family years back?

I have had an utterly shit week at work - well, mostly today - and felt today that I cannot do this job - it is completely beyond me. I think it is the constant undermining of my confidence by my boss. I am used to running my own show, and she won't even let me send an email without clearing it through her. I cocked something up minorly today - I have to write a paper, and she didn't give me a deadline, and it's much closer than I thought. I have been sucked into facilitating a session at a workshop on the south coast on Monday, which I could really do without. And they've moved the session, so that it now starts at 1730, and finishes at 1930, so goodness only knows when I am going to get home. She keeps asking me for my "thoughts" on everything, and I am just not getting anything substantive done. One of the problems this week was that she was out of the office for one day, which meant she wasn't there to clear stuff with urgent deadlines, so I took charge. She has now emailed round everyone saying that she needs to look at the stuff I cleared and it should not be sent further up the food chain. Most people have come back and said "tough" (fortunately) and agreed with what I said, but there is just no trust. And I am not sure there ever will be. Apparently she was like this with my predecessor (who was killed in a hideous accident, so I can't ask her for advice) and others. So being logical, I should say "it's not entirely me", but logic has gone, unfortunately.

Magi, I think that is a great idea.....you won't mind if assorted crepeys pitch up will you ?

MrsS, strewth, are these awful bosses home grown or have they been shipped in from somewhere else ?

An 'accident' you say, Mrs S...

I have PM'ed you Herbs. Boss had nothing to do with the accident!

Lalsy - she's an import.

Ooh, a Crepey Christmas....bliss.

Mum back home. Now adding palpitations to list of ailments. I am worn out.

BD, thinking of you.

Bit of a rubbish day here. Wish I could cry but I can't, dunno why. But DH has been great, running around after DD and helping her to squeeze in two days-worth of commitments. And DDog was good on her walk. And DM liked her dinner

Hope the wafting is going to start soon :)

MrsS sorry if I've been in a time warp but isn't the new job quite, er, new? If boss very anxious and defensive normally, may feel she could be criticised for leaving you in charge/unsupported? Only guessing but it does sound like quite a persecutory culture and that would be a familiar dynamic in parts of the NHS. Good that people stuck up for your decisions & of course that also suggests that you can indeed do the job (and hers).

Herbs, did you suggest what I think you suggested ?

Btw please may I pick the brains of the (many) of you who are versed in literary theory? What's the correct term for the fallacy where you judge someone by the prevailing mores of your own day rather than theirs?

Ah...I'd just say anachronistic. It is something I wrestle with in my own writing.

I think I have read another term, used more specifically in historical contexts about what is in someone's head/what they could have known or experienced (eg discussion of anti-semitism and what it meant before and after ww2). But I can't remember what it is [helpful]. Is this more Kipling, Auriga?

Hmm, Auriga not sure.

Day one in the big Wafting Adventure.
Have reached Paris, after a day of faffing and howling gales and delays. Rather funky Paris hotel quite bulging with Les Americains. ( ahem, noisy) Having a verre to persuade selves into restful sleep uninterrupted by Crem cat up side my head with purrs so LOUD it sounds like gunfire.Non, complete peace. Later we will be practising for the Tropics as there seems to be no Cold air con, just Baking, Mildly Baking or Lightly Flambéed. Had a small, flirt with Le Barman. About 17, and clearly used to easily persuading older ladies into expensive glasses of Chambord kir Royales. Me, oh no I had an orange juice .
Til tomorrow Waftees.
Crem

Sounds like bloody good start, Crem.

Lalsy, yes, Kipling

I am cream crackered and not a little inebriated.

Excellent evening out with the footy crowd; DS was elsewhere in town at a party, but then walked up to the bar where we all were, with a couple of mates. Asked for a Jagerbomb (got a lemonade), then dragged us outside to the car to drive home. I've a feeling this is a taste of what's to come ("come on, mum, it's last orders, where's your coat, time to go home").

Hooray for Dry January - DH was driving. Alas, it's nearly February.

Back from evening out at local Thai place with NCT gals. Despite consumption of bottle of prosecco to self, don't feel too pissed. However, chickens may come home to roost tomorrow.

Pressured tutee's pushy mother has cancelled tomorrow, and for the 'next few weeks', saying his sister is going to tutor him. Hmm. Good luck with that.

Happy wafting, Crem.

Crem - you should have told me - I'd have come and found you.

Happy wafting from me too.

Had wine last night, crashed out and then woke in the night worrying about DD2 who with final year stress has lost the plot a bit and is depressed with consequent lowering of school grades.

Oh God MrsS that sounds grim. Friend of mine has resigned because of a similar biss. She's currently on Mat leave and he realised he just couldn't bear the thought of her coming back....
You do know this says waaaaay more about her than you? I know it's tough to hang on to that thought. The damage some people can do to others is criminal.
Will OM you later.
Saw mum last night - she told me she loved me sob. But looks so frail and has clearly had enough. I also think being on a ward is not good for - people coming and going all the time, too bright and hot and all that. She spent a hour holding the hand of the husband of the patient in the next bed the other day....