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Have you any regrets about your wedding?

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MNetter15 · 11/01/2016 16:05

Dress, hair, make up, etc?

I regret haing a spray tan. I'm pale and my mum I always blame my mum insisted that I needed a spray tan. The tan itself was fine and I had 2 practise tans in the weeks before it, but I look utterly ridiculous in the photos with my pale DH and our DC . Also, it was patchy in between my fingers, so the one photo that I really wanted of our hands/rings looks silly although the photographer did a lovely job in black and white.

Everything else was fine, no regrets but I just wish I hadn't had the tan!

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Tutt · 11/01/2016 20:48

Only a couple of things.
I wish someone had thought to check the back of my dress to make sure the modesty panel was in place after I was 'done up' so that my knickers and massive tattoo weren't on display all day and night!
That I had listened to my instincts when the restaurant said it could happily accommodate 50 people and have space, then I wouldn't have had to crawl under the bloody table to go to the loo! We were all practically on each others laps!
To have had a photographer who listened to what I wanted and not have the stuffy boring photos that I didn't want.
To have bought the dress I fell in love with when I went shopping with my best friend but didn't go back to the shop as Mum didn't like the exterior of the shop and I didn't want to upset her by telling her I'd found the 'one' without her. She paid for it bless her and I'm her ony child, didn't want to take the excitement from her.
To have told my Dad to fuck off and not come after he and my SM were really bloody nasty when we told them we were getting married and I was told they wouldn't be contributing towards 'that' wedding ( first and only time I've married and I was 40), he didn't come in the car with me and didn't want to sit at the table with me nor did he do a speech All of which he did at my brothers plus he paid for my brothers!) and he left early. Didn't talk to any guests and let my brothers GF bad mouth me to my friends... until they put her straight.

Apart from that it was fab as I married my best friend and had all my friends there at the expense of my family.

Lambzig · 11/01/2016 20:50

I regret wearing knickers. My dress was a silk satin bias cut thirtiesish style dress and I wore a flesh coloured g string underneath. Every colour photo where I am standing up you can see my knickers.

cowbag1 · 11/01/2016 20:59

I wish I'd returned the designer heels that DH bought me as a treat because they crippled me. They were beautiful so I kept them but only lasted until halfway through the photos before I changed to flats. So my dress is too long on some pics (but looks nice in a kind of laid back, carefree way!).

I was also holding my dress awkwardly to keep it out of the puddles. You can see the hoop underneath and it annoys me when I look at some of the photos.

BlueEyedWonder · 11/01/2016 21:15

I was relatively young - 24 - when I got married.
I wish I'd had the confidence to go and get my make up done professionally instead of just doing it myself.
Other than that nothing and I doubt my husband would say this!

BennyPoo · 11/01/2016 21:27

I regret the white tights...I still cringe when I see the pic of me showing my garter with all the men looking on...my leg looks like a white leg of lamb with a horrid blue band around it! And i would love to have had my makeup done professionally, but it wasn't the done thing 32 years ago!

VocationalGoat · 11/01/2016 21:30

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Sgtmajormummy · 11/01/2016 21:32

I wish we'd had a professional photographer.

We both had several enthusiastic relatives jostling for the role of official photographer and in the line-ups everybody is looking in different directions!

But now, twenty years later, it really doesn't matter.

emwithme · 11/01/2016 21:43

I would've had a proper Cathedral-length veil rather than the little birdcage I went for.

I would've warned DH that I wasn't wearing white/ivory/cream (I wore the most fabulous red dress).

OpenMe · 11/01/2016 21:49

I'd go much smaller and simpler. My wedding was quite simple by some standards but there were too many people (family) I barely knew and although my dad paid (30 years as, things were different!) it Costa lot and I dont really understand what the point was.

Still happily married and I'm sorry but if that's the biggest/most important/best day in a lifetime, something's gone wrong

Hangingbasket14 · 11/01/2016 21:49

I tried my dress on a while ago to see if I still loved it and I did. I got married 6 years ago and avoided all the lace that was about and went for something silk, plain and beautifully made, I hope I feel the same way in 10 years! I loved my hair and make up too, however drunk too much and invited some people out of duty that I shouldn't have bothered with.

Lumihiutale · 11/01/2016 22:10

I wish I'd had a petticoat for my circle skirted dress, would have made it look a bit more bridal. Wish I'd worn heels, even if just for the ceremony bit then changed into my flats later for dancing.

Wish we'd got some family photos. Our photographer was a relative and actually did a really fantastic job - one of her candid shots is my favourite photo ever of me and dh - but we didn't discuss exactly what shots we wanted taken so there are none of dh and I with our children for example, or me with my mum.

StellaAlpina · 11/01/2016 22:17

Boob tape to stick strapless bra on! Ended up with a weird blister/chemical burn thing and a scar that took six months to fade

annandale · 11/01/2016 22:20

Wish I'd had a more religious wedding, which is a bit odd considering I'm much more of an atheist now. But we did a strange mashup of secular and two religions and I wish we'd gone a bit more hardcore about certain things. In particular I wish dh had smashed a glass under his foot, that's the one thing that Gentiles know about Jewish weddings and I would have liked to have it.

I wish we'd had a buffet, not a sit down meal. The seating plan was really difficult and i don't think many people had a good time during the meal.

Happymummy007 · 13/01/2016 16:18

I wish I'd had a longer veil. Had a floor length traditional white dress, very pretty, but with a shoulder length veil to hold some crystals in place in my hair. I would hope that if my DD gets married she would have a long veil to swish about.

Murloc · 13/01/2016 16:32

I'd have asked MIL to remove her sunglasses. She wore them all day, even in Church, huge reflective wraparound Robocop style sunglasses. They looked fabulous with her dress and hat, I can tell you.

burnishedsilver · 13/01/2016 17:06

I regret having a traditional wedding. So much unnecessary fuss and drama. If I had my time over I'd go low key.

goodnessgraciousgoudaoriginal · 13/01/2016 17:12

Not a regret as such, as it did look lovely, and as far as wedding dresses go it wasn't the most expensive one, but if I were to do the whole ting again I would have not got my dress from a bridal boutique. I would have got one from Phase 8 or a fancy one from Nordstrum or something.

Could have saved a good few hundred quid, and to be honest, I don't think it would have made any difference whatsoever!

RubyReins · 13/01/2016 17:30

Oh I looked appalling! My mother chose my dress, shoes etc and I just went along with it all. My hair was the most overdone updo with about 400 pins in it but it still fell down outside the church. The dress was too big on me and looked bloody dreadful. She hired a make up "artist" who made me look like a clown at the trial run and thankfully mother dearest agreed that it was a mistake - did my own and I am pretty good at make up. But I have no photos at all as I genuinely looked so ridiculous. I hate seeing the portrait shots that litter my parents' house - would do everything (style and beauty-wise together with a few other things) differently now.

allegretto · 13/01/2016 17:54

Almost everything! I was pregnant, not well and let my mum organize everything. It wasn't bad but it wasn't me. I also tried my dress on and bought it in about 30 minutes as we were rushed for time. I don't regret the choice of groom though!

hangingoutattheendofmywick · 13/01/2016 18:58

I wish I hadn't asked a toxic "friend" who isn't truly my friend. I've suspected this for a long time - but gave her benefit of the Doubt. Some people aren't really happy for you at all when you're happy.

Sidge · 13/01/2016 20:41

Not S&B but I wish I hadn't let my mum push me into having my Grandad give me away instead of my dad (they were divorced when I was young and my dad lived thousands of miles away, but travelled over for my wedding).

I'll never forgive myself (or her).

hugoagogo · 13/01/2016 21:41

lamzig wouldn't it have looked worse with no knickers!

I don't think I would change a thing about our wedding- we eloped, maybe it would have been nice if dh had not been wearing my socks, but then he wouldn't be my dh.

Lightattheend · 13/01/2016 21:52

Had a lovely low key wedding, close family, no dress (trouser suit), no flowers, own hair and makeup, no speeches, no photographer. Loved it all, but my only regret was no cake. Should have had a cake!

Dowser · 13/01/2016 22:47

Loved mine. Did my own hair, make up and nails. No fuss. A beautiful knee length dress. Silver and white sandals and a bit of nibbling. On the beach in tenerife at 7 pm and still nicely hot.
25 friends and family.
Was determined it would be different from my first dull, dreary and wet wedding in a horrible modern church and reception in a community centre.

That's how it rolled then 40 years ago I'm afraid.

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