Have you any regrets about your wedding?

[MNetter15]

Dress, hair, make up, etc?

I regret haing a spray tan. I'm pale and my mum I always blame my mum insisted that I needed a spray tan. The tan itself was fine and I had 2 practise tans in the weeks before it, but I look utterly ridiculous in the photos with my pale DH and our DC . Also, it was patchy in between my fingers, so the one photo that I really wanted of our hands/rings looks silly although the photographer did a lovely job in black and white.

Everything else was fine, no regrets but I just wish I hadn't had the tan!

Kind of. My dress was beautiful but perhaps wasn't the best style to flatter my height and shape. It also didn't allow me to wear my hair down and it's one of my best features.

I'd do it differently if I had my time again.

I wish I had checked out the hairdresser more and not just relied on my mother's crap reccomendation.

I wish I had not had the receiving line. But I did it for my parents, so I couldn't really change it.

And I wish we had actually got the photographer we asked for. We saw lots of lovely pictures from a photographer, booked them, they sent their partner, who was utter crap.

I regret not losing weight. My dress fitted perfectly, but I just felt like a blob. I also regret not having a full photo list and kind of winging it on the day, I've missed out on so many pictures.

I wish I'd had a more special dress. Mum insisted on buying it and I knew she was strapped for cash so I 'chose' a sale rail quite old fashioned dress which was a bit big for me rather than the really elegant grown up dress I secretly loved.
Also I regret not having a special photographer rather than asking a family friend - there are a few people who didn't make it into the photos...

Setting a budget for the flowers. They were lovely but I'd have been happier with less and paying less.
Having champagne for the top table whilst the rest drank sparkling wine. No-one even realised it was quality stuff and MIL doesn't drink anyway.
Cheese and biscuits after dessert, mostly left untouched. Wouldn't bother.
Also would have liked a video of the day but thought it was naff at the time. Wish we had one now.

i regret the dress. Strapless. I also wish I had put my mark more firmly on the day, I was a single mum when I got married and had no money, so felt I couldn't be demanding about what I wanted. It was a lovely day, with children and lots of people, actually thinking about it, it is mainly the dress I regret. But weddings aren't like Christmas which you can kind of perfect over the years, you usually only have one wedding, so it's hard to get it all right.

wouldn't wear that white jacket again, huge puffed shoulders although for the decade it was appropriate. Honest.

got lots of wear out of the dress since.

and happily, made the right choice for the important bit.

If I could go back in time, I would not have invited a particular 'friend' to be a bridesmaid. She was really unpleasant on the run up, and even worse on the day. She did several things that still make me mad/sad 25 years later.
I have not seen her since my wedding day. No confrontations, no rows, she just never contacted me again. I tried once or twice, but gave up. Just hate that she is in so many of the photos. :(

I would have had a video. I really didn't want one- thought it would never be watched and I would feel self conscious.

My dad passed away recently. I wish I had the video for his speech and walking down the aisle with him

Could have worn a better dress. Was a very casual informal wedding and I was so determined that I wasn't going to look bridal that I think I went too far the other way. Wouldn't go for the full meringue but I do feel I missed out on not wearing a long dress and a tiara!

Not exactly a regret, although I did waste a huge amount of time. I spent months carefully selecting the music I wanted to hear throughout my reception (it was a big dinner party, so no band just the hotel music system). It was before downloading so I had to beg, borrow and steal CDs for special tracks. Then, although I know the music was played, I didn't hear any of it. I think I went selectively deaf due to the overload of stuff going on. And the cd I made was left at the venue never to be seen again. It was a complete waste of time and effort.

I wish we'd had a proper photographer too.
My dress was aweful too but I'd just had a baby and my self confidence was at an all time low and so picked the first dress I saw.

Hairdresser, flowers, bridesmaid (wish I'd had more than one), the best man ( dh asked his best mate not his brother), photos, not being able to afford a hotel on the night. However, in the long run none of these things mattered.

After ceilidh dancing my bra showed at the front :( It ruined some lovely photos. My dress was sort of wrap at the cleavage but unwrapped a bit.

I regret spending £££ on wedding underwear. I didn't even wear the bra, it was too tight.

Other than that, happy days.

Op - my dh used some of my fake tan so we were of equal tanned-ness in the photos.

I wish I'd made more of an effort with my hair and make up - in my defence we were in Las Vegas, it was the 90s and I was winning on the blackjack table half an hour before the limo came to pick us up! To give you some idea of how awful I looked, the photographer (who was our only witness) said to me just before the ceremony "you remind me of someone famous" - I preened, and then he said "Siouxie, from Siouxie and the Banshees, that's who it is!". My wedding photos have only ever been seen by me and DH

My only regret is DM left her fasanator fancy hair thing in our flat.

I know this isn't style and beauty related but my dragon of a MIL being there. She showed her true colours to her only son a couple of years later but if only she'd done it sooner then I wouldn't have had to act like I was so delighted to become her DIL even though it was all for show - she hated me too

My nails, I had acrylics done (don't usually, I just paint them). They were too long and look false on the photos (only one or two but I notice them).

I thought that my dress was boned enough not for me to need a bra - it wasn't!!
Also, I didn't want the bottom of my dress to get dirty ( not that it mattered) so on a lot of my photos I'm awkwardly holding it up

I did my own make-up - not because I'm particularly good at it but to save money. I wish now I'd had it done - I don't look like I'm wearing any in the photos and have dark circles in a couple.

Also wish I'd worn a better bra but didn't know about the bra intervention back then!

My flowers didn't arrive in the colours I'd imagined. They were supposed to be all muted pastels, but some of them were bright orange. Should have communicated better with the florist on reflection.

My hair and flower circlet. I looked like some rural extra from an Eighties fitness video. Ah, but it was the Eighties!
Holding onto my elegant bouquet far too high, like I was a nervous seven year old, clutching a posy.
Not massive regrets really.

Not to be smug but I looked better than I could have imagined and had such an amazing time that there is little I would change. I organised my wedding relatively quickly for a big wedding but was really lucky with availability, the only person who I wanted but couldn't get was the person I wanted to do the cake. On the day the cake looked exactly as I wanted but it was a bit dry so I would change that.