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Help! DH wants to buy me a dress

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TheGruffaloFish · 03/12/2015 19:23

This one:www.agentprovocateur.com/eu_en/zeniya-dress-black

Apart from the fact that it's ridiculously expensive and I'm not sure we have enough to get us through the end of the year.
He is raving about this dress and how we should dress up for out 10th wedding anniversary when we go to see a ballet. Then maybe once the DC are a bit older we could to to a New Year's Gala dinner. Surely this is not something that one should wear to an opera or gala dinner? I find it a little revealing and really do not think I would be comfortable wearing it out and about. He says it's the perfect, cheeky, stylish dress a class above any others he has seen.

Help me find something to counter-suggest. Please. I'm no good with fashion or dress sense or style. I have a couple of dresses already that have been in the cupboard for 10 + years, they might still fit. He's never seen me in any of them!

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AmberNectarine · 04/12/2015 06:49

Well, the one I can see on the link is £1.5k, not £2.5k, but irrespective it's still a hooker's dress. It looks cheap and nasty - I wouldn't even wear it in the bedroom, never mind outside.

If you are worried about finances, I would strongly suggest you review the budget for your anniversary dress anyway.

EmzDisco · 04/12/2015 07:07

I know people who sometimes go to parties where this kind of thing is worn. It's gorgeous, but that AP range is not for the ballet, it's for going to sexy parties. So in that sense it's more than just underwear, but it's not meant to be worn in public.

Whatthefoxgoingon · 04/12/2015 11:05

I'd suggest Ellie Saab or marchesa for that price. Unless you really want to look like you are wearing a slip in public.

Whatthefoxgoingon · 04/12/2015 11:07

But what do you mean you won't have enough to make it through the year? If you are spending thousands on one dress, then Id assume you earn quite a few thousands every week and can afford this dress.

NotNowBono · 04/12/2015 13:34

Point out to him that all the photos on the AP website are carefully photoshopped to remove all traces of nipple and pubic hair or what's left on the models by the time they're comprehensively waxed. There's no way it would look like that on a normal human body.

Get a nice Bombshell by Katya Wildman dress for £200 and spend the rest on some anniversary jewellery. I ordered one in the Black Friday sales and my DP assures me that if I wear it with the right shoes, we might not even make it to his works dinner. Grin

ImperialBlether · 04/12/2015 14:16

Is he mad? Why would he want to spend all that money on a dress to wear to the ballet? Why is he even looking for dresses for you? Does he have a MH condition which means he likes to spend a lot when he's on a high?

PerspicaciaTick · 04/12/2015 14:38

Do you both enjoy going to the ballet? Do you go often (in which case you presumably know what is appropriate wear)?

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 04/12/2015 14:45

£2,555. It's not even a nice dress. It's awful. I wouldn't be pleased if my dp spent that amount of money on a dress for me. Think of what you could do with that £2,555.
It is of course a kind offer but unless you're millionaire I don't think any one could justify spending that amount of money.

SwedishEdith · 04/12/2015 14:52

Why are you even discussing it now? You don't like it so what's to discuss? Why is he so opinionated about your clothes?

NotNowBono · 04/12/2015 15:24

Has he been reading 50 Shades of Grey, by any chance?

NotNowBono · 04/12/2015 15:26

tell him you've had a look at the AP website and this one is more ballet appropriate If you're going to see The Nutcracker Suite

www.agentprovocateur.com/gb_en/natascia-dress

MelanieCheeks · 04/12/2015 15:33

HOW MUCH!!!!!!!!!!

shedragon · 04/12/2015 16:15

Are you JOKING??? OMG your H has gone nuts. You cannot spend £2500 on that nightie dress. It's a rag

On a serious note, you say you may not have enough money to see out the year and yet he wants to spend £2500 on that nightie???? Either this thread is a joke or your H has lost the plot. Is he otherwise ok?

Mouthfulofquiz · 04/12/2015 16:18

It's underwear!
I'd definitely think it inappropriate if someone went to the opera in that? You'd literally freeze to death, and if you don't look like a model, it's not going to be very forgiving!

NotNowBono · 04/12/2015 16:24

it's 2500 Euro. £1,495 of your English pounds. Not that that makes it 50% less of a rip off.

I think this is the kind of outfit you'd wear to the ballet/opera only if you were being led there on a golden leash type thing, and wearing it under a huge fur coat which your brooding millionaire escort slipped off your shoulders to the suppressed gasp of the others sitting in the royal box AND YOU WERE A CHARACTER IN A LOUISE BAGSHAWE NOVEL.

AmberNectarine · 04/12/2015 16:35

PMSL at character in a Louise bagshawe novel.

ImperialBlether · 04/12/2015 19:19

Bono, more like £1,800.

Yseulte · 04/12/2015 22:14

These dresses are not really meant to be worn out and about.

If he wants to blow a grand on a dress for you, try netaporter or matches.

shedragon · 04/12/2015 22:15

Grin HOWL at Louise bagshawe novel.

FreeWorker1 · 04/12/2015 22:29

Well its a nice dress but you are going to need something warm on top at this time of year or you'll catch your death of cold.

Take a nice warm cardigan in your bag. Theatres can be draughty.

By the way, since we are on the subject when did your DH start floating about browsing the Agent Provocateur website? Isn't that the question we should be exploring in more detail. Grin

Potterwolfie · 04/12/2015 22:30

Two.
And.
A.
Half.
Grand.

TeaPleaseLouise · 04/12/2015 22:49

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timelytess · 04/12/2015 22:51

It's an underskirt. Anyone can see that.

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TheGruffaloFish · 05/12/2015 05:53

Must find out what a Louise Bagshawe novel is. And no, I do not look like a model!

The "dress" has not been mentioned again. I could never agree to spend so much money on a dress, I'd rather have a pair of waterproof shoes which are not the hiking ones I seem to spend my life in at the moment. As to why he's been looking at the AP website, I'm not sure. He's having a bit of a mid-life crisis He's trying to rejuvenate us a bit I think. And suspect he is expecting a generous present from his parents for Christmas/Birthday/anniversary.

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TheGruffaloFish · 05/12/2015 05:55

And first time at the ballet for both of us.

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