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Help! DH wants to buy me a dress

78 replies

TheGruffaloFish · 03/12/2015 19:23

This one:www.agentprovocateur.com/eu_en/zeniya-dress-black

Apart from the fact that it's ridiculously expensive and I'm not sure we have enough to get us through the end of the year.
He is raving about this dress and how we should dress up for out 10th wedding anniversary when we go to see a ballet. Then maybe once the DC are a bit older we could to to a New Year's Gala dinner. Surely this is not something that one should wear to an opera or gala dinner? I find it a little revealing and really do not think I would be comfortable wearing it out and about. He says it's the perfect, cheeky, stylish dress a class above any others he has seen.

Help me find something to counter-suggest. Please. I'm no good with fashion or dress sense or style. I have a couple of dresses already that have been in the cupboard for 10 + years, they might still fit. He's never seen me in any of them!

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Seeyounearertime · 03/12/2015 19:56

Just to flip what Horton said....

If you're going to spend £2k on sex wear go get a fully fitted custom made leather catsuit, thigh boots and whip....... You could make you're £2k back pretty quick too if you fancied a change of career. Grin

Greengardenpixie · 03/12/2015 19:58

I was bemused at this part of your post OP
Then maybe once the DC are a bit older
Well i do think they may be a bit Blush seeing their mother in sexy night attire.

XiCi · 03/12/2015 20:02

Grin the only places this outfit is suitable for are the bedroom or a vicars & tarts fancy dress party. It's truly awful, looks like it's from a market stall. Maybe suggest to him you'd like him to go to the gala ball in a lace mankini, see how he likes being dressed in tacky clothing

burnishedsilver · 03/12/2015 20:04

It's not a dress. It's a nightie.

DavetheCat2001 · 03/12/2015 20:13

I find it a bit odd that your husband is so insistent on getting you a dress that you clearly don't really want. Seems strange to me.

I think it looks like underwear too, and cannot for the life of me understand how something so flimsy can cost two grand!

PurpleHairAndPearls · 03/12/2015 20:17

The only social event that that "dress" is suitable for is dogging.

Sorry.

Seeyounearertime · 03/12/2015 20:18

purple

Not at that price.. Imagine the stains.....

PurpleHairAndPearls · 03/12/2015 20:19

Don't overthink it nearer Grin

HardleyWorthit · 03/12/2015 20:28

Grin purple.

Seriously op your dh's fixation on this underwear dress is weird.

HardleyWorthit · 03/12/2015 20:29

To clarify- the fixation on the dress itself isn't weird- but the insistence that it's suitable for going out in is.

mewkins · 03/12/2015 21:04

I would say that sort of fixation on any item if clothing is a bit weird. He has really thought it through eh?

manandbeast · 03/12/2015 22:10

I think it's gorgeous.

I think there are places you could wear it ... People wear more revealing things from topshop every day.

Let him treat you he obviously thinks you'll look gorgeous in it!

OneMoreCasualty · 03/12/2015 22:16

I love that ASOS has a specific night out at the ballet advice section.

£2k is about 4x the cost of my wedding dress, FFS!

Glitteryfrog · 03/12/2015 23:30

It's beautiful, but deffo underwear. I wonder if you could wear it under a full length dress?

CarpetDiem · 03/12/2015 23:42

Do not spend two grand on something you do not absolutely love & are desperate to wear. Real sexiness come from confidence in what you are wearing & I doubt many women would exude confidence in that.

Pantsalive · 04/12/2015 00:03

I think you should tell him that you prefer this 'evening gown' and wait for his reaction.

longingforfun · 04/12/2015 00:33

This is definitely not the sort of dress to wear to a ballet, even if it 's at Covent Garden. It is embarrassingly skimpy and over the top. Don't let him buy it for you or if he insists, definitely don't wear to it the ballet.

mowglik · 04/12/2015 00:52

I really like it but wouldn't wear it out of the bedroom. You attract all the wrong kinds of attention wearing that out!

If your DH likes that black lace style I'm sure there's plenty out there that isn't nightwear. This one by Stella McCartney is maybe kind of similar

PoppyBlossom · 04/12/2015 01:02

It's lovely, but you can see the sides of her minge.

No one needs a distraction of side minge at a gala, it's uncalled for.

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TheGruffaloFish · 04/12/2015 02:45

Thank you all for telling me what I was thinking! That is indeed what I did tell him pants. I asked if he had seen what else it was listed with under 'soirée' and that there it look like something one would entertain a rich business man with and then be paid after. He has said I am wrong and it is just a classy cocktail dress! But if I feel that strongly about it he will drop it and look again and what I do have.

It certainly costs more than my wedding dress did, whoever said that, I could probably get 4 for that price! But he said that's ok as it's a special anniversary.

Will look at the links later (am on phone, DS has just kicked me out of my bed!)

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Roystonv · 04/12/2015 03:22

I am sorry but I can't believe a) he thinks that is suitable to wear in public and) he would jeopardise your finances buying it for you. It is a lovely idea but it needs a re-think

ProjectPerfect · 04/12/2015 03:29

I love it.

However it is most definitely not a going out dress.

I'm also bemused that he would even consider spending that much on a slip when you might not have enough to last you the year. That is odd. And worrying.

torontonian · 04/12/2015 05:51

I'd you like lace and have that much to spare... I love Ellie Saab gowns

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MrsCampbellBlack · 04/12/2015 05:57

Am I reading correctly that you are not sure if you have enough money to last the month and your DH is contemplating spending £2.5k on a nightie/dress for you?

Is he hoping you'll wear it out and make some money?? Wink

Rosa · 04/12/2015 06:05

Its very sexy but its a 'slip' not a dress and would you actually feel comfortable in it? It is stunning but not something I would expect to see at an anni ersary dinner and a NYE gala dinner to be honest...