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is it ok to wear all black to a wedding?

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swifter · 01/12/2006 22:43

My dad is getting married in a couple of weeks and am wearing gorgeous black wide leg tousers and have seen a gorgeous black lace tunic in limited collection (m and s). reck will look fab with said trousers and killer heels but maybe too black, like im going to a funeral (although might as well be)

What do you lovelies think?

PS-am size 16/18 so black is lovely and slimming!

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swifter · 02/12/2006 16:27

thanks ladies - have ordered a black short tux jacket too- some am all in black - love it!

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MrsMaloryTowers · 02/12/2006 16:29

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iota · 02/12/2006 16:35

my friend got married in black - looked very good. I work mainly black as well ( with a bit of white)

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 03/12/2006 01:22

No no no no no no no no nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!

Don't be so dull. The hot pink jacket sounds just right!

Colour is good people, colour is good!

fussymummy · 03/12/2006 01:40

If you feel comfy in the black outfit and it makes you feel confident, then wear it!!!

Whats stopping you dressing it up with a coloured scarf or other accessories?

mamama · 03/12/2006 01:51

Noooooooo, please don't wear all black. The only person to wear black to my wedding was MIL (and she wore a hat that looked like a dead crow ). She then wore the same outfit to a family funeral - says it all really.

Hot pink jacket sounds like a good idea to me.

MKGnearlyimmaculateconception · 03/12/2006 01:54

My bridesmaids wore black cocktail dresses and my wedding dress was black and white. Do add some color or some nice jewelry to spice it up.

mamama · 03/12/2006 01:56

Meant to add that if the wedding party are wearing black, I think you'd be fine. I live opposite a cathedral in the US and lots of weddings have bridesmaids in slinky black dresses - they always look lovely.

aliceband · 03/12/2006 02:15

if you feel good in it, you will look good, and black is smart.
i always thought you shouldn't wear white til i went to a wedding and the mother of the groom wore white!

thehairybabysmum · 03/12/2006 06:16

My DH's aunty wore all black to our wedding, i didnt notice on the day (not bothered by it), but it does really stand out on the photos...definitely looks odd. I guess if you wore a diff colour hat maybe that would help??

CorrieDale · 03/12/2006 07:53

aliceband, you were right and the groom's mum was wrong! If i had been the bride, I would have been really hacked off...

iota · 03/12/2006 07:55

can't believe how conventional people are - weddings are so varied these days - a lot of people opt out of the traditional stuff

CorrieDale · 03/12/2006 08:02

Well, if the bride is similarly unconventionally garbed, then anything goes. A friend of my mum's is having a gothic wedding - hearse & all. Whatever floats your boat! But if it's a white lace & confetti do, then I think it's pretty disrespectful for a guest to wear white. It smacks of stealing the bride's thunder. And I wouldn't wear all black either! Especially not if I had mixed feelings about the wedding or doubts about the likely outcome for the marriage.

ProfYaffle · 03/12/2006 08:12

I agree with Corriedale. I wore black and lilac when I got married and wouldn't have batted an eyelid at whatever colour anyone wore. Some people worry about these things though ...

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swifter · 03/12/2006 08:45

morning all- well i did what cod suggested and phoned and asked father and said bride to be and asked if it was ok to wear all black -Fathers response 'what are you a bloody goth' so that has put paid to that.

So am compromising, have gorgeous cornglour blue top that ties under the bust and skirts flabby tummy and has fluted arms- really nice, am wearing that with black trews, black killer heels and either cream pash (twee but looks nice) or short tux jacket

Thanks for all your help- wanted to wear all black though

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mrsnoah · 03/12/2006 09:20

Lots of big Italian weddings the women wear black and look amazing
Your clothes your choice.. I bloody would !
What about a big white flower on your lapel/hat?

Tortington · 03/12/2006 09:24

only if your the mother in law.

or a total freak.

who the fuck would want to wear black to a wedding?

mrsnoah · 03/12/2006 09:25

Custardo- have you got a hangover or something?

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swifter · 03/12/2006 09:27

so harsh!!! you are a funny woman

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RudolphsREADY · 03/12/2006 12:30

What did the bride say? Surely the outfits of the guests are not a concern to the bride?

I personally wanted everyone to feel comfortable at my wedding, a couple of girls wore black (one suit, one dress) and I wasn't bothered at all - in fact they both looked fab and if anything that makes the group photos look better!

Honestly, I cannot understand the fuss over black? And to get such over the top responses to the suggestion of wearing black amazes me!!

MossletoeAndWine · 03/12/2006 12:41

I wore black to a wedding.... my own!
Actually 'twas black and purple and bridesmaids were black & purple too. I didn't care what people wore at all; one of my mates wore jeans, funky trainees and a nice shawl and she looked boss.

So I think it depends how traditional the wedding is. If the bride's in a proper white meringue (sp?) and has little bridesmaids in either pink, cream or pale peach satin with flowing golden ringlets and page boys in miniture suits with waistcoats, and it's in a big church, with an organist playing the arrival of the queen of sheba, and the bride's father is paying for the whole thing and they have forked out thousands for a photographer, then maybe black is a no no.

But otherwise I think you should go for what you feel smartest in, and if that's black... go for it!

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swifter · 03/12/2006 18:35

thanks guys - like i said have compromised and am wearing a blue top- i never thought i would get such outrage at the thought of wearing black. Thats why i love MN

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FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 03/12/2006 23:48

Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Colour! lol

I love love love love love colour. And I'm so glad you chose to wear some. I think you'll look fab! (I'm equally sure you'd've looked fab in all black... but in my heart I can't bear that people don't use colour in their lives). I don't care what anyone says about over-reaction to wearing black. Colour speaks celebration to me!

Can you guess I'm really chuffed and pleased with your choice swifter? LOL

domesticslobess · 04/12/2006 10:17

Posh wore black to the TomKat 'wedding' last week- so defo no black.

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