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If someone tells you you're beautiful.....

54 replies

CustardSpy · 15/09/2015 18:52

Do you believe them? If your DH or DP tells you that you look gorgeous in that (insert relevant attire), do you get a little lift and believe them, or do you still look in the mirror and think "Ack, I look like a gigantic sausage pretending to be human"?

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ThreeRuddyTubs · 15/09/2015 18:56

No because i have no self confidence and im not typically pretty. I do have beautiful eyes though so i believe them when people compliment those

LoveArtDeco · 15/09/2015 19:00

No and a bloke walked past me in tescos on Sunday and whispered " my god you're ugly" Hmm so if a stranger feels the need to comment on my ugliness I must be pretty minging!

CherylTunt · 15/09/2015 19:00

Yep, I do believe it and it gives me a boost Smile

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 15/09/2015 19:00

Yes I do. I was one of those plain children and repulsive teensgers who has somehow turned into an unreasonable beautiful strong confident women.

Greengardenpixie · 15/09/2015 19:01

It depends. If someone were to say it all the time then no. My dh says it to me now and again and i do believe it when he says it.

TheOriginalWinkly · 15/09/2015 19:03

Love that person was an utter scumbag, clearly just looking to make anyone feel miserable. I bet you are not one bit ugly. Please don't let a troll like that bring you down.

OP I get a lift thinking DH believes it whilst feeling like a giant sausage :)

LoveArtDeco · 15/09/2015 19:07

Thanks TheOriginalWinkly I believe it when dh says it too even though I know it's very subjective! I read the other thread with posters who were saying how they were stopped in the street constantly and told how beautiful they are. This is just so alien to me! I think I'd like to experience being beautiful for a day to see what perks it brings Grin

BoutrosBoutros · 15/09/2015 19:12

Love what a hideous man! It says a lot more about him than it does about you, I'm shocked someone could be so rude. Perhaps he was talking to himself and didn't realise you were there?

I can look good but am 32 weeks pregnant and running round after a toddler so mostly look fat and crusty. When I'm not pregnant I'll take on board roughly 50% of compliments depending on how I feel about myself that day!

jamaisjedors · 15/09/2015 19:14

Absolutely not, but I don't think anyone has ever said that to me anyway.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 15/09/2015 19:29

Art. That so called man is a wanker. Don't let an idiot like bring you down. He was probably feeling dead 'ard for a day and thought I know I'll insult a women on her own cause like I say, I'm dead 'ard. I highly doubt he'd say that to a man, though.

HappyGirlNow · 15/09/2015 19:30

Yes I do believe it because I've always been regularly told it by people nd I believe I am. But I must admit it's not as often as I get older (42)..

whatdoIget · 15/09/2015 19:37

Yes because it comes from people who love me and I believe that I am beautiful in their eyes Smile

LoveArtDeco · 15/09/2015 19:39

No one except my dh has said it but then I don't go round telling strangers they look beautiful either so fair enoughSmile

RachelZoe · 15/09/2015 19:40

Yes I do, I have very high self esteem and self confidence luckily and I like the way I look.

LoveArtDeco · 15/09/2015 19:40

Aye and he wasn't exactly George Clooney himself!

spanisharmada · 15/09/2015 19:44

No it makes me nervous about what they want

EagleRay · 15/09/2015 19:45

I had this happen to me the other day at a festival - a young guy stopped me and said he just wanted to tell me how beautiful I was and he hoped I had a really nice time at the festival.

DP said he was probably on mushrooms. Given that I'm 44, hadn't washed my hair for 3 days and am suffering from early pregnancy bloat, he's probably right Confused

MisForMumNotMaid · 15/09/2015 19:49

I'm awful at accepting compliments. I would probaly either go a bit red or stumble through an excuse like 'oh its lots of makeup'.

Love, that stranger must have been a misery out to cause offense. I don't think i've ever seen an ugly person. I've certainly never noticed one in the supermarket.

A few people over my lifetime as i've got to know well i've found ugly but thats more of a strong dislike for their personal life philosophy.

Likewise a lot more people i've found beautiful in their compassion, energy, inspiration. Generally i think familiarity and beauty are linked.

My mothers wrinkles are beautiful, the little creases around the eyes from smiling. My fathers big bright eyes on his weather warn face i think are very attractive and he looks much like his father did, who i always thought of as good looking.

shouldIapply · 15/09/2015 19:58

whatdoiget has it right. As I always tell the DDs when they ask 'am I pretty' the people you love are always beautiful.

FWIW I had a flatmate when I was a student who looked like Jerry Hall. DH and I were out once with her and this (admittedly handsome) bloke who DH vaguely knew came over and said 'hey DH, great to see you', DH looked confused, handsome bloke then turned to my flatmate and then proceeded to chat her up in a hideously obvious way and didn't acknowledge DH again (or me at all). My friend was lovely but had no idea this wasn't normal. Sadly all the nice blokes didn't go near her because they found her intimidating. I'd much rather be ordinary looking if that's what being beautiful is like. And frankly, people stopping you in the street to tell you you are beautiful sounds creepy.

ArialBold · 15/09/2015 20:11

I feel uncomfortable when anyone other than DH says it. I don't take compliments that well and just feel embarrassed (...and sometimes suspicious Grin).

LoveArtDeco - that guy was clearly unhinged! Who says that to another human being? Dickhead! Angry

harrasseddotcom · 15/09/2015 20:13

yes but will be the first to point out that its just good makeup. I openly admit to looking like a bag of shite first thing in the morning Grin

amazonqueen · 15/09/2015 20:21

Unless it is from a small child when I graciously accept the compliment then no. I would in turn be suspicious and then annoyed.

I am not beautiful and if someone says I am then they are 1) after something or 2) think Im stupid enough to fall for flattery.

Tartanbeachhut · 15/09/2015 20:25

When I was younger I was often told I was beautiful to which I thought Hmm

It's only now that I'm older and heavier etc and no one stops me in the street ever to say it that I realise I actually was, and that not everyone as I thought at time had people stopping to say the same about them.

In fact I have actually had people call me a 'fat c@@t' before and I'm really not that big and ugly to warrant that but hey ho.

ShouldHavenotOf · 15/09/2015 20:26

My dh says it all the time and I think nothing of it as I think he says it out of habit.

However, if a stranger says it I am genuinely chuffed. I am a huge hypocrite as if I get wolf whistled or beeped at, they get my middle finger.

A man (much younger than me) came up to me outside John Lewis last weekend and said, 'I just wanted to say you're really beautiful'. It completely made my day.

HermioneWeasley · 15/09/2015 20:27

What Amazon said.

Even my dear brother said to me...."at least you have a brain"