if i show you pictures of my figure, can you please tell me how much more weight to lose.

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Sorry it's one of those threads. I have lost nearly three stone after being overweight for my whole life. I started at 12 stone 8lbs (not the heaviest I have been) and now weigh 9 stone 11. I am 5ft6 with a big frame. The only problem is, I still see the fat kid in the mirror. I still see a huge belly, massive thighs, wobbly arms etc etc.

Family members have stopped congratulating me on my weightloss and started saying things like "you aren't going to lose any more are you?" And "if you lose much more you are going to look ill".

Can you please give an objective view on how much more you would aim to lose if you were me. I think my family are so used to seeing me overweight, they can't be objective at all. I also thought that I would just know when I was at the right weight, but I still feel fat, but I don't know if that's because of always being the fat one iyswim.

I'm not looking for compliments, I'm just trying to work out if my family are right? Or if I should still be aiming to lose more. I had 9 stone as a goal, but my mum seems to think I will look awful. I just can't tell :( please help.

I'm not that fussed if this outs me, I'm very boring :)

i don't think you need to lose any more. I think you look just right as you currently are. I can understand how friends and family might struggle to be objective though and how you might be struggling to really 'see' the new you in the mirror. your perception will change eventually, it will come with time and when it does you will see what we are all seeing on this thread. it just takes time for your brain to catch up sometimes

If you feel self conscious about wobbles, then more targeted exercise than walking is your friend. yoga and swimming are good as all over body ways of exercising.

I swam quite a lot at first but with dp working longer hours its hard to find the time with dd. I would like to start up again, I think I need to work something out there.
Thank you.

You are almost the same weight and height as me. After my son I dieted to get down to just under 10 stone. I felt like you when I look in the mirror and am now trying to lose a little more, I feel I'm not toned enough and want to lose any remaining flab.. You look great though but if you'd like to lose a little more, go for it.

Do you mind me asking what dress size you started off as? I'm currently losing weight but I have no idea what I should be aiming for.

You look great BTW - really fab.

You look fantastic and def don't need to lose any more weight now.

But be kind to yourself, it takes a long time for your head to catch up with your new body especially if you've been larger for a long time. I'm still overweight at 13 stone and size 16-18 but a year ago I was 16 1/2 stone and a size 22. I still see myself at that size and struggle in shops to judge what I can fit into and always start out trying on clothes that are too big.

Agree with MorrisZapp

Well done! There are loads of fitness professionals offering advice on training at home, with bodyweight alone. I would concentrate on that - fitness and building muscle. I am a member of a private group on FB which is excellent and the trainer has also created an excellent app for home training with 10 to 30 minute sessions. PM me if you want the details.

I really worry about these sort by threads. I'm not a 'ooh stealth boast' person at all but I worry about people with a healthy and slim body asking for advice on their body on the Internet.

You have to be happy with your own body and it shouldn't matter what strangers think. It's fine if you're posting here and receiving positive views but what would happen if you posted here and people said 'I'd lose another stone, you're a bit doughy in the middle' or whatever else people decided to say?.

Would you believe that and restrict your eating because of it?. I think that's why these threads worry me.

I think you look great.

ate properly, moved more, lost weight. Gosh.

it works. Plenty on here will tell you it doesn't. How stupid are they?

well done, OP. Now that's enough.

I am the same weight as you but 5' 7 and understand where you're coming from. I still feel fat, I started at 13 stone and still feel like I did then.

I have kept the weight off for just over a yr and started at the gym this time last yr. I am concentrating my body fat % now as well as improving my fitness and increasing my muscle mass. Perhaps you could try that now as may make you feel less fat and more fit. Just a suggestion though

You look great!

Well done

You look fantastic.

Definitely maintain this weight with diet and exercise now. No need to lose any more.

Well done!

I was a size 18 when I started.

I think you are right its time to focus on fitness. I have been obsessed with the scales for the whole process and I would quite like to change my focus.

Thank you to those who understand the huge mental shift that needs to happen (and hasn't quite happened for me). I hope that my brain catches up soon as I dont want to feel like the fat kid for the rest of my life.

In response to the question bout what I would do if everyone had suggested losing another stone. I would have given it a go as even if I lost another stone I would still be in the healthy bmi range. I am not going to put my health at risk in pursuit of the perfect body.

I think you look great. Fwiw I thought you carried your weight very well when you were size 18 as you have good proportions whatever your size. Your figure will still be attractive even if you put a bit more on.

You're totally hot, girl. Well done on the weight loss.

I am almost exactly the same as you.

I am 5'7. I started the year at 13.13 and now weight 10 stone 8. The weight I want to get to is 10 stone but it isn't coming off easily now.

I still very much see myself as a fat 18/20. it is difficult to see my figure slimmer even though I managed to get a pair of size 10 skinny jeans on last weekend. My top half is still carrying a bit more weight than I would like to which means I am a 12/14 but I don't think that will ever change.

It saddens me that people question threads like this.

Currie thank you for that. Its nice to see I'm not alone!! I fit in size tens in most shops now, but the little voices in my head say 'well they must be very generous here as you aren't a size ten" every single time. I got some new bras today. 6 months ago I was a 38/40 now I'm a 34, same voices saying it must just be the bra styles, there is no way I'm a 34. I don't know what more evidence I need, the scales and clothes both say I have lost a lot of weight, but brain says no.

Mama -

Thank you Fox, my weight has always been on my belly. Arms and legs have always been smaller in comparison I think that helps a bit.

Just to say well done on your weight loss - you look fab!

Another one here who thinks you're looking very good. If you wanted another half stone off I don't think you'd look scrawny - but it's also important to stop at a point you can easily maintain. I normally aim to low and then am disappointed if I don't get there or can't maintain.

Just about to start this journey with 3st to lose after baby number 2.

Slight aside - are you sure your bra is the correct size? I'm a 34 and size 16. Would think you're a 30. Probably good plan to check some of the various bra intervention threads.

I think you look fantastic. I'm midway through my own weight loss journey and I know what you mean about the mind needing time to catch up with the mirror!

I'm insanely jealous of your legs though. If I lost half my body weight I'd never have legs like yours.

Thank you very much.

re the bra, I have a big rib cage. I went shopping and tried everything from a 30 - 36, B - E as I had no idea what size I was after losing the weight. 34 is snug on the loosest fitting, DD fits nicely without spilling out. I had to try a gazillion different styles to find the right one, then bought three of them! I have odd shaped Boobs, lots of tissue at the sides and wide shaped Boobs. they don't look like they should be a DD but they are because of the extra tissue.

Thank you for the legs comment, they are my mums. I shall tell her that she has given me good legs.

Well done! You look amazing :)

You look fab. Just the right weight. In fact, your pic is now my inspiration - I know I need to lose a bit of weight and I'd like to look like you (same height-build). Well done!

I think taking up something physical like strength training, running or swimming might be helpful for you. Not to tone up because you look great but to start to shift your relationship with your body away from how it looks to what it can do. My body will never look the way I want it to post-children but it has done and can do some amazing things.