2 year old has awful curly hair

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Okay I know I sound mean but I'm not honest. My dd has curly/wavy hair. Some of its beautiful tight curls, some of its wavy. It looks gorgeous when it's just been washed but after about an hour its frizzy and out of control.

Its always messy and she just looks like she's been dragged through a hedge backwards, and the more I brush it the more the curls go and its gets more frizzy and looks worse. Argh.

Any tips?

OMG mcnab please tell me your DD is with an agency for TV and modelling work.
If not then get her signed up quick sharp. You'll make a fortune!
She's just tooooooo cute.

I have one dc with curly, one with wavy. I wouldn't say DONT brush it, I'd say DONT BRUSH IT DRY. Buy a tangle teezer, use when wet, either after bath or with a water spray for quick fixes. We also use Garnier Ultimate Blends marvellous glow hair serum which is lush and tames fuzzy sides, or a little mousse can be helpful to just fix those strays.

Curly hair is beautiful and our dd gets loads of admiration for it. Tangle teezer and wet combing will revolutionise your life though!

Thankyou hellsbellsmelons she is gorgeous (what mum doesnt think so!) but incredibly shy, she definitely wouldnt pose or perform for cameras. We are pinning our pension hopes on DS's soccer abilities instead

I must try that pineapple updo for night time. I currently tie her hair back in a loose pony but it still gets a bit knotty. Would love a silk pillowcase for myself so no way is DD getting one first!

I would say don't even comb it, if you can get away with it. If it does need combing, then do it after you have conditioned, but before you dry it or put any product in it. Don't comb it after you've dried/styled it.

Tinkerbella stop telling people to go to Matt! I used to suggest it to posters but it's becoming way too difficult to get an appointment so I stopped!

Oh I love curly hair!

I say that as the owner of deadly straight locks though :)

DD is shaping up to have pretty curly hair at 2. It's all over the place but it looks adorable. When I brush it it goes really volumey and she looks like a pensioner who's just had a shampoo and set.

:) :)

aintnothin I actually have a tangle teezer. I bluddy love it, it hurt her brushing with a normal one and she would just sit and cry. Will my tangle teezer replace a wide tooth comb?

Buttercup I use a tangle teezer instead of a wide toothed comb infact I bought a denman tangle teezer it's more like a brush but easier to tie long hair up

I have one of these , will i need a comb too? Need to get leave in conditioner, normal conditioner and some mousse/curl cream and hopefully she will have beautiful hair

tangle teezer is perfect if you only use it when it has conditioner in. Don't dry with a hairdryer - if you can get one of those camping towels that suck the water out the hair, just give it a squeeze with that and then let it dry naturally so that the weight pulls it down.
the longer you let it grow, the tamer it becomes - it's all in the weight...

That Tangle teezer looks fine, just only use it on wet hair.

My 2 year old DS has curly hair - left to its own devices or if I brushed it dry it would look like a dandelion!

What we do is bath each night but just smooth conditioner through his hair, no shampoo. then rinse out and comb his hair and then scrunch it up with my hands back into curls.
Let it dry naturally, no hair dryer, just a gentle towel rub/squeeze.
Then in the morning if its frizzy again, I wet it using a spray bottle of water with a little detangle spray or conditioner in it use my fingers to detangle the hair and scrunch the curls back up and then leave alone and it dries into beautiful ringlets!
Hope that helps and you find a method that works for you, but definitely do not ever brush when dry! if in doubt wet and leave it!

My DS has curly hair like me. I only finger comb it when it's covered in conditioner, otherwise I get lots of tears! In the mornings when it looks a bit unruly I damp it down with water and then scrunch a little hair jelly on it.

I also cut it myself, he hasn't been to the hairdressers in about 5 years. I cut each curl individually, it really gets rid on the fluff and frizz at the side if his head...now if I cd only cut my own!

Haven't read full thread so others may have said the same thing. I have two daughters with very curly hair, the oldest of whom is 6, so I've been dealing with this for a while. I also have curly, though not as tight curls as theirs.

My tips are:

*Wash with a detangling shampoo (I use Johnsons).
*Always condition after every wash. (I use a Johnsons detangling conditioner). I am generous with the conditioner, then comb it through the hair before rinsing.
*Towel dry, comb while wet, then leave to dry.
*Never comb when the hair is dry.
*If it is necessary to comb when it hasn't just been washed, use a detangling spray.
*When my oldest DD got to about 4 and her hair was longer, the hairdresser layered it slightly. That really helped.
*I have found that the two daughters who have curly hair need to have their hair washed slightly more often than the daughter who has straighter hair.

A friend (whose daughter has similar her to my daughters) thinks the tangle teaser is excellent. I haven't tried it yet, but am planning to buy one soon (we are currently out of the UK).

Hope that helps.

FGS don't ever brush it again!

You are wrong, the curls are right. Stop fighting them.

Read Curly Girl by Elaine Massey to learn how to care for and cherish your daughter's beautiful hair.

Pay most attention to the testimonials of women who spent years hating the way they looked because they grew up with mothers with negative attitudes like yours.

Her hair only looks awful because you are ruining it.

Start by apologising to her for your previous ignorant and hurtful comments. I have a feeling you have spent significant time brushing the hell out of her while expressing your disdain.

Sorry for being harsh but this is the result of my childhood curly hair trauma. You should know what an impact it can have.

Wanted to add that if my daughter fancies her hair in a ponytail I usually just use my fingers.

I think her hair is gorgeous (and her little sister's is heading the same way). Obviously I'm totally biased but others have also commented positively.

I have awful curly hair and I hate it. I hoped my DDs would get DH's hair but DD1 has curls. I feel so guilty about passing on my crap hair.

Wow dearth, how rude.

Sorry about your childhood curly hair dramas but that's simply not the case. I have never said anything negative to my two year old about her hair, ever.

I obviously am ruining it as i have no idea how to look after curls, hence why started this thread. I want to get the most out of her curls, because they are bluddy beautiful when it has been washed and dried.

You understandly have a chip on your shoulder but I can assure you my daughter is only ever told she is god damn gorgeous!!

Understandably* even.

My dd has hair which is v curly. My advice is grow it long, no short layers, never brush it, wide tooth comb only and only when v wet, loose plait at night and in the morning spray with a mix of water and conditioner and finger comb through the hair. I agree with coconut oil at the ends, and shampoo as little as you can get away with. Boots do a Curl Creme in a pink tub which is v good and only couple of quid. And no hairdryers either, air dry always.

I oil DD's hair, and don't wash it too frequently. The oil that I use the most is murumuru butter, but avocado oil works pretty well too. I find coconut oil makes her hair look greasy so I try to avoid it, but now and then it's good for moisturising her hair.

I brush my 2 DD's very curly hair when it is wet. A comb simply won't do it & it is the only way to avoid dreadlocks.

OP - once her hair gets longer you may find the Tangle Teezer less effective - the Tangle Tamer is very good. This is what we use now along with a wide tooth comb (though I think the wee ones really hate the comb).

The best, not too expensive curl hair cream I have found is the NAKED one available from Boots. You local Boots probably doesn't stock it, but you can order it online and they will deliver to your local shop for free. The NAKED curl conditioner/shampoo is also very good. They often have 3 for 2 offers.

Agree re avoiding silicone free products.

My 2 are at school/nursery now so it hair is tied up/plaits etc for school now, but the best way to freshen up the hair in the morning is to make a spray bottle up of water/conditioner/curl cream etc and dampen hair with that and refresh curls with your fingers.

Personally I think coconut oil is drying on their hair rather than moisturising. I have also tried all the organic shea butter whipping, combining with aloe vera, coconut oil etc - but it's not right for their hair at all. I've wasted a fortune buying ingredients online to make raved about natural creams etc for their hair only to have it not really work. Best it can be is a pre-wash treatment.

NAKED Curl Taming Cream is by far the best (I have an entire drawer in the bathroom devoted to my stocks of it - may they make it forever). www.boots.com/en/Naked-Style-Gorgeous-Curls-Taming-Cream-150ml_952845/

Oh to add we only wash hair once a week!!

And we have been using this which is quite good though I think normal conditioner will work just as well - so no shampoo. Just a big soak in the tub and 2 "washes" with conditioner.
www.amazon.co.uk/Palmers-Formula-Co-Wash-Cleansing-Conditioner/dp/B00EDQWRQ2/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1426866980&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=palmers+cowashing

OOPS I mean avoid products WITH silicone in them.

Once hair gets longer she can try "plopping" - my 7yo loves doing this and the curls she gets from it are amazing.

www.wikihow.com/Plop-Your-Hair

Blimey dearth no need for that!!

The op was only asking for advice, no need to have a go.

Tbh I have curly/wavy hair and have learnt quite a lot reading this thread my dd has a combination of dead straight hair with a curly fringe

We also have very curly hair in this household. The Tangle Teezer plus huge quantities of conditioner have been brilliant.

What's the difference between a Tangle Tamer and a Tangle Teezer? Is it worth having both?