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Should I persevere with my grey or not?

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MedusaIsHavingaBadHairday · 04/02/2015 13:18

It's been about 6 months since I had my hair last coloured. I'm 47 don't wear makeup except mascara. My hair is brown with white coming under the fringe and in patches elsewhere. I quite like my white streak but as it is growing down my hair looks pretty dreadful as there are white bits and brown bits..very uneven.

My Dad died on saturday so in a couple of weeks I will have to lead his funeral.. meet and greet etc and now I am (shallowly) I guess, wondering whether to give up and get it done, and start again when my hair is more white than it is now.

Here is how it looks at the mo (harsh lighting!!!)

My Dad would laugh at me for caring, I'm sure but he was an immaculately groomed man and would get my dilemma!

Should I persevere with my grey or not?
Should I persevere with my grey or not?
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MedusaIsHavingaBadHairday · 04/02/2015 13:22

PS I'm in the conservatory which we are decorating... the rest of my house isn't that untidy.. honest!

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FuckyNell · 04/02/2015 13:33

Sorry about your dad Thanks

I would get it cut shorter. You have the face for it Smile

CMOTDibbler · 04/02/2015 13:37

I'd just go and have a trim

chockbic · 04/02/2015 13:37

Go blonde, woman.Grin

You've the complexion and eye colour for it.

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MedusaIsHavingaBadHairday · 04/02/2015 13:43

I'm going to get it shorter :) I had it short last summer and it looked a lot better on me but I always life in fear of THE BAD CUT so have been putting it off.
I hadn't thought about blonde.. wouldn't that wash me out? I suppose I could have some streaks to blend the grey a bit and see if I like it? I'm hopeless at making decisions!

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chockbic · 04/02/2015 14:21

Just have a few subtle highlights at first. Not too much of a shock and you get an idea if you like being blonder.

burnishedsilver · 04/02/2015 15:02

Definitely colour it. It'll give you a little pick me up.

Sorry about your dad.

Twinklestein · 04/02/2015 15:28

Definitely dye it, you'll have plenty of time 70+ to have grey hair!

I think the brown really suits you and certainly makes you look younger.

If you want to try a bit of blonde you could ask for a few honey blonde highlights and see how you like them.

KissyBoo · 04/02/2015 15:44

Your grey is a really lovely colour. I would have a pixie,buy a great lipstick and some gorgeous earrings and work with it.

Sorry for your loss x

gonegrey56 · 04/02/2015 16:46

Have some highlights in a mix of colours, including ash blonde as well as more golden tones . And a trim . You will look beautiful, and your late father would be proud of his lovely daughter .
Big hug and stand tall on the day

HennaFlare · 04/02/2015 16:51

Your grey is a beautiful shade. Pixie cut.

gaggaforababa · 04/02/2015 17:03

Personally I like the grey

pinkfrocks · 04/02/2015 17:07

I think you should go for a layered bob- no longer than chin / jaw length - and bring out the reddish tones you seem to have with a lovely chestnut colour- maybe 2 shades to avoid the helmet effect.

Sorry to hear about your dad Flowers

Should I persevere with my grey or not?
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321zerobaby · 04/02/2015 19:34

There's no doubt that grey hair is ageing on most people. I say dye it.

WhatsGoingOnEh · 04/02/2015 19:39

Dye it. You look so pretty with brown hair. Grey hair is SO ageing, even on your lovely face, that I have no idea why you'd want it yet.

WhatsGoingOnEh · 04/02/2015 19:40

Those two photos could be of sisters who are 10-15 years apart in age.

burnishedsilver · 04/02/2015 19:42

No matter how nice the grey is, it is always aging.

pinkfrocks · 04/02/2015 19:46

Grey is ageing and will put 20 years onto you- honestly.
You have plenty of time to go grey.

Rosie29 · 04/02/2015 19:49

I will go against the majority and say stick with it.
Yes, you need it cut and the above style is great.
I stopped colouring mine a year ago (I'm 38) and have white streaks all over. It is cut short in a very 'trendy' style and people think I have white streaks put in it. I would say get it cut and if you still don't like the colour then dye it.

Sorry about your Dad.

hippospot · 04/02/2015 20:14

I'm really sorry about your dad.

I am biased because I stopped dying my hair last year and I'm younger than you. I personally find it very liberating to have accepted my natural colour. I think a bit of grey is less ageing than a bad dye job.

I think a salon colour with different tones done well can look very good but yikes it's expensive!!!! Home dye usually looks too flat and solid IMO, and that was all I could afford. I never managed to find a good match for my natural colour and I think the too-dark shades always made me look tired.

If you decided to give up the hair dye six months ago then I think you'd be cross with yourself for giving up after so long. YES it's a tedious process to grow out the dye but you're six months in! On the other hand, if you haven't dyed your hair for six months because you don't have the time, money or inclination, then I'd say give up the dye, because it IS time-consuming and expensive. (My hair grows particularly fast and I was doing roots every four weeks for goodness' sake!) Having visible roots looks worse than grey IMO however it's true that the growing-out stage is a pain. I had a pixie cut to speed up the process but that might not be what you'd be happy with.

I have no regrets about giving up the dye. I have a good short cut that suits me and I do spend time keeping my hair in good condition with regular trims and I do style it every day (but it's short so quick to do). I do wear a bit of make-up and make an effort with clothes in colours that suit me (I had my colours done). Personally I'm happier with my appearance now than I have been for years. My hair is in fab condition.

There is nothing wrong with ageing - why should women be shamed into trying to look "younger"? I love DH's grey hairs and he adores mine.

BelindaAllWorkedOut · 04/02/2015 20:18

Another vote for dyeing it.

Nishky · 04/02/2015 20:21

I agree hippo- I tried the blonde highlights trick and it looked appalling , really mumsy- dye jobs that let grey roots grow are cringey and it is all so expensive- I have had mine in a short crop for a good while now and get many compliments

Rosie29 · 04/02/2015 20:26

Yes...i also agree with Hippo...six months is a long time and you may regret dyeing it.

This shampoo is amazing BTW
www.johnlewis.com/klorane-centaury-shampoo-for-grey-white-hair-200ml/p231431982

Greengardenpixie · 04/02/2015 20:54

I think that the grey is really ageing. I have loads of grey and have contemplated it but i just cant face feeling that i look like an old lady in the mirror. I say dye it. You look younger in the photo with the colour. You look fine with it grey..just you look older.