Black to a wedding

[jamtoast12]

Hi

I have a family members wedding just before Xmas and wander if it's appropriate for me to wear a black dress? I can't find anything else I like in the shops currently! And the dress I have is gorgeous.

It's completely black with sheer sleeves and flowery detail on chest - so detailed but all black, bit of a cocktail dress style.

The wedding is obviously winter style in a function type hall, really nice place. It's also at 4pm so it will be dark. I expect all photos etc will be inside. I'm just not sure as it's a wedding! I could accessories but the dress will be black only with say bright (though not too bright as that would clash) bag, shoes and earrings etc.

What you think?!

Yeah I am actually but I cannot stand brides who get their knickers in such a knot over ONE day. You are a guest and any decent bride wouldn't give two hoots what you wore on the day as long as you were there, enjoying yourself and comfortable. If she does care then that is pretty sad and extremely shallow.....in my opinion of course.

Then again, I despise formal weddings, big white dresses, bridesmaids who have to have their bra and knickers matching their hideous, never to be worn dress again. Relax. There is no risk - what a ridiculous thing to say over ONE day.

Of course it's fine to wear black to a wedding. 'An insult to the bride' made me laugh.

I'd say the fact it is a late afternoon wedding makes it more acceptable. I can't even remember what women wore at mine and if it was black, so what ( 30 years ago!)

My mum has also insisted no one must wear black at her funeral. She wants it to be a celebration of her life not mourning. Not everyone wears black for funerals. We are not in the Victorian era.

I am in Ireland, not the UK. The last time I was at a December wedding more than half the women were in black. Its the season of little black dresses. MN is the first I ever heard of not wearing black to a wedding. I suspect its a very dated notion. I agree there should only be one woman in a white dress at a wedding.

Maybe it's a credit crunch thing - people just go with what they've got rather than find something suitable