My DM passed away last weekend and we're holding her cremation on Friday.
It sounds really prosaic, but I actually have nothing to wear for it, and it's stressing me out (ridiculously, given the situation).
I have these boots I'd like to wear ideally (I don't really 'do' heels or courts; I knackered my back when I was pregnant, and flats make me look like a dumpling) but no dress.
Info on me: I'm a largish 16, all boobs and bum mainly - so v-necks suit best. I'd prefer a dress with sleeves, but would also be open to separates or something short sleeved with a jacket over it - I have a nice smart navy jacket which would work. Colour wise, funereal (black or navy probably) or teal at a push - mum loved the colour and my DSis is wearing a turquoise dress that mum liked a lot on her.
I've tried this but it was a bit too 'party' and made me feel fat, and this was a very matronly length - I'm 29, so I don't want to frump.
I'm just really struggling and it feels very frivolous to be spending so much time thinking about it, but I think we're going to have enough to think about on the day so I want to be comfortable in whatever I'm wearing.