Do you ever get that told you look nice?

[Naicecuppatea]

I often find myself telling friends and family they look nice/well/great, but I rarely seem to have it said to myself - even from family, even when I have made an effort with my appearance. Not quite sure what I'm doing wrong, or even why I care!!

Rarely! I must admit that when I do receive compliments I shrug them off - "What this old thing?" etc. Could it be that you do the same and maybe it puts people off paying you a compliment?

Yes - but I'm not sure if it counts as it's usually from my dd, whenever I put something slightly smarter on!

i don't, but the girl at work who lives in primark shite gets told all the time how luverly she looks. though she looks bland to me,

there.

Yes. When I wear makeup and put on naice clothes (as opposed to running or grubby riding ones), which is hardly ever nowadays . Do what I do, be a hot mess 75% of the time and then you'll automatically look ten-billion times better when you do makeup/hair/nice clothes all at once .

Yes. There area couple of lovely ladies at work who always make a point of commenting. It's very nice.

Other than that, it's usually when I'm wearing a short skirt and heels!

This thread makes me feel terrible. I would say I hear it a lot (not counting from husband, who I guess has to say it!) but I don´t think I say it that often, although I know I do sometimes as just yesterday I told a dear friend she looked lovely (she did) and she immediately said, "No I don´t!" in a horrified and embarrassed way which sadly is very typical of many women. (The comedian Amy Schumer has some funny skits about this, now I come to think of it).

I´ll try to say it more often and then tell my friends, kindly, what a friend told me when I was about 18: when someone compliments you, just say thank you and accept it.

Yes, but then so I bloody should the amount of time I spend on it.

Only by my DD. Can't remember last time DH said it to me. Don't expect it regularly (as tbh I don't usually look particularly nice!) but would be nice if he noticed the times when I have made a bit if an effort!

AliMonkey Sorry to hear that. Your husband should be telling you everyday that you are beautiful - in personality and actions, as well as looks. Perhaps get the ball rolling by giving him some compliments.

p.s. didn´t mean to say "should". I know we´re all different. "Should" should not exist!

Yes, but I take quite good care of myself and spend a lot on clothes, makeup and skincare.

Do what I do, be a hot mess 75% of the time and then you'll automatically look ten-billion times better when you do makeup/hair/nice clothes all at once
That works for me too. :)

Yes, fairly often by work colleagues / clients etc and I always take it as 'you make too much effort, you vain airhead, you clearly spend too much time and money on your looks' which I know is ridiculous but it makes me feel rubbish and self conscious. If DH said it it would be nice, but he never does unfortunately.

No. But i always try and compliment others .

My mum is quite gushy, and so are a couple of my friends, in a lovely way. My MIL is also the type to compliment a lot. The OH and I tend to banter a lot, we're not overly gushy people although I try and be nice when he's made an effort ;). We tend to go for "that's a lovely crop of nose hair you've got..." for e.g. more often than not!

I do find that people that don't typically comment do say something when I wear my favourite clothes / shoes or do my makeup in my favourite style (cat eye, maybe a deep red lippy). Seems to be that when I'm more confidence my peers are more confident to compliment. Weird. I do think nice things more often than I say them, sometimes I feel more comfortable to say something than others.

I have certain people I can rely on usually to say I look nice, people who are good at giving compliments. Although that has its pitfalls, there is one lady who always tells me that and the one time she didn't I was !

Happy you're lucky with your DH. I think DHs and DPs are often very bad at remembering to say it it's just not the same when you've spent half an hour saying 'do I look ok/are you sure/give me a confidence boost..' is it

I think I'll show DP your comment, although it will give him the opening for all kinds of comebacks...

I get told I look nice sometimes (normally when I am on a night out and more made up than normal) but I think being transgendered people feel they need to say it to me more as iF it's some sort of extra compliment!
Just be happy in yourself, that's all that matters

yes, probably most days at work. Well usually it's a compliment to what I"m wearing, nice dress or shoes or whatever

All the time by my DH. Occasionally by my DD - although suspect she does it when she wants something from me. sometimes by my friends and work colleagues.

Almost never by my Mum. I think she needs to accept that I'm grown up, have made my own choices, and will not be slipping into shapeless, Laura Ashley style, flowery, below-the-knee dresses from the 1970s any time soon!

I make the effort to tell people they look nice as often as possible, as specifically as I can! For example, I try to say oh your hair looks lovely today instead of oh you look nice, or ooooh that colour looks lovely on you...

Only because when I was in halls at uni I hung about with three girls and we realised that we rarely ever said anything nice to each other, even when we made an effort, and it was silly.

I am hugely guilty of brushing off compliments though, either why a panicked 'don't be silly, no I don't!!!' Or and uncomfortable shrug. This year I'm working very hard on taking a deep breath and saying 'thank you,' smiling and not following it up with a negative about myself.

Yes, i do very often by DH or people at work, men and women. I just smile and say thank you. Sometimes I will chat about where the dress/shoes whatever is from. It helps that I am not British and most of my colleagues aren't either. The British habit of dismissing compliments is very annoying and I dare say touching on rude

DH says it to me most days. I often say it to my mum and DD too.

I do get told I look nice a fair bit, by DH (of course), family, friends & colleagues. But I also try to spread the love - if someone I know is wearing something particularly nice I will always compliment them on it - it gives them a lift & makes everyone's day a bit nicer, I think (God, I sound like Pollyanna).

I think we should all resolve to notice & compliment people as we go about our day.

I compliment loads.

Can't remember the last time someone told me I looked nice though.

I stopped someone in the High Street the other day to say she looked lovely - total 1950's look with perfect hair and make-up.

Her pleasure and surprise was better than getting complimented myself.

Okay - that makes me sound like a total stalking weirdo