What is wrong with looking mumsy?

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Just that really.

What is mumsy? I associate mumsy with being comfortable. In which case I was mumsy long before I was a mum.

can't go wrong with Converse.

Ooh Saga that's lush!

But if you like wolves for eg why not concentrate on hanging wolf pictures in your house or having a wolf iphone cover or something? It's you who likes the wolves so it's you who wants to look at them.

Blandness in dress makes total sense to me - unless I'm going to sit in front of the mirror all day looking at my wolf fleece why wear one? It'll be onlookers you get the pleasure of that, not me.

In contrast, perfume for example is different, it's the wearer who gets the sensory pleasure of that not the onlooker

(To clarify - It doesn't have to be wolf related)

I think you can, Vampyre

But they probably feel as though they are getting a wolf hug all day, Sinister

hmmm

not convinced tbh, Saga

Nice find on the Converse. There are some sick singular minds out there

Thanks, TheJumped. I'm not particularly bothered by fashion, but like clothes, if that makes any sense. I'm slightly sad because having lost a fair bit of weight recently, the world of skinny jeans, leggings etc has just opened up to me in time to become dated.

I sometimes think that Style and Beauty should be called Fashion Police

I am probably mumsy looking because all the clothes described on here as "fashionable" don't suit me or are uncomfortable. I have heels for work, but can't wait to kick them off when I get home as they are so uncomfortable. I Skinny jeans are deeply unflattering on me and uncomfortable. I find ballet flats difficult to wear because I have to claw my toes to keep them on.

So, can someone recommend clothes that are stylish and comfortable.

i suppose i like to look a nice things, i like art galleries and pretty things. i like to look at nice things. when people are interesting they make the effort to make themselves interesting to look at. they appreciate that others may like to look at them too.

i guess it's something you get or you don't!

That's kind of what I am getting at - it's for other people not oneself. I some people cba most of the time

Put in "comfortable stylish clothing" on Pinterest and you get about eleventy million ideas. No wolf fleeces, though. Strange.

Exactly! That's why my fleece with the Mona Lisa on the back is such a winner.

Why all the handwringing,of course in s&b folk discuss style,deride other styles
I see no reason this provokes a how can women say that to other women
Nor the apparent tears of oh what shall one wear

Haha, Kiki That sounds like coiture.

I love fleece. I'd wear a fleece bikini if I could find one.

sal, that's so far off the mark. I want to look good for me. I want to look in the mirror and think that, yes, I'm happy that I'm making the best of what I've got. I don't want to look like I can't be arsed....who does?

Here you go, Kiki

Eeh I'll be toasty on the beach this year!

Warm, yes! Fashionable? ...

JohnCusack'sWife well, me, a little over half the time. It's not that I actively want to look like I can't be arsed, it's that I cba and don't care about other people's opinions.

Other times I do, and make the effort and feel good, but part of that is the validation from other people admiring/approving/whatever. Because it is true that people judge on appearances. It's unavoidable. So for me, when people say I'm doing it for me, I tend to think, well, not only.

(I'm not knocking it or criticising or being highminded because I'm the same myself)

I don't think it's a euphemism for old or fat. I think it's not wanting motherhood to completely claim you, which for some people, equates to taking an interest in fashion and style.

I remember a thread on here on the same topic, where posters were saying they judged women who were groomed because that was time that could have been spent on the children

Of course people judge. I do, we all do (if we're honest). But that doesn't mean that if you make an effort you're only doing it for other people. When I look like crap I feel like crap. I don't like feeling like crap so make an effort...it's as simple as that.

Project, it's the inference that it's an either/or situation that I find irksome.

My lack of interest in fashion has nothing to do with motherhood. Before I had children I was too busy in the pub. I'd always rather read a book or a paper than a fashion mag.

Again, that's not high minded, just a fact.

It's the changing nature if it which causes the issues. So, some of you might judge me on my converse, not because they look rubbish or don't suit me, but because I have not paid sufficient attention to the changing style tides which dictate that these are now 'over'

Motherhood hadn't completely consumed me, life has.

I don't think it is that simple tbh.

I think most people's self image is partly tied up in how others see them, most people do care about the impression they give. For different people it's tied up in different things. Mightn't be looks in a straightforward sense, it might be the connotations of the look - Mumsiness or one's identity as a mum to get back to the subject of the thread.
How that is perceived by different groups of people and how much you care about what different groups think.

Dressing is an act of self presentation but it's not for one's own eyes only - how can it be?

Blue congrats on the weight loss!

I think it's two separate issues - wearing clothes and makeup which look good, and then caring about being up to the minute. The latter issue might seem more important than it is, reading S and B, because most women posting here take the first issue for granted - by posting here, they care, and clearly so do you. No-one's going to berate you for wearing skinny jeans - I wear them and have no intention of buying 'boyfriends' they don't flatter me and I just don't like them. But I feel ok ruminating on here about feeling my jackets are passé - I'm only fancying a new one and looking at Grazia for inspiration! I'm bored of my blazer and my biker - fashion is a hobby for me and lots of other posters on here, so while I did love them, I'm on to the next thing now I can't really afford a new jacket though so am hoping this lovely weather will hang around.

But if you want to buy some new things you like and will make you feel good - please start a thread and you will be given lots of links I am sure. Lots of different tastes on here and everyone slates each other's.