Do I have to wear a hat/fascinator for a wedding

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Going to a wedding next week. Last one I went to with same group of people I was about the only woman not wearing something in my hair. I stand out a bit too as I have white bobbed hair (used to be prematurely white but I'm 'growing into it' now.)
I really hate fussy things on my head. I have quite a pared down style and fascinators or other hair adornments don't really fit with that.
I have a lovely, tailored dress to wear, good shoes, nice bag and a smart coat to wear on top. Will I be ok without a hat or hat substitute and, if not, any suggestions as to what I could wear?

Oh god yes. Blinking fascinators, have yet to see one that looks good. If it's not your style don't do it. Have a lovely time.

Facinators are so 5 years ago in my neck of the woods ;-)

Just get a good blow dry and leave it at that.

Excellent, thanks for reassurance :)

Totally agree with above. If Samantha Cameron can go to the Royal Wedding without a hat, it's really not something one needs to stress about.

No one fascinating ever wore a fascinator
Absolutely no to them

No you don't have to.
Shame really - I love a hat. They should be compulsory.

No, you don't. That whole wedding guest ensemble of Coast/Karen Millen tight dress with fake tan, trowelled on make-up and teetering heels always seems to be topped off with a fascinator. It's not a good look.

The only nice fascinatior I have ever seen is the one my mum wore for her 80th birthday party. She wore it all day until it was just sort of hanging behind her ear.
That was a great party

No you don't. Very few hats or fascinators on show at the most recent weddings Ive been to

The only time I see fascinations is the dreadful pictures in the daily mail of females at ladies day on some racecourse when clearly, none of them own a mirror.

We are not in the 50's, hats are no longer compulsory and fascinators are just nasty pieces of tut

A great blow dry with a stylish outfit and a big smile sounds like a very good way to be at a wedding.
Hats are a PITA anyway, what the hell are you supposed to do with the, when you sit down?

I got married last year, the only hats were seen on mum and MIL, and one guest. No need to if you don't want to!

I love fascinators . Only nice understated ones though. But agree there is no need for them, when I go to weddings people with hats and fascinators are in the minority.

No! I have never seen a nice fascinator - quite the opposite.

I know everyone hates them Capitola Mine are quite small, not big huge fussy things.

Sorry! They do seem to be loathed, not by just me.

Maybe you have found the holy grail of fascinators!

I dunno why I like them, they are exactly the kind of thing I would usually hate. Everyone else hating them doesn't put me off though

Get a cracking blow dry and you'll knock the dodgy fascinators into a cocked hat.

I will admit to falling totally in love with a very funky fascinator last year. I begged OH to let me have it. I promised to wear it all the time (I would have worn it round tesco...) but he (wisely) put his foot down. Aside from ten minutes of thinking he was very mean he was right.

Maybe it was just the wedding I was at then. I was also one of only two women wearing tights (in March, in a very northern part of Britain). Everyone else had fake tan and bare legs, even the grannies.

unless it is very formal you do not need to; however if invite specifically mentions them then it would be a bit rude not too

no but i might wear a lovely jewelled hair comb or slide instead.

I didn't wear any to my cousins wedding last year, a hat wouldn't suit me or my choice of outfit.

I have fine hair so these things generally look like shit after a few hours....

One woman at the table with us had a lovely sharp bob and she had a sequined hair band with a sequined flower stitched on it in her hair which matched the tones of her dress. Looked gorgeous - like a flapper.

Other women with longer hair had loose side buns with really nice hair accessories rather than hats and fascinators.

no

no. The only time I wore a hat to a wedding was when the bride requested it. I looked ridiculous, as I do in hats.

No, you don't have to. As others have pointed out, Samantha Cameron wore a sparkly hair slide to the royal do and looked great. I've worn both hats and fascinators in the past but find them a bit old hat (sorry) now, so I go down the nice hair slide/hairband road at weddings and race meetings and I don't feel underdressed. Silver and diamanté look good if you're dark.

I tried on the most amazing diamanté headband in Butler and Wilson but tore myself away when I realised that it was so glam that I'd never have anywhere to wear it!