Dh is not rocking the grey look. Hair dye needed - what are good products for men?

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Personal grooming is not is thing so its down to me to sort. Where do I start? What's good? I don't dye my own hair (not grey yet) so am a bit of a novice

No harm in bringing it up. My dh would tell me if I needed my roots done because they were grey. We spend far too much time investing great meaning in fairly innocuous statements on mn.

And btw my dh dye job is good. I really would notice if he had a Grecian 2000 look.

My DH has told me I have to dye my hair because it's going grey and he says it make me look unattractive. What should I do?

I think the Martin Kemp photos illustrate really well why most men look better with their hair going back to its natural colour. I have a family member who sports the ' Paul Mcartney' look and it does look very odd. Also pretends he doesn't which is strange as no one really cares!

If I agreed I would probably dye it. If not I'd tell him to piss off.

I think the old "men look better grey" thing is ridiculous. Some do. Some don't. Hair colouring has moved on significantly since the Grecian 2000 days - as I said, my dh looks better. His old grey was ageing and his dye job is very subtle, flattering and enhances his face. Just as my highlights do. Let's not generalise, eh?

My DH has been going grey since I met him, over 17 years ago now. We were mid twenties. We are now in our 40's and he is completely silver haired - it doesn't make him look old his bad skincare regime & years of heavy drinking have done that

BIL dyed his hair once and it looked awful. If DH wanted to dye his hair I would try and persuade him not too.

Does your DH mind going grey? (I actually automatically call it silver)

Grecian 2000 and Just for Men.

but seriously if he really wants to get hairdresser to do it.

Yes for the record dh said he felt that he was looking old and more like his dad due to his grey hair (he is - but with due regard for his feelings I resisted from emphatically agreeing with him). Dh is very touched at the posters who have leapt to his defence!

I think those posters who have warned about a home dye job have a fair point - I will suggest to dh that if he wants to do something about it he needs to find a better hairdresser for a more professional cut (not just the barber around the corner from his office) and ask for their input on colour.

I disagree with 50 shades who said about it being unmanly to care about your appearance.

My dh cares very much. Takes time to make sure his hair is well cut, all eyebrows and hairy ears etc cut and tended to.
Nice aftershave.
Wears a nice shirt. Takes a lot of care.

But I think he thinks men dying their hair is really naff.
Totally naffola.

which I do too, as it happens.

And I do too.
I can't even think of anyone famous, who has had a good colour.

And if the famous can't manage it, it doesn't bode well for our men, on the street, does it.

And this is not me , anti feminist, to men or women.
I've seen quite a few women with all over colours that were too stark and not flattering, aswell.
Its just saying that colouring is difficult. Worse still for men.

But I am pretty sure you would find that many, many male celebrities have had their hair touched up. They are probably ones that you think have done nothing to it. Because they have done it well.

The ones who have obvious dye jobs clearly look crap and are t having it done properly. Do you really think that every middle aged man in Hollywood leaves their hair natural?

And to say that men dying their hair is naff is so reactionary . Ridiculous really. Why shouldn't my dh feel good about his hair (which incidentally looks great) without being labelled naff?

I do agree that the double standards going on here are pretty funny. Men with grey hair are silver foxes yet, when it's a woman, it's 'Ew look - an old person!'

And I cannot accept that home dye jobs ever look good, whether male or female. Just go to a hairdresser!

I bet Tom Cruise dyes & he looks natural.

Sorry Oblomov I didn't mean that it was unmanly only that that is a reactionary view from some. Men and women. Fashion is for girls, etc.

Like you, my DH is very well turned-out and cares about his appearance. As I said, I've seen him tutting about his few grey hairs so am wondering what my reaction would/will be if he thinks about dyeing it.

I think it'll be along these lines: don't do it for me, but if it bothers you, do something about it - but look into it carefully first.

And to be honest, I don't think Martin Kemp looks better, sexier with grey hair. But I seem to be in a minority here.

I disagree with the statement that celebrities can't manage to look good with dye jobs. A certain Brad Pitt comes to mind. His hair is grey now but he always looks good with any change of hair colour. He is obviously an extreme example. Other celebs dye their hair all the time and we have no clue until, hey presto, they reveal their grey colour. The key is in finding a good colourist and doing it before your entourage notices your grey hair.... Yeah not simple... Don't bother!

Yy - and Colin Firth at 54 must be grey but you wouldn't know

Not necessarily. My DH is 47 and although if you look closely he has some grey hairs he is essentially still dark Brown.

My hair is grey and looks great. My dh's hair is still very dark but greying at the temples. He looks great. Of course if HE wants to dye it he can... but I bet you it'll be less flattering than what he has now. And where do you stop once you start? Is he going to be the only 75 year old with dark brown hair?

On men that dye hair... look at John Stapleton who is on GMTV.. he is about 105 and looks absolutely ridiculous with his dyed hair. An ancient face and dark brown hair that looks like a syrup of figs ponked on the top of yer head is NOT a good look!

Men should embrace grey hair because it can enhance their look and yes I'm sorry it's double standards, I think women should only go grey later on and when it suits them (I have a right to say that because I started going grey far too young and it's a horrible badger type grey, not a lovely ash grey so yes I have it coloured and it looks very natural)

*plonked not ponked!

I'm not grey at 46 either frenchfancy but I fully expect to be by 54!

Surely hair is hair and you could use women's dye?
That would give you a broader colour range, plus some of them say they're multi tonal so should be less blocky.

Nooooo. Men with dyed hair look horrible. It never looks right. He would have to get it done so often to cover the root regrowth and I bet he wouldn't get it done often enough. Let him grow grey with dignity, rather than looking like a saddo. I know it's terribly sexist double standard.
Women covering grey is fine. Men look ridiculous.

Oh ffs. This thread is ridiculous! Men are not a different fucking species... Some men look ridiculous, some don't. I strongly suspect that far far more men than you imagine get their hair colour treated - you look frankly a bit thick making blanket statements that all men with coloured hair look crap/naff/ like John Stapleton.

Surely the moral is that if a man wants to colour his hair he should go to a salon, and ask that he has a natural treatment that doesn't make him look like macca. Nobody knows my dh colours his hair. When I told my dm - frankly the faintest and most judgemental person I know - she was flabbergasted. This thread is uncomfortably sexist.

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Ooh. Martin Kemp looks yummy grey.

Which looks better? I know what I think...