Dh is not rocking the grey look. Hair dye needed - what are good products for men?

[hmc]

Personal grooming is not is thing so its down to me to sort. Where do I start? What's good? I don't dye my own hair (not grey yet) so am a bit of a novice

Thank you Partridge !!!! - one helpful post at least.

if h wants to do it, let him sort it out

In what way is he not 'rocking' it? It might help to know if he's a) feeling unhappy about it, or b) needs a more current style? I agree that going grey- unless it's very premature- tends to suit most men with the right haircut.

Let him be a silver fox.

Trevor sorbie does a good one.

Good lord - if a man posted this about his wife he would be called a controlling arsehole.

Ergo...

i am stunned hmc that you give a shit!

yy please send him to Boots to ask for 'Paul McCartney No1'

Give it a big thumbs up

aloft

DP is getting increasingly grey around the temples, and he's only 28. Doesn't bother me in the slightest, except when he lets his hair get too long and the coarser grey hairs stick out at all angles. Keep it trim and it'll be grand.

More importantly, does he actually give a shit?

Martin kemp looks very handsome with natural hair. The dyed look is awful.

All I'm saying is, there's a very real chance this could happen.

Men just can't get away with dyeing grey hair imo.

My dh has not a single grey hair but a bit of a bald spot. I once asked him if he'd rather a full head of grey or a diminished head of black (as he has) and he said grey, without a doubt.

I think a major difference between women and men dying their hair is women don't care if people know it's dyed and will often have colours that aren't their natural colour, whereas men are trying to pretend it isn't dyed.

I agree with alibaba. Don't understand what you mean by 'not rocking' here. He doesn't like it, or you don't?

If it's him himself and he's absolutely determined to dye it, knowing what he does about male grey hair and dye jobs, let him go ahead and sort something out with the best possible hairdresser.

But if it's you imposing it on him when he's fine with it as it is, as said above, imagine how indignant we'd all be if it was the other way round!

jesus kemp better go on Drnick's silver fox spreadsheet

looks ahem now he is grey

I love grey hair on men. Very sexy. IMO dyed hair in men always looks badly done and very obvious for some reason. Much nicer grey or salt and peppery.

If he wants to dye it though, maybe a professional would be best.

But I think he should leave it.

He's already there Ronald. taps clipboard

Go to a hairdresser or leave it. Sorry if that isn't the advice you were hoping for, op but home dyed hair looks awful.

And while I'm here, it looks awful on women too. There is no difference.

Dh has grey hair, on the temples, but his 'barber' cuts it so well, it makes a HUGE difference. Takes years off him.

I think the difference here is OP:

1. dyeing is a gaff and most men can't be bothered with it, long term.

2. men's hair dye is so crap and awful compared to women's products. The effect is just truely naff.

3)one bad dye , wrong colour. , undoes all previous good work, because it looks so particularly awful.

4. it often looks so unnatural. Stark. Our face tones have changed. But then you get this unnatural colour.

5. men rib each other something chronic over hair dye. They would think he was a twerp.

Some amazing double standards here! S&B is full of threads discussing the best way for women to dye their hair and - while there are some rooting for the grey on women look - most seem relaxed about women covering grey. Some see it as a basic human right for a woman to dye til they die!

But a man wishes to dye his hair? The consensus is overwhelmingly against. I Think TheBuskers hit it: I think a major difference between women and men dying their hair is women don't care if people know it's dyed and will often have colours that aren't their natural colour, whereas men are trying to pretend it isn't dyed.

Probably men have to pretend it's not dyed as it's still seen as "unmanly" to care about your appearance.

FWIW, DH has a few grey hairs which he tuts about but hasn't proposed doing anything with. If he wanted to I wouldn't stop him. But neither would I help him!

I'd say that if it's bothering him then he should let a hairdresser do it rather than trying to dye it himself or for you to do it. Unless you're used to home dyeing it can be messy and difficult to get right.

I was having this same conversation with DP last month. His is very salt and pepper (which he doesn't like) The guy who cuts his hair said dying it would be a pain (on the basis his hair grows really fast) and that as long as it's short (number 2 setting on razor), you barely notice the grey. Which is true. I agree that when it starts to grow, some of the greys are very coarse and sticky outy which isn't a great look. If it really bothered DP I'd not be tackling colouring it for him or advising him to do it himself though. I'd suggest he gets the professionals on to it.

I love my dh greys, silver fox

Dyed hair probably looks less natural on men because women use make up too, so the difference in skin tone that would be more evident on a woman who has dyed hair is cancelled out by some blusher etc.

The 'fake' colouring is extended to the face as well as the hair and the strength of a particularly dark dye job can be balanced out with dark eye make up.

I think that often women who are very grey will take it as an opportunity to go for a lighter shade too, whereas men always seem to dye theirs too dark or an unnaturally gingery brown.

50shades, on double standards, you are assuming the OP's DH wants to dye.

What several of us were saying was that it wasn't clear from the post whether that was the case or whether it was the OP who thought he should dye it. If the latter, that would be double standards because very few here would sympathise with a husband who told his wife she had to colour her hair