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I could really do with looking sexy tomorrow

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fatedtopretend · 04/12/2013 23:16

Dp said a few months ago I wasn't hot enough for him, this is true before anyone starts flaming him. I need to know how to look sexy.

I am ace with make up so that bit is covered, my hair lets me down, I have a round face, overgrown fringe and shoulder length hair with slight root coverage needed.

We are going out tomorrow night after work (sweaty/dirty environment) and have 20 mins to get ready at work.

Please give me hair tips!! I want to look good

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ilovethewinter · 04/12/2013 23:23

Did your DH give any ideas to what he thinks is hot?Do you know what type of style he likes at all? You could loosely curl your hair and wear it in soft waves loose or how about fixing it up somehow on top of your head,again quite casual and loose? Have fun!

AngryFeet · 04/12/2013 23:26

He sounds like a dick

BlueStones · 04/12/2013 23:29

You're "not hot enough for him"? So tell him to do one and find someone who appreciates you.

tracypenisbeaker · 04/12/2013 23:33

this seems like a cry for help more than anything- do you really think the MN collective are going to brush off your comment there about you not being hot enough for your hubby? If you really wanted style tips you would have omitted that bit out

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fatedtopretend · 04/12/2013 23:35

ilove, he likes long, nice, styled hair, I have frizzy, out of control, knotty hair I will have literally 15 mins, a brush and a product of your choice (that I can buy from waitrose on lunch if I don't have it). Any heartless ideas?!

Re dp being a knob... Imagine beckham with subo... Not quite but I make about as much effort as her and would prefer some ideas.

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fatedtopretend · 04/12/2013 23:36

Heatless, not heartless, bloody autocorrect

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BlueStones · 04/12/2013 23:38

Tracy has put my thoughts more elegantly than I did. How are you feeling in general, Fated?

wiltingfast · 04/12/2013 23:41

OP you need to dump this man and go out looking hot for someone else. A decent man never tells his partner she's not hot enough for him.

Plenty of men adore a gorgeous head of curls. Make the most of your hair's natural attributes would be my advice. Wash your hair in the morning, bring some john frieda frizz ease creme with you and scrunch it into your hair before you go out. He has spray too which is also vg but I can't recall the name.

Work with your curls!

And dump him.

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fatedtopretend · 04/12/2013 23:42

I specifically put that bit in as I want to have advice from the more high maintenance types!

We discussed the comment he made massively and since then he has retracted it/cried about it etc but it left a scar, I am well aware that dp is technically 'out of my league' but almost 2 years later we are happy as my personality is far better than the dolly birds he is used to

I would just like to make an extra effort and need advice as I am a buffoon when it comes to hair.

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MistAllChuckingFrighty · 04/12/2013 23:43

Get him a Blow Up Doll with a lovely blonde wig. Send them out, while you stay home and watch The Jungle with a box of Milk Tray.

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fatedtopretend · 04/12/2013 23:44

Wilting, I wish I had curls! I don't! Natural ginger Afro, just frizz-no way of curling without 2 hours of diffusing

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lackingimagination · 04/12/2013 23:45

Ok I'm with everyone else on this - I think you need to explore this problem further.
But it will take more than 24 hours for you to do this so in the meantime if YOU want to make yourself feel/look more sexy for YOUR sake then I would suggest dry shampoo at the end of your work day to give you big, luscious locks. Just make sure you use the correct colour if you're brunette.

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fatedtopretend · 04/12/2013 23:46

I'm dyed very dark brown lacking, what could I do after the dry shampooing?

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chinley · 04/12/2013 23:48

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lackingimagination · 04/12/2013 23:50

Having re-read this thread I withdraw my comment about dry shampoo. You need to address the real issue here.

burnishedsilver · 04/12/2013 23:51

I agree why the others. You need a new man not new hair.

You dont have time for it tomorrow but have you tried the babyliss big hair?

Get a blow dry at lunch time tomorrow.

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fatedtopretend · 04/12/2013 23:52

I really do want it for myself, pre dd I was so, so into how I looked. Post dd I don't have the time (single mum since pregnant).

I don't have time to dye so know I will need to do the back combing height thing but would like to know how to make it look nice and not rushed

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lackingimagination · 04/12/2013 23:52

Sorry fated but I have been in your position before. I avoided it and tried to improve my appearance on the premise that it was for my own sake but it never helps no matter how fabulous you end up looking.

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fatedtopretend · 04/12/2013 23:59

Burnished, I only get 20 mins lunch max do no lunchtime preening is possible.

I appreciate how it sounds to everyone but I do understand what dp said and his state of mind when he said it, it was an inexcusable thing to say but I do understand where it came from.

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burnishedsilver · 04/12/2013 23:59

Toni and guy have a spray, like a dry shampoo, that has a temporary colour in it to cover roots. You might find something similar in the supermarket. Was this night out a last minute thing? You haven't left yourself much time.

zzzzz · 05/12/2013 00:01

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MistAllChuckingFrighty · 05/12/2013 00:15

Will you give him a lovely BJ later on in the evening, to show your appreciation that he went out in public with you ?

What a Prince Among Men.

Twinklestein · 05/12/2013 00:24

O rly? I hope you said he's not good enough for you & if you split now it would be win win.

Seriously, you'll never be 'hot enough' for a man who says that.

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fatedtopretend · 05/12/2013 00:34

Burnished-it's only been organised tonight (realised curry deal on+available sitter) therefore no prep time apart from episticking my face tonight!

Everyone commenting on the state oft relationship, no, it isn't perfect, no we aren't champagne and flowers types. We are however, brutally honest with each other.

I'm not hot enough for him, he isn't intelligent enough for me.

We both have to work on things and accept that,

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