Wedding in 4 weeks time in Haywards Heath 2 months pregnant - what to wear to be comfy and what to do about DD?

[eleonorefrenchie]

Hi there ladies,

Am getting married in 4 weeks time here in Haywards Heath to DP and can't wait for the day to come now. However, as will be 3 months pregnant then am just worried what I should wear to feel ' comfy' if you see what I'm saying.

My other worry is DD as she is only 2 and is really struggling with toilet training. I'm just worried she'll have a big accident as that's all she seems to be doing at the moment.

While I'm here, has anyone got any good names which work in both English and French? (In case you're wondering, I'm French and hubby-to-be is English)

Thanks! X

By 'comfy' do you mean underwear? (Going from your previous thread)

Have you got a dress already?

Hiya tethersend - yes got this dress: www.oxfam.org.uk/shop/bridal/wedding-dresses/unbranded-size-6-white-frilly-layered-wedding-dress-hd_100161938 What do you think?

And I yeah, I meant comfy underwear as think going to the loo in that might be rather tricky tbh!

Id go for pull ups.i know this might be a step back but for one day, it means both you and dd can relax. You could get a different make of nappy from what she is used to and call them special party pants?

On the name front hows about ghislaine pronounced like 'shis-lane'for a girl, i think it is ghislain pronounced 'shis-lan'for a boy.

Eloise
Isabelle
Marie
Louis
Xavier

Off the top of my head... will keep thinking!

And I wouldn't worry about your DD, 4 weeks is a long time for little ones. I would cut out nappies altogether though (if you haven't all ready) - you've got time for an intensive 'no turning back' potty training course.

Bumblebee78 - Know what you're saying but she's a very stroppy 3 year old at the moment who is literally adamant about wearing big girl knickers even though all she does is poo in them. Do you think I can go cold turkey and get her into pull ups for the big day?

Love Louis as a name!! If it's a boy that could be a very strong candidate. Any ideas on girls names ladies?

And yes am also worrying about what underwear I should be wearing on D-Day (AKA wedding day) with my 6 layer dress?arrghhh

Oops countrymummy13 - just seen Eloise, Isabelle and Marie!! Sorry!! Love Eloise actually!!! Thanks x

Just realised I said DD was 3 in one of my previous posts. She is actually 2! Blame the iPhone

Have all you ladies fallen asleep on me?x

I think a combination of reasoning and bribery is needed with DD.

Explain that going to the toilet will be difficult and that she might make a mess of her pretty dress. Then a huge bribe for wearing pull ups. At two ice cream for tea every day for a week would have worked on DD2.

DD1 would sensed it was a different, special day and just cooperated. She happily wore pull ups on holiday at the same age, she didn't need telling that peeing in a hired car seat would be bad.

You could go for pull ups too?

I can't believe so many ladies are recommending pull-ups.

I think this would be confusing for her and also such a shame to undermine her fantastic efforts to go to big pants.

I took my DDs nappies off at 20 months and we stayed in for 3 weeks. I didnt put knickers on her, just left her nude on bottom. The first week I did a lot of mopping up. By day 21 she put knickers on and has been dry ever since. (well, mostly!)

4 weeks really is a long time. Is she old enough to appreciate a reward/sticker chart? You could give her a sticker for every successful toilet trip with a pre agreed agreement that a certain amount of atickers gets a trip to the toy shop (or whatever).

Anyway, if on the day you make sure you leave plenty of time to sit her on the loo just before the ceremony she'll be fine, I'm sure.

Country mummy 13.- I think you've hit the nail on the head tbh as there is literally no way DD would go back to pull ups now (let's say she is a rather stubborn character!) but she still has accidents in her knickers most days I will definitely get her on the loo before everything kicks off but as it's going to be a long evening am really worried she'll have an accident and no one will be sober enough to sort her out if you see what I'm saying.

Have you got any ideas what kind of underwear I could wear with the 6 layer dress though because I really don't know what would be best x

Oh yeah we are trying a sticker chart but she isn't interested in it in the slightest and am at the end of my tether how to make understand how important it is!!!

I think you've just got to give it time. She'll get better with age. She is still v young. I used to make sure we had a strict toilet routine, before meals, before getting in the bath etc.

As for the wedding you'll just have to hope for the best I think. Perhaps set yourself 2 hourly alarms on your phone to make sure someone takes her to the loo? And prep her
long before hand, "you don't want to spoil your special dress" etc.

I think generally reward charts don't have much meaning for the under 3s. What about a sticker to put on herself?

As for your own underwear... mmm, I'm not really the right person to advise. What are you concerned about?

Can you ask a member of your family to be on 'toilet duty'? So there's someone else to look after her if you get caught up in conversation with a great uncle...

I'm the other way round OP, English married to a Frenchman.

I like the names Manon, Aurelie, Capucine, Amelie, Sebastian, Gabriel, Olivier, Louis

Countrymummy13 - Yes I realise it's going to take her time but DD rejects all kinds of rewards and just shouts 'knickers mummy knickers mummy' (and that's something else, I speak to her in French as we do OPOL but as DP doesn't understand the language at all it can be rather difficult at times, plus she always answers in English but that's another bone of contention!) Well I'm not sure whether I should go for something skimpy or big knickers as I am needing the loo a lot at the moment (as am preggers with no. 2!) so don't want to be faffing around too much if you see what I mean?

Twinklestein - Well I really don't know as MIL will likely get rather tipsy and my mother will just smile gracefully but kind of not do anything and let DD run around aimlessly:( That's v interesting! Have you got kids too? If so, do you try and do OPOL with them (where possible obviously!) I literally loove the name 'Aurélie'!! That's given me a great idea now - only obstacle is DP (future DH)!

Countrymummy13 - sorry, forgot to say am mainly worried about the 6 layers on my dress and then having to pull everything down!!

Love Manon and also Chantal

Maybe should just go 'commando' - saves the maximum amount of time!!

Countrymummy13 - don't know about that!!! I like to be covered up lol!

Yes, I've got 2, boy, girl.

We try OPOL but tend to forget...

They speak French at school.

Twinklestein - I am prone to speaking to mine in English to as only speak French when I go and see the family in France about once a year!

*too

My H & I speak in both French & English so I figure they're getting both, if not OPOL...

I want them to be absolutely bilingual so they can go to French uni.

Mine have been in France for a month with grandmere as I've just had an operation, so I figure they're getting a good dose of pure French...

I meant to ask - where is your family in France?