The Crepe Escape

[Cremolafoam]

We were getting to the end.

I loved village life, particularly on the days I didn't work. I used to mooch off after school drop off with the other Mums at someone's house. We used to spend the morning drinking coffee and eating biscuits, and then someone would say "fancy lunch?" and we used to slope off to the Spar for oven chips and frozen pizza. This would be accompanied by lots of wine and some used to smoke joints cigarettes. Then at 3, one used to say "Spose we'd better go and collect the little fuckers." They did this every day. I was so envious.

And some days we would have a kebab from the van!!

MrsS, you can do that in our London village, innit

I have just had copy back from a client saying 'please change quote, he would never say that'. Er...he did. I have the transcript to prove it. Change it if you like but he did say it....

Lol at the dope smoking village laydees . My memory of doing the school run when dd was small was of pyjama clad 4 wheel drivers dumping and running.( I never did that EVER)

Have had a ruck with my sister so am licking my wounds today. The crap thing is , when she shoved me out of her house last night in a blind red rage, I had no idea what the hell I said that enraged her
Feeling stung today.

DD2 and DH just got in. DD1 loved the school, did well in the exams apparently and they said they would be "delighted" to have her.

Yay MrsS, result!

We have only annoyingly wholesome school runners at the littlies' school. No, really, some of them actually run. In their dayglo gear with the kids on scooters or bikes. Bursting with health and all-round goodness, they are.

Cremo, I suspect that feelings are running exceptionally high in your family at the moment after your mum's do. Throw families together in fraught manner, such things.

We have runners at the school too, but I've joined seen them at various pissups too

Fab, MrsS

Cremo, big hugs {{{}}} Did she explain what enraged her after?

YY to family gatherings not being good for "emotions." A family gathering of my family is like a party at the Queen Vic (in more ways than one) with something usually going horribly wrong (usually due to alcohol consumption). My mother's brother didn't speak to her for two years after she said to him on one occasion "I expect the next time I see you, you'll be in your box." At my Aunt's funeral the other week, one of my aunts was explaining to my cousin (who is adopted) why she never sent her Christmas cards, or birthday cards to her DCs - "It's not like you're properly family, is it?" I said very sweetly "Oh like you Auntie C - you married in, so you're not a blood relative either." And dragged cousin away before she attacked Auntie C with the bottle she was carrying.

If I don't just dive in I'll never keep up.

Sisters can trigger the blind rage more quickly and effectively than anyone else, I find. It's rare but intense. In our case, a little reflection often reveals my mother's hand in it, somewhere behind the scenes.

Dd seems to be taking Y9 exams in her stride - so much so that she went out shopping with a friend on Sat and to see Star Trek with another friend on Sun, while I was visiting sick sister.

Other mothers are in overdrive, micro-managing revision. Fortunately I don't see much of them or I'd be overwhelmed with guilt. As it is, I reckon if dd hasn't done enough work, she'll soon find out without me going to all the trouble and exhaustion of nagging her.

On the other hand I do have misgivings about spending 2 grand on braces when I still have to remind her twice a day to brush her teeth

Mrs S - congrats to DD on school - did DH approve in the end?

My Relationship with my sister has always been fraught - I wish it could be otherwise. Now as we're in different countries it has improved somewhat.

alto taking DS1 to the orthodentist today for a first control - his canines haven't come through - in our family they seem to rest horizontal in the gum and have to be hooked down. Not a nice procedure. Obviously we are not vampires.

Hello all. Ds is in a primary school of 100 (in total), but will go to a secondary of either 1,000 or 2,000 (in total).
MrsS - congrats on school - has dh accepted it?

Mum is going in right direction - now in rehab (not the Any Winehouse version ) and is making cups of tea and rolling -fags- straws. She has a limp but they think that will go. Apparently latest thoughts are she had a heart attack about 6 weeks ago and has been walking around with fluid on the lungs ever since! I am very tired (emotional and physically) spent most of yesterday on the edge of tears.

Cremo has your sister told you what you said? I have no sisters so no experience of this!
I could talk about village life - very different to living in a city!

Mrs s that's great about school for dd
I hope dh has come round to it.and well done her on the entrance exam

Yes sisters, no idea what's going on still. I'm pretty sure I was just in the crossfire of something else. Hope so anyway. thanks for hugs. Feeling a bit unsupported ATM with one thing and another.

Hello BD - so glad to hear your mum is on the road to recovery. Very scary though to think one can have a heart attack and not even know know. It's understandable you're exhausted and emotionally overwrought.

BD glad to hear your mum is out of the woods. Not surprised you're knackered - it takes it out of you, emotional stuff. And you too Cremo.

I am feeling pleased for two friends of mine who have both had IVF with donor eggs and have both just had positive tests

Although I do know that this is just the first stage and that there is a very long way to go...

MI - hope the pregnancies stick; that must be stressful.....

Last week, my pg colleague went on maternity leave a day early; after much puffing and blowing and wailing about backache she was convinced she was going into labour and was rushed home in a taxi at 10am. The mums amongst us all exchanged knowing looks.....sure enough, eight days on, and no sign of a baby. If I had a pound for every first-time expectant mum who swears they are going to be early, they can just feel it......nooooo, you don't get off that easily.

Bd care to join me in a midweek glass of wine ?I'm glad your mum is on the mend.
Thanks BTM

MI that's rather wonderful news for your TTC friends. Fingers crossed for them both.

I am planning a huge bath this evening. I may use A Lot of bubble bath. And candles. And have an early night. I've got a pre-op assessment for The Hystericalectomy at 8am.hoping to get my op date too.

I actually did convince myself I'd have my babies early, based on my mum and sister, ignoring the fact they are both sort of clinically underweight...

....and then DD1 was two days early (would have been earlier but she was an absolute bugger coming out) and DD2 was 16 days, taking me rather by surprise. There is a thread on MN, probably still exists, in which I went into labour.

MI, did you have a live-birth thread?

DD was a week late, DS 10days late. Dcousin's son has just had a baby girl (well wife has!) 5 1/2 weeks early
And great news about the IVF's - fingers crossed for them.

Cremo, the bath and candles (and wine!) idea sounds lush

I was convinced that mine wouldn't bother coming on time. Or early. So convinced was I of this fact that at a week past my due date with dd I was still walking over the hills and far away with my dog twice a day for hours (lived out in a village in those days) and was very much on my own as then-h worked away in London. The neighbours got all antsy and asked me if I had a mobile phone. I didn't. I just told them it would be fine by me if I gave birth in a field. Bizarrely I really didn't fret. When I did sort of half-heartedly go into labour at 2 weeks overdue, I drove myself 6 miles to the hospital. Didn't realise that wasn't a good plan until too late. Labour hurts a bit. Who knew?

(See, I wasn't always anxiety-ridden)

Hope you feel better after your bath, Crem and that you will get some useful info tomorrow (i.e. the op date).

BD, great news about your mum. Not surprised you feel ragged. Be good to yourself!

BD - so glad to hear your mum is up and about. Hope she continues to mend quickly. Take care of yourself though, you've been through a lot.

Crem - sympathies re your sister, why do these things have to be so difficult? I have a terrible relationship with mine and haven't had any contact from her for over 2 years (her choice, not mine). I don't know what it is with siblings that can make you feel sooo bad - they just know the buttons, I guess.

My dcs were all, thankfully, late, which is how I wanted it. Ds1 was due right after New Years and as he was PFB I wanted his little lungs to be completely ready and him to be in tip top condition prior to arrival and he obliged by waiting til 11 Jan. I didn't want dd to be early as I hadn't got all the baby crap ready for her months ahead of time and I didn't want ds2 to be early as I had just bought a new Harry Potter book and knew I wouldn't be able to read it while breastfeeding as it was too heavy to hold in one hand. I have no idea why younger siblings think their parents don't care as much about them as they do about the first born.

BD - good news about your Mum. And yes, do take care of yourself.

Strops - I was in denial both times about impending birth. DH was in Romania, I was in London. I reached my due date with DD1 and hadn't bought so much as a nappy or babygro. A friend frogmarched me round Sainsburys at Nine Elms chucking stuff into a trolley while I trailed after her saying "I think this is a bit unnecessary, I'm sure nothing's going to happen for a while." (I was right; I was induced a week later.)

With DD2 I was completely ignoring the fact that I was having a baby, to the extent that I was packing my bag when I was having contractions every few minutes. I was on my own too, but fortunately (?) my mother had come to London for the day as we had planned to go shopping. I finally finished packing my bag and went downstairs to flag down a taxi while she looked after DD1. DD2 was born 12 hours later. DH didn't make it back in time - I called him and said cheerily, I'm in labour, off to the hospital to have the baby in a minute. (THis was a Tuesday.) His response was "I'm really busy at work, there's no way I'm going to be able to get back before the weekend." His boss then took the phone off him and said "He'll be on tomorrow's flight."

Fab news about IVFs!