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MrsSchadenfreude · 13/04/2013 14:03

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How did we finish the other thread so fast...? Less than a month.

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Cremolafoam · 18/04/2013 22:17

Strops I am really happy for you and your dh. That's just wonderfulThanks

Herbs I so hope that things work out with schools. Agree with others that lots can change between now and September.

MI I think he's a bit of a lovey isn't he? Wasn't much good at the cha cha chaaaaa. HahahaaaGrin

Well my cup of shit overfloweth here today . Dh has been signed off on stress by the gp following months of corporate bullying. He's a broken man frankly. Dd is slogging away for exams and toying with full blown hysteria. We are trying to batten down the hatches and stay calm and quiet. I am using all my will to not spontaneously combust.Sad

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MrsSchadenfreude · 18/04/2013 22:22

Oh Crem. Sad That is shit. IS anything being done about the bullying?

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MrsSchadenfreude · 18/04/2013 22:49

That sounds horrendous. Sounds like the company need some kind of big legal case to teach them a lesson.

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Cremolafoam · 18/04/2013 22:56

We are working on it mrs s. we've got a fantastic solicitor who is an employment area expert as well as our good friend.but ATM dh needs to get better first.Hmm
And after that move jobs. This has been going on for over a year. There's only so much you can take before you really need to walk away.
The bottom line is the woman just doesn't like him. That's basically it.
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Anyhoo. The St. Christopher's skool menu for the week is entirely vegetarian I think. How novelGrin

CointreauVersial · 18/04/2013 23:16

Crem, how awful.

No-one deserves to face that kind of thing day in day out. I hope your DH feels stronger after a bit of time away from it all.

Blackduck · 19/04/2013 06:13

Oh Cremo so sorry to hear that. Anything like that is so stressful. My dad had something similar when I was a teen and it was awful - he. Ended up with a dose of shingles asa result and was off work for three months as a result.
Glad you have good legal rep, but yes, in the end, for his (and your) sanity he needs to get out.

House is nice a toasty this am - could be because dp left the oven on all night Hmm

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bigTillyMint · 19/04/2013 07:00

Cremo, sounds awfulSad Fingers crossed he can get back on his feet and find another job,

MrsS, are you planning to live out that way instead of Elephant then? Or will your DD's board? Both look lovely - I would go and see them and if you and your DD's like them, go for it!

BD, that's my trick, but it's usually a burner and not for more than half an hour or so!

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Blackduck · 19/04/2013 08:40

Mrs S those schools look fab - can I go :)

Cremo - hope life is calmer today, and that both dp and dd are okay.

BTM - he had left a ring on as well (if he thinks this can get him out of cooking he has another think coming)

ruby your hammer/washing machine made :) - I have the wool wash and the hand wash this weekend - oh joy! Plus the house needs cleaning/hoovering - never lived somewhere where the dust accumulates so quickly - anyone got a theory on that?

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motherinferior · 19/04/2013 09:28

Crem, how awful. Stropps, how fabulous.

Different sorts of Flowers to you both.

hattymattie · 19/04/2013 09:49

Oh Strop's I'm so pleased for you. My friend's DH got an all clear recently. It must be such a relief. Crem Sad.

BD - I don't know if it's a man thing but they'll do nothing for months and then decide to start some DIY at a really inconvenient time like late evening - I think just to prove their point.

Mrs S - the schools look fabulous. I'd love some nice British schools that encourage rather than try to break students. At the moment I have a DD who thinks she can't do maths even though she's great at it. 12/20 is near the top of the class (this is in a selective school of good students). Very demotivating. The kids think they're no good and then usually get great marks in the Bac'. I would love a system based on carrot rather than stick!

Feeling very grumpy and Francois Hollande is going to scrap the family allowance and raise our taxes. One or the other would seem fair. If he think's we're rich he needs to come and look at our cracked roof an leaky loo Hmm

Stropperella · 19/04/2013 09:56

I have a bit of a prejudice against that St Chris place, as ex-MIL sent her eldest son there as he was a bit "different" and he came out of there a lot more "different", according to h's account (it was his older b). However, that was a looong time ago. Doesn't look like the ethos has changed that much,though. Grin He got really pissed off with the vegetarian diet. :) Arguably, his "differentness" wasn't the school's fault...

I hope your trip goes smoothly, MrsS, and your mother behaves herself. And that you manage to get the schools thing all done and dusted so that you all know where you are come Sept.

Crem, your poor dh. I hope he is feeling better soon and that your lawyer will get a good result - and quickly.

Many thanks for all good wishes and happiness Grin. I am sure we will be celebrating this interim progress when we get a chance between jobs. Tonight we are enjoying the "delights" of Swindon as dh is taking dd to a McFly concert. Hahahaha. He is kicking himself for agreeing, nay even volunteering, to do this now. He volunteered in a slightly beery moment of madness before Christmas. Ds and I are going to be hanging out and eating pizza as no under-14s are allowed at the concert. Am sure dh will be the oldest by about 50 years . I can't quite remember how we ended up going along just to hang about. Something about ds desperately just wanting to stay in a hotel. Or something. Poor dog has to go to kennels. Oops, which reminds me. Must dash.

hattymattie · 19/04/2013 09:58

Stropp's your poor DH will be the male - I think you should do the right thing here and leave him with DSWink

hattymattie · 19/04/2013 09:59

er that should read "the only male"

herbaceous · 19/04/2013 10:36

Marvellous marvellous news re your DH strops. And good to see he's celebrating in such, er, novel style. I think 'the male' was about right. Though I do have a weakness for the McFly ditty 'It's all about you'.

But crem - what utter shitness re your DH's work. Why are there so many of these insecure, incompetent arseholes in positions of authority? Were they given the job by similarly insecure/incompetent arseholes? I think this could be the problem...

I am now calmer re schools. It seems that the second site of the school, where DS will be, is only one-form entry, so for the next year he'll only be with 60 other children (reception and year 1). Yet get the benefits of being part of a large, well-regarded school - good teachers, expertise, after-school clubs, etc. They even have Leyton Orient come in to teach football!

Choice 1 has four-form intake (though only reception, year 1 and 2 on one site) - so 480 children on one site!

wilbur · 19/04/2013 10:40

Oh MrsS, have just had a tear in my eye looking at ACS website! I grew up very close to it, and as we had lived in US and mum was Canadian, we had lots of friends among the lovely expat Americans. We used to go to their awesome fetes and Christmas dos and it's the most brilliant place to get the skinny on upcoming yard sales so that you can buy amazing American washing machines and dryers from people moving back to the States. Americans won't go anywhere without a decent tumble dryer Grin. How would dd1 get there? It's quick on the train to Cobham, but the school is a way from the station, do they have a bus? Brilliant place though, and worth the journey. [gets misty eyed about youth in stockbroker belt Confused]

Crem - so sorry about dh's situation, that's very crap. My dh was bullied at work last year and then fired in a very dodgy way, but couldn't face a tribunal (basically it would have been presided over by the head of the company who was the bully/liar/thief/cheat who ground him down in the first place). At the time I wanted him to fight as there was quite a lot of money at stake, and we needed it, but he decided to walk away and that was probably the right thing to do. Anyway, he has been at his new job nearly a year now and is very happy and getting his confidence back. I doubt he will ever leave this place, though, or ask for a raise or promotion or anything as he has been out of work too much in the past few years to ever take any risks or venture anything new ever again Sad. Still, I have a happy dh again which is main thing Smile. I hope your dh find a way through too.

Stropps - very pleased to hear the good medical news. How marvellous. Grin

Cremolafoam · 19/04/2013 11:57

Thanks so much for kind words re dh.
It will take time. Yes it seems arse- bosses are rife.
Dd calmer today too. I think she was probably picking up on our stress.

We are doing a bit of DIY today just to keep our minds off things and also try to achieve small things.

wilbur · 19/04/2013 12:46

I fully endorse the DIY route to sanity, Crem. When things are terrible it's good to have something to point to and say, well at least that is better than it was. After my mum died I painted a lot of window frames Grin. Although don't try wallpapering with dh as that will end in divorce.

Cremolafoam · 19/04/2013 12:54

Agree Wilbur . Wallpapering is the road to 'trial separation" as demonstrated by my mum and dad: dad hung an entire room with vast brown flowery 70s wallpaper upside down Shock
All the poppies were growing downwards . The fact that this sticks in my head says a great deal about how serious it was at the time.Grin

Will stick to minor sandpapering and paint touch ups . Might stretch to a new loo seat , but don't want to push it.(!)

Blackduck · 19/04/2013 12:56

YY to DIY - I had a friend who had a couple of months off with stress, she gave herself achieveable 'projects' - she just hoped that her 7 year old (at the time) didn't notice and start demanding that she collect him straight from school rather than him going to the after school club Grin

Unfortunately dp does NOT see DIY as a means of de-stressing, as far as he is concerned the letters stand fro Don't Involve Yourself.
I have decided I will have my window seat even if the bloody bathroom doesn't get done, so am going to contact the carpenter and get him going on it.

Yes Ruby, we are more rural - I thought the air would be cleaner, but maybe there are just less places for the dust to stick!

hattymattie · 19/04/2013 13:23

Grin at poppies growing downwards - why don't men see this sort of thing. It sounds like my mismatched bathroom tiles. Did your Dad change them Crem?

DIY seems to cause lots of family tensions round here - especially plumbing which usually finishes in having to call an actual plumber to fix DH's DIY disasters.

BD - I'd love a window seat to sit and read Jane Austen on (for some reason). Dressed in an appropriate Jane Austeny dress.

Blackduck · 19/04/2013 13:36

Hatty, exactly! Mine will have built in storage and pew ends and...'a place to rest a becon sandwich' (dp and the carpenter!)
Actualy the more I think about it....and yes, Austin, P&P or Persuasion...

Grin at upside down poppies. My mother wallpapers far better than my father (or did), despite the fact she's five foot nothing.