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How can I wash my DD's hair, but still keep it dirty?

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freddiefrog · 06/03/2013 10:43

Sorry, contender for most confusing thread title ever, but can't think how else to word it. Not particularly beauty or style either but seemed most relevant topic.

Anyway, DD has a big school performance on Friday and is having her hair French braided and school have asked for kids the not to have their hair washed after tonight as its easier to braid dirty hair - there are 35 girls needing to have their hair braided in a fairly short period of time

However, she has a school swimming lesson tomorrow morning and as she has quite sensitive skin and scalp, if she doesn't bath/wash her hair that evening, she ends up quite itchy and sore from the chlorine

So, I'll need to wash it tomorrow night, but is there anything I can do/not do or put on it to make it dirty again for Friday?

I was going to get her a swimming cap, but they're not allowed them, and there's no one to help her put in on anyway

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GandalfsHat · 06/03/2013 10:46

Leave in conditioner? Always makes my hair feel a it 'firmer', I have very fine hair, but lots of it, so it helps.

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 06/03/2013 10:47

Tbh I'd just wash and teacher would have to lump it. My dd has really sensitive skin and there's no way I'd not be able to wash the chlorine out. Your not being awkward ur just trying to stop your dd getting an itchy sore scalp. :)

Unacceptable · 06/03/2013 10:48

Would a very thorough rinse be enough to get rid of the chlorine? If not I would wash with the mildest shampoo available, perhaps a baby shampoo.

Are you not able to do a braid yourself before school so that her hair can be washed anyway?

Disclaimer Not an expert on hair in any way, shape or form *

BabyRoger · 06/03/2013 10:48

I would just wash it. It should still braid fine. You could put some hair spray or dry shampoo on it in the morning to 'thicken' it up a bit.

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HavingAnOffDAy · 06/03/2013 10:50

A dry shampoo spray on the day she needs braids may help to thicken it up?

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 06/03/2013 10:50

The teacher could always just spray with a bit of water. I don't think leave in products r a good idea on sensitive skin either. Maybe just tell teacher about spraying with water.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 06/03/2013 10:50

Wash it and when it is wet put some product,mousse is probably best, in it. It will make the hair more cooperative when styling.

LemonPeculiarJones · 06/03/2013 10:51

Just wash it. Your daughter's comfort is more important than braiding-ease. Don't worry about it.

I guess a bit of curl-cream type product would make it less squeaky clean though.

Smellslikecatspee · 06/03/2013 11:00

I was coming on to say dry shampoo too Grin
I've just discovered this, something about it seems to help, and my hair is just a bit longer than chin lenght

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freddiefrog · 06/03/2013 11:11

Dry shampoo - do you man Batiste? Or shampoo for dry hair? Sorry, being a bit thick.

I usually condition, mainly because you can't get a brush anywhere near it if you don't, I don't know what's the lesser of the 2 evils - conditioned hair, or hair you can't brush

I'll pack some mousse and hairspray for the day too.

I'm going to be helping with hair and make-up on the day, so I'll be around but I can't do french braids to save my life and just wanted to make it as easy as possible, without leaving DD uncomfortable

Said teacher is already shirty, as I won't allow her to cover my other daughter's arms with henna. Having spent years battling eczema and finally having it under control, there's no way I'm risking going back there

Thanks!

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scaevola · 06/03/2013 11:14

I'd wash it, and then when nearly dry put on some ordinary (not leave in) conditioner. Not too much (makes it lank), but just a bit will leave it very slightly sticky which will have the same effect as being slightly dirty.

BabyRoger · 06/03/2013 11:18

Just condition it too! I french plait my 3 year olds hair all the time. It is fine, whispy baby hair (although loads of it). No products at all in it and it plaits fine.

Bit of hair spray or the batiste stuff on hair that was washed and conditioned the night before will make plaiting easy.

Hope your DD has a great time!

(PS If you wanted to learn to french plait - I learnt from a you tube video!)

Still18atheart · 06/03/2013 11:18

What play is she in which requires henna and braided hair??

bulletwithbutterflywings · 06/03/2013 11:19

I would wash it as usual then put batiste in the morning she is having it braided. :)

woodsies1975 · 06/03/2013 11:21

I use a bit of DH's hair wax on DD's hair when she wants it french plaiting after it's been washed.

Picturesinthefirelight · 06/03/2013 11:29

I have a dd with allergies who dances.

Hairspray works wonders. I won't suggest mousse as she may react to it.

During show weeks I don't wash dd's hair at all

And Grimas face paint/stage make up by the way. Have used it in loads if allergic children over the years (patch test first).

Picturesinthefirelight · 06/03/2013 11:30

Or hair gel. Not as likely to cause a reaction.

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freddiefrog · 06/03/2013 11:33

Thank you!

I already have some Batiste so I'll bung some on on Friday morning.

I've got a bag of kit to take with me so I'll take wax and stuff as well. There will be several girls with the same issue

Re the henna, we have compromised. Brown felt tip drawn on before they go on stage and washed off straight after so she should be fine but Teacher seems to feel the need to make a dig about it every time I see her

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Eskino · 06/03/2013 11:35

Swimming cap?

kerstina · 06/03/2013 11:37

Hair oil such as argan oil or moraccon hair oil would do the job but not too much as it will look really dirty (greasy)

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freddiefrog · 06/03/2013 11:38

Pictures - thanks, I'll recommend that stuff to the school.

Face paint and make up is usually ok as its put on at the last minute and then she washes it straight off. It's the henna that was concerning me - it has to be put on a couple of days in advance, then it takes time to fade. Brown felt tip works just as well, so it's that or nothing

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Picturesinthefirelight · 06/03/2013 11:42

Face paint is one if the main things dd reacts to and sometimes she has to be in it for a long time like matinee days.

We also use Kryolan but some children react to that.

To a certain extent she has decided to put up with some irritation - she's 11 now and takes it seriously having done panto and semi-pro stuff but for a school play its just not worth it. It's more to me about not making someone feel left out eg when doing a dance from cats finding a way to do simple cats make up in an allergic child.

In rubbish at hair and I do agree its easier to do buns and plaits on dirty hair.

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freddiefrog · 06/03/2013 12:00

Facepaint does make her itch a bit, but she usually goes last in the make up queue, then goes to wash it straight off when she's done. She's never in it any length of time

We use that Snazaroo (?) stuff at school at the moment, but I'll suggest that stuff, as I know there are a few red itchy faces by the end of the night

Thanks!

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