Sodding evening receptions.

[TenaPenny]

I'm not a fan really. Cheapskate option plus never quite right.
Also style nightmare. This is marquee at smart pub. Second marriage.
A quoi porter?

I think if i got married again I'd have no meal and JUST an evening reception

Wear the shoes and whatever goes with them.

And lordy trousers are fine for an evening do.

magenta shoes sound gorgeous

I wore a trouser suit to my sisters v posh wedding no one batted an eyelid. Cigarette trousers were in fashion then too!

go full on slut with shorts/tights and heels

They're always in.

If I got married Again I'd do stand up champers and canapés then fuck off on honeymoon.

have told dd to elope

Yes they are tbh as are loafers etc. So wear them

See receptions are best bit, let kids run riot and get sloshed, none of the keeping them quiet during the ceremony malarkey...

Trousers fine, slinky top and sexy shoes will make it!

Where are your cigarette pants from? I need some new ones.

I think they sound fine, if worn with killer heels. But black trousers can be a bit 'Mum in the pub' if you're not careful.

Wear your Westwood - any excuse!

I hate evening-only invites too. Soooo awkward when you turn up and never know how much to give/what to buy presents wise as feel that I shouldn't give as much as if were all all-day guest but don't want to be tight either.

Cigarette pants sound great - with nice nails, swishy hair a la Olivia Palermo or similar you will look tres chic amongst all the floral Coast hideousness.

I'm not over-keen on evening only invites either, and don't even get me started on those tacky poems...

I agree trousers will be fine

OK so if one is invited to an evening reception only, the bride and groom are cheapskates?!

DH and I got married on a shoestring. The venue where we were married could only hold 50 people, so 50 people were invited to the wedding proper and the meal afterwards as we HAD NO MONEY. Our friends and work colleagues who came to the evening reception weren't in the least bit offended because they understood the situation and were happy to be there and share in our day.

I am absolutely dumbfounded that people actually think like this.

I don't think cheapskate at all (and I think comments upthread were in jest), I just think it's a little awkward when you turn up and everyone else is half cut and it's hard to know what to do with regards to gift giving. (Personal bugbear though: being a good enough friend to be invited to the hen weekend (presumably because bigger numbers = cheaper weekend for everyone) but not to the whole day - bizarre).

I don't think it's cheapskate at all to just invite people to an evening do. I do however think it creates a two-tier wedding that can offend some people (not me!). What I do take offence at is an invite to a wedding do with a wedding list/cash request poem included. I think it's unfair when the B&G expect people to come to the evening reception, pay for all their own drinks, not be offered any food, AND bring a £50 cash gift. And so I think in those circumstances it can look as though evening guests are just invited to use as extra cash cows.

Yes but lots of people do cater for food in the evening and Lots of people just take a card.

All the evening receptions I've been to haven't offered any food at all, and I'd feel a real meanie turning up empty handed. I'm such a pushover, I always end up giving them something or other.

I have never been to an evening reception with no food. And gift wise, I usually just get a couple of nice wine glasses and a bottle to go with.

Anyway - more importantly, what to wear for one? I'd have thought it was easier than for daytime actually - daytime is too fraught with hat or no hat, covering up arms etc.

Yeah all the ones I've been to had food - even if there were no new guests arriving!

I have never been to an evening do without food.

I think I know some stingey people

I travelled 3 hrs for the evening only bit. Invite said 7.15. We were barred until 7.45 as speeches ran over.

40 odd people standing in the rain outside waiting to be let in. Then it was a free bar JUST for all day people

I had four bacon rolls out of revenge.

That sounds awful Pantone. Apart from the bacon rolls part!

appalling pantone!!!
how did the barman know which guest you were?