I've been moaning a bit to DH lately about there being nothing in the shops at the moment that I can actually wear (and I do genuinely need some new clothes as the few items I'm comfortable wearing are literally falling to bits). DH, bless him, is trying to fix it by saying there is nothing to stop me wearing fashionable clothes and that my only problem is confidence.
Sadly, that's not true. I'm just not deluded about my figure and its limitations. I'm 5'4" and size 14. My frame is on the small size so I look quite hefty at this size, which isn't a good start. I have no waist but do have a big pot belly. I've also got massive thighs (they've always been out of proportion - even when I was a size 10, my thighs were about a 16). And I can't wear heels, due to problems with my feet.
So trousers, unless they're wide leg ones, are out. And as wide leg trousers tend to look better with heels, they're not ideal either. I always wear knee length or just above the knee skirts with a t shirt that skims rather than clings to my tummy, plus a cardi or hoodie and flat boots. This is my 'uniform'. It may be dull as shite but it's the only look that doesn't emphasise all my worst areas. Problem is, my clothes all need replacing but I can't find any skirts that are long enough but aren't either bodycon or officey pencil skirt styles. T shirts that don't cling too much are tricky too.
Anyway, DH is insisting that we go shopping to find me some new clothes. Which is lovely of him, of course. But he keeps insisting that I can wear fashionable clothes and that the stuff I do wear is frumpy and ageing (I'm 35 and disagree). I keep trying to tell him that the shops are full of short and/or clingy skirts and that the trousers and jeans are mostly slim fitting and look fucking awful on my thighs. He just laughs and says I'm being ridiculous. It's quite sweet in a way and I wish he was right!
I don't know why it's bothering me so much. Maybe because I hate my body and having these conversations is painful (hate having to spell out to him that I can't wear the things that most women my age can because my figure won't allow it).
Am trying to sort the weight problem out btw, have been dieting religiously for the last two months but it's taking forever to actually see any results. Can't really exercise due to chronic problems with feet and knees and also had tendinitis since my DS was born 18 months ago.