i look like a bag of spanners-i need help if youre a size 14 come hither.

[ThatVikRinA22]

i see plenty of women, who are bigger than me, or same size as me, who look fantastic.

but i am clueless.

i have not bought any new clothes for about 3 years because i have no idea what to get. i keep waiting to lose weight, and this is clearly not going to happen, as i exercise regularly, i eat ok ish, i am now almost 40. i am hankering after being the 32 year old me who was 2 stone lighter, and that isnt going to happen.
i live in a friends cast offs and she is a size bigger than me. i look terrible!

so im a 14. im 5 feet 4 tall. i have good legs ( i run)
i am pear shaped, but i do have decent norks, im a 34 C and a 14 everywhere.
my face is not that bad considering. i dont look my age. my hair is in a long bob and is highlighted and cut well at a very good salon.

i look ok in leggings or skinny jeans if the top is long enough to just cover my hips.
i look ok in dresses if they are wrap or belted.
A line skirts are good on me.
no clingy tops though.

i often see people discussing dresses and the like on here....the great plains sale for instance, or the coast sale - and i imagine everyone who shops there is a size 10 and 6 feet tall.
so tell me that im wrong. tell me, if i can wear nice clothes and be a size 14?
then tell me where i can buy nice clothes....cos i am so sick of living in my mates size 16s.
i need help. really.

help dress me.

im toying with ordering the phase 8 stuff....but i dont really know what my size is there....

also wondering if those dresses are a bit clingier than the stuff i was choosing?

(saying that im on a diet as of thursday. )

I have that great plains dress. It's incredible...makes you look really skinny. I have it in green but am contemplating going back for the darker one as well.

oooo goody! its still not here yet though....they said it had been despatched on 30th dec so im wondering where its gone....??

they dont use bloody yodel do they? wonder if i can track the order....

on a brighter note i got my Jones Bootmaker boots this morning and they are FAB!!
gorgeous! im having such fun shopping for the first time in years!

oh btw warmleatherette - whats great plains sizing like? my being a 14 i ordered a large....but sometimes in dresses depending on how clingy they are or not im a 12....not often, just sometimes....

I agree with Scotsgirl23, start with getting a properly fitted bra - you'll be surprised how many woman think they know their size but when measured find out they are way off! A properly fitted bra will help with your posture and form a good base for what you wear.

well we used to have this little independent undies shop here, where the lady who worked there clapped her hands over your buswams to find your cup size and fitted by eye. she was fab. sadly its gone now. BUT she did teach me that i was in the wrong size....back then i thought i was a 34A and she fitted me with a 32B.
given that ive added about 2 stone since then, i now wear a 34C, and ive no idea where else to go to get my bra fitting checked. it doesnt move when i raise my arms, i fasten it on the middle hook, and as they wash and stretch i fasten on the tightest. a C cup seems ok, i dont end up with 4 of them or anything....

if i knew where to go to get fitted id do it....

For those who can't find a wrap dress that suits them, try this one at Hobbs

I find it absolutely magic (I am a 12 on top, 14 on bottom, have it in a 14 and need to pull it pretty tight to make it look right). I don't know what it does but it completely disguises my squishy stomach. I do wear it with a camisole underneath though as otherwise too revealing on norkage.