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Feeling old at thirty!!!!

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baldbyfifty · 13/07/2011 20:09

Excuse me while I rant...................anyone else feeling old and well over that very distant on the horizon hill???!!!!! I always thought I took good care of myself and looked on the good side of ok however turning thirty has brought with it the realisation that I am no longer 18 in spirit and definitely not in body!! Has anyone else considered botox and fillers? I've started taking my usual casual browse through my avon catalogue a little more seriously and the words dermabrasion and serum now bring with them hope of regaining what appears to be lost................!!!

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Hullygully · 13/07/2011 20:18

Try being 47 you bloody whippersnapper.

electra · 13/07/2011 20:22

30 is not old! What are you not happy with? Microdermabrasion is great as it removes dead skin cells and makes your skin glow and appear much brighter.

BumperlicicusTotalus · 13/07/2011 20:46

Yep, I think 30 is hard as it's the real tipping point into old age adulthood. It's a style and beauty quagmire, too old for oasis and topshop, too young for jigsaw, m&s and White Stuff. Caking yourself in make up make you look old but you are no longer young enough to look fresh-faced with none.

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baldbyfifty · 13/07/2011 20:47

Thank you ladies...I fear it is more in my head than in the mirror but I just don't look as nice as I used to, I've got a hefty gordon ramsey between my eyes and lines under my eyes I dont like it one bit!! However champagne tastes and beer pockets mean botox and fillers will have to wait!! x

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baldbyfifty · 13/07/2011 20:48

Bumperlicicustotalus you've just hit the nail on the head!!!!! xx

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wicketkeeper · 13/07/2011 22:12

Poor you - you'll get used to being 30, it's not so bad. If botox is out of reach try this - stand in front of a mirror, take a deep breath, then stand up straight. Really straight. Hold your stomach in, drop your shoulders, bring your chin in towards your neck. No matter what you're wearing, it'll look better on an up-straight figure. Now smile - the cheapest face-lift in the world. Not just a 'from the teeth for'ard' smile, a real genuine, happy to be here smile. It won't help with everything (that's why we have hair dye, night cream, and eyebrow tweezers..), but it will help a bit.
Hully - 47 is so last year. Oh, wait a minute. 49 is so last year. :o

Havingkittens · 13/07/2011 23:00

"too old for oasis and topshop, too young for jigsaw, m&s and White Stuff"

Oh shut up! I'm 41 and have only just decided in the last couple of years that 80% of Topshop and Oasis clothes are too young for me now - and, I think a lot of that is to do with trends, ie. playsuits, mini dresses and 5 inch heels. If they catch on to the midi dress/40s glamour trend that is back on the cards for A/W11 I'll have no qualms about buying stuff in there again.

Anyway, back to the OP. I know it feels like a bit of a shocker turning 30. It's a new chapter if you like (well, you probably don't just now). But when you look back at it you will realise just how young and fresh faced, and probably still quite firm too Wink you still are at your age!

Dress in what you feel good in. Please, please don't decide you're too old to shop in Topshop and the like!

fruitshootsandheaves · 13/07/2011 23:02
allegrageller · 13/07/2011 23:03

Sigh. I looked so fresh faced at 30 and now at 38 I am starting to sag and crack all over.

And guess where I shopped today- H and M! Sizes are bigger these days so I'm still a 10 :D so it feels like I'm still a teenager.

I don't really give a shit any more what I look like in my clothes- I just want to like them. (Probably because I know I'll look pretty old whatever I wear, but heck who cares??) This is a privilege of age- embrace it!!

perpetualsucker · 13/07/2011 23:04

Don't say that. I'm 40 and was in Top Shop only today. A 30 year old is def. not too old to shop there.

allegrageller · 13/07/2011 23:05

god, playsuits they surely look good on NOONE.

My students seem to have universally adopted a near-naked style of dressing. Shorts up to crotch in summer. Shorts up to crotch in winter, plus black tights.

They must be bloody cold when the sun's not out. And by god it makes me glad I don't have to dress like a young 'un....

MrsMc82 · 13/07/2011 23:29

I'm struggling a bit wit 29-nearly-30-ness too....... I've also got a Gordon ramsey between my eyebrows!!

Have always tried to be fairly on trend without being fashion victim-y and dress my fat well as I like to put it but now I occasionally realise that I might look like I'm in fancy dress as a young person!!! Its a funny stage I think as sometime feel like I look like an in fancy dress as a grown up too..... Shallnt be ruling any specific shops out any time soon though, more ruling out particulary "young trends" iswim

lubeybooby · 13/07/2011 23:31

OP! It gets worse trust me. 30 was bad enough but having reached 31 my fine lines are breeding by the minute and the deep frown lines are becoming trenches and just begging for botox. I no longer have any baby smooth skin anywhere it's all going crepey even on the insides of my arms. AND I'm getting a crese down one cheek from how I sleep

Anyway, you have my every sympathy. It sucks. I'm going to do some saving and kick wrinkly ass with as many products and injections as possible. I'm way too young to be so horrified at the rate these buggers are creeping up on me

worldgonecrazy · 14/07/2011 08:20

30 was definitely the most difficult age. 40 was great because you learn to relax and enjoy life more. I actually look younger at 41 than I did at 32, no idea how but I think genes and staying out of the sun have helped.

MumblingRagDoll · 14/07/2011 08:26

Jeepers....when I was 30 I still wore what I liked! I'm 38 now and only just begining to sophisticate myself up!

tinker316 · 14/07/2011 08:37

I turned 31 this week Blush
I still shop where I use to when I was a teenager!!
I love river island, Dorothy Perkins, new look, cult etc.....
I have accepted that I'm getting older, but fortunately 4 me I look alot younger than I am ( still get asked 4 I.d Wink ) so think I can get away with it Smile

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baldbyfifty · 14/07/2011 10:40

Praise the lord i'm not alone!!! tinker i've never been id'd not even as a spotty 14 yr old sneaking into the local dive lol.
To make myself feel better I had a very tiny online shopping session last night i've decided to draw the attention away from Gordon and his pals by making everything south of the disaster zone look as fabulous as it can without resorting to getting my jaws wired xx

Thank you ladies, feel much much better xxx

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motherinferior · 14/07/2011 10:43

For heaven's sake, child, I'm 48 Grin

GetOrfMoiLand · 14/07/2011 10:59

I remember feeling portents of doom when I was 29 and my 30th was coming up. I wanted to spend my borthday in bed. I was seriously convinced I was getting OLD.

Now I am 33 and think it is GREAT. This is a great decade. Fuck being a teenager and in my 20s again. That was a very very difficult time for me. I now have a great life - stuff is not so much of a struggle. Plus I have no childcare/maternity leave/nursery issues as all my young childrearing is done.

Re ageing - get botox. I am a frowner and was getting lots of lines on my forehead. I had botox 3 weeks ago and now look the same as when I was 25. Also use SPF 50 - I did anyway from late 20s due to skin cancer, however I think that has helped my skin stay so soft and clear.

Clothes - never been a problem really. I just go to more expensive shops now than in my 20s because I have more money - so instead of Top Shop, New Look, Primark et al go to Ted Baker, French Connection, Reiss etc. Still get loads of throwaway stuff from Asda and Tesco, though.

i also look better because I have far better make up now.'

OP I understand how depressed you feel, but I look back on how despondent I was at turning 30 and think 'what a twat Grin

PinkOlives · 14/07/2011 11:04

30 is not too old for topshop and certainly not oasis! wear what you like otherwise you wont feel good, enjoy it. topshop doesnt just sell hot pants they have a wide slection of clothing.

30 is still a scary prospect but i think its making me think more about my skin routine, diet, exercise (metabolism is definitely slowing right down) etc but less about my clothing. (swears to never buy white stuff/boden/m&S Wink )

meltedchocolate · 14/07/2011 11:04

Hurray I am still young!!

Seriously though OP you are the only person that will be noticing your GordonRs. Don't stop shopping anywhere!

wineandcheese · 14/07/2011 11:07

Get yourself down to Whistles and Reiss - FAB for those of us in our 30s/40s.

"Too old for Topshop and Oasis"

You may have to choose a bit more carefully than you did in your early 20s, but there are great finds to be had in both of those shops!

meltedchocolate · 14/07/2011 11:07

and after being cheeky and rude,

30 is NOT OLD!

MayorNaze · 14/07/2011 11:10

i am 30

i look 30

this was a bit of a shock to me as i managed to get away with looking under 23 until i hit about 28 Hmm. you still with me? Grin

upgrade your beauty routine a bit. shop for what looks good on you rather than what is fashionable. look at friends styles that you admire and see what you can adapt to suit you. you may have an occasional wobble ie here but otherwise look forward, not back.

dermabrasion and serums are all good, the 30 anew stuff in the avon catalogue is actually v v g.

embrace your age and the sense of having lived a bit that comes with it as oppose to thinking oh jesus it's all down hill from here.

essentially everything GetOrf said but in a more twatty way Grin

Havingkittens · 14/07/2011 11:21

Stop shopping at Topshop and go to Whistles instead? So does turning 30 automatically mean your wages quadruple or something?