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Dress me for a meeting with DS1's head of year.

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LynetteScavo · 02/04/2011 15:12

I haven't met her before and want to portray the right image.

I don't want to go in all business suit and heels (DH will be in his work suit), and track suit and greasy hair in a pony tail really wouldn't do me any favours, so flowers tunic, legging and ballet pumps? Hmm

So what would a supportive middle class mother who's child is being a little shit having difficulty coping with the school day wear?

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ThatVikRinA22 · 02/04/2011 15:16

does it matter what you wear? im sure if they are there to talk about your child they arent going to be taking notes on what shoes you have on.

id concentrate on the important stuff first i think

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LynetteScavo · 02/04/2011 15:19

There is a word for what I'm doing...you know when you are really stressed about one thing, so you focus (and get really worked up about something else instead) Anyway I can't remember what it's called.

I'm going to need some sort of coordinating chunky necklace aren't I.

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WMDinthekitchen · 02/04/2011 15:22

Be comfortable because it sounds as though the conversation won't be! Smart casual - the kind of look "you" have in your profile pic (open shirt with tee underneath plus some leggings or trousers plus blazer if it's cool). Or, dress as a vampire if it makes you feel empowered! Your hair is gorgeous and shiny. Hope it goes well - been there, done that. Son was nightmare pupil but he is currently doing a Masters in Mech Eng.

ThatVikRinA22 · 02/04/2011 15:28

id say youre going to need a pen, a notepad and some time, and a list of questions, and preferably a friend or your partner with you. sod everything else, really, no one is going to give a stuff what your wearing.
the word for what your doing starts in ST and ends in OOPID. sorry but i think your getting your priorities completely arse about tit.

TheFallenMadonna · 02/04/2011 15:31

No-one is going to be bothered by what you're wearing, no. But I know why you're asking!

Your suggestion sounds fine BTW.

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LynetteScavo · 02/04/2011 15:34

VicarInaTutu, I got exactly that answer from DH, including the stoopid bit! Grin

You aren't him, are you? Hmm

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ThatVikRinA22 · 02/04/2011 15:34

just wear what you feel comfortable in.

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LynetteScavo · 02/04/2011 15:37

WMDinthekitchen, thank you!

I only have 6 and a bit more years of DS at school, and it will all be over! He wants to go into some sort of engineering, and I know he will be brilliant at it, I just have to make sure he can actually stay in school.

I'm off to check what the weather will be like next week so I can layer appropriately.

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WincyEtNightie · 02/04/2011 15:41

Displacement I think Smile

I think your outfit sounds fine. And chunky necklace is always good for "concerned middle class mother, confident yet open to criticism of her offspring" IMO Grin

mulberryless · 02/04/2011 16:04

I've been a head of year and we won't look at your clothes love unless you wear something mad. It will scream, 'I'm nervous and scared of you'. A smile and a notepad / pen is the best idea. You'll be fine. Say how you really feel. Chances are Head of Year bit anxious aswell!!!! Hope it goes well. PS: I often went for the chunky necklace whe I was the other side of the desk. HA!

puffling · 02/04/2011 16:17

It doesn't matter unless it helps you feel more at ease. Go prepared with ideas on how you and the school can work together to support him.

anon80 · 02/04/2011 16:52

Is that really your DH on your profile?

And does he have a twin?

I know why your asking, because you would like to give off the right impression, but im sure whatever you wear will be fine

x

talkingnonsense · 02/04/2011 16:55

It's displacement activity and it's normal! Wear what you suggested, listen to the teachers point of view and give your ds lots of hugs, and a kick up the backside!

blossoming · 02/04/2011 17:37

Well you both look amazing on your profile. Poor head of year might be intimidated!
I agree with you btw that it is important to look your best, then you will feel more confident to face the meeting. Hope it goes well for you.

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LynetteScavo · 02/04/2011 20:37

Why thank you! (I'm not really Lynette Scavo, but shush!)

I have my moleskine note book and lamy pen at the ready.

The head of year is totally out of her depth with DS, (quite young and inexperienced) , so I need to come over as someone who feeds her child organic food and limits screen time assertive, but not too business like.

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LynetteScavo · 03/04/2011 13:08

I've bought http://www.monsoon.co.uk/occasion-tunics/eva-silk-tunic/invt/82326476/# this.

What do you think?

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LynetteScavo · 03/04/2011 13:09

www.monsoon.co.uk/occasion-tunics/eva-silk-tunic/invt/82326476/#

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