You are all so lovely - thanks 
blossoming - I do look through NAP but they are not really styled on curvy girls! Great idea to try and find the look on the high street first.
I think that the mistake I have been making is admiring friends who look good but ignoring the fact that they have totally different body shapes to mine.
I will look through all the links - vinvino - have taken the first step and ordered the jeans but have gone for a 30 as there is no way I'd get in a 28 and 29 are out of stock. I also love blazers so am looking forward to spring to ditch the heavy coats!
carciofi - that sounds perfect, if she will travel to the depths of Kent, I would def be interested.
I am going to try to find time in the new year to strip my wardrobe of everything I don't like so that I don't have that frustrating 'tons of clothes but nothing to wear feeling'.
Next step, do I cut my hair off......?