I’m a step parent to 3 children; ages 7, 9 and 10. I have my own daughter at 13 too. We all live together. We have my step kids 6 day and they see go to their mums for 4 days. I treat them largely as I do my own daughter with the exception of important decisions anything medical or relating to school I make sure their dad makes those decisions but day to day they get treat like my own daughter. Their behaviour is questionable they will often swear and shout at me when enforcing rules as they just don’t behave and I get at least weekly you can’t tell me what to do you’re not my mum from the middle one. Which we have explained I’m not trying to be but still trying to stick to rules causes issues. Me and their dad have been together for 5 years we have all lived together for 3&1/2. Is it normal to not like them? I absolutely dread when I’m at home and their dads at work because I know they misbehave. Their dads so supportive but I feel like I’m constantly going back and telling tales because they just cannot behave when I'm looking after them. It’s always been difficult as their behaviour is hard to cope with but in the last year it’s been really bad. Any advice how to get on better?