Partner falls asleep

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My partner has two kids under 5. He often falls asleep when they’re in our care - snoozing on the sofa while they’re playing. It annoys me he expects me to look after them by myself. Last time it happened he said ‘I’m sure you can cope for 5 minutes.’

hes often had his mum helping him with them when he has them once a week and I feel he’s got used to someone else doing the work.

we’ve got them for 3 nights over Xmas and I’m dreading it.

what would you do or say?

This is one of my many reasons never to settle with a man or woman that has kids.

Oh just another man wanting a nanny with a fanny. How long were you together when he moved in. Whose house is it. Try having a relationship without living together and meet him when he doesn't have his DC. Why the desperation to live together all the time.

How soon did you move in together?

Has he moved into your place, or the other way round?

Don't have children with this man BTW because you'll then have three to look after.

And he'll be an otherwise "great guy"

It’s difficult to know what I’d do as I’d never ever get in to this situation in the first place.

surely it’s much nicer to be single than to be an unpaid childminder of a weekend for a man who is just using you, and has no respect for you?

but what I’d do now is walk away from this relationship without a backward glance and work on my self esteem before getting in to another one.

😂

Yup.

Are you feeling like the Nanny with a Fanny?

Now you know why she left him

Just noticed he only had them once a week and still can’t be arsed to do anything either them.

Whet a fucking prince you e got yourself there OP

And she can’t LTB because are loves him soooooooooooooo much and when it’s good the rare moments he’s actually awake and not being a useless lazy fucker it’s amazing

So many women on these boards, so obvo in real life too, value themselves so so low.

op, if this situation was reversed, can you imagine having 2 under 5s, seeing them once a week, falling asleep whilst they were there and if your boyfriend who you expected to look after them said anything, you said ‘I’m sure you can manage five minutes’
No?
then why would you have to question if it’s an ok way to treat you?

I think you might be a nanny with a fanny.

What if op had two under two with him and they split up and went to dad's house and the new gf was parenting them rather than their dad?
Would you be ok with that op? I'd be seriously reconsidering the contact arrangements.

I’d tell him the relationship is over because he’s a useless partner and a terrible parent. You deserve so much better.

Stand up for yourself. Tell him they’re not your children and the limited time he sees them he should actually be interacting and taking care of them.

Stop making yourself so available. So many people who have a partner with children feel like when their partner has the children they have to be there 24.7. Start making plans with friends, getting yourself out, even going upstairs for a bath and to paint your nails.

Or better yet just end it. I’m not sure if you want your own children in the future but this man is literally giving you a look into the future if you were to choose him as the father to your children. He’s shit with these kids and he’ll be shit with yours.

I’d go out and point out they’re his children. This is doomed btw.

Wake him up or go out

where is your relationship at?
if he’s fun, great in bed and your enjoying dating him then great just do it on the 6 days he doesn’t bother to see his kids.
if you are considering him a long term prospect walk away now. You already seen he’s a poor parent, you will be expected to do the hard work. And it would be no different if you were to have a child together.
This is your red flag warning it won’t get better it will only get worse

Yeah. Just go out before he falls asleep.

you are not his mother. Sigh.

Just go out every time they are at yours

Or more sensibly just end it with this lazy twat

You're right, he's always had someone else doing his parenting for him. Presumably first his ex, then his mum and now you. He only has them once a week and can't be bothered with them.
I mean, stay if you want to, but things won't get any better.

OP not coming back...

Indeed. So my arm chair analysis is this.
The only good thing about this relationship (and the bloke) is that it is one. The op gets to show the world she has a partner. And that is where the positives end.
please learn to hold your head up high op and announce to the world you’re single, rather than sink to blokes like this for the heady rewards of being a ‘partner’.

Bet he doesn't fall asleep at bedtime.