Hi,
I’m feeling like a victim but I don’t want to stay in that mentality. Basically, I moved in with my fiancé and his adult children (Eldest is 29 and other is 26, both boys).
I’m doing my best with WFH, household chores, walking dogs, doing dinner, etc and I can feel myself getting resentful that the children don’t do anything around the house. I’m learning that this is the family dynamic and dad does everything for them, and therefore they are a bit spoilt.
As an example, I cooked dinner tonight as my fiancé works shifts and would be home late, however the dinner was later than usual as the chicken wasn’t fully defrosted and needed longer. The eldest wasn’t happy about it, no words but could sense, and didn’t thank me for doing him dinner.
I don’t want to feel like I’m being a baby but I’m not sure when to do more and when to step back; does anyone have the same issue and how to do overcome?
I get on really well with my fiancé’s 3 adult children (one doesn’t live with us full time) and don’t wish to cause any upset but I find the dynamic difficult at times.