lack of advent calendar isn't my issue!

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Sick to death of the wife work expectations from DH.

The latest is him stressing that HE hasn't got DSC an advent calendar and this has apparently turned into the whole "how awful you didn't get DSC one, you'd get one if it were X (our child)"

Our child does have one, my mum bought her one. But yes if she didn't I'd have made sure she did. Because I'm a bloody parent.

I'm sick of him failing in HIS responsibilities and then acting like they are my failings, presumably because I'm a woman so those are my sort of things to sort?!

It’s 7.30pm the shops are still open! He can go out.

He can still get one. I’d be more concerned about the fact the child doesn’t have one than petty point scoring.

I wouldn't find a misogynist attractive. While you remain married to him, best to stop all labour for him so he learns basic competency.

You can still get one. Me and DH went to the shop this morning and got advent calanders for the 3 kids ( 2 joint and DSS). They had loads left.

Tell him to sort it out as he's the parent

He can pop out and get one - or get one delivered Amazon:Galaxy Advent - tell him he can still get it sorted.

If I had bought for my kid I had bought for stepkid too.
Your mother bought it.
It's a husband problem. Not a you problem.

There are plenty still in the supermarkets and they'll be open till 10pm. Tell him to get his coat on.

I would have bought two, one for our child and one for DSD - I'm always in the supermarket so it would have been easy enough to just to stick one in the trolley.

When it comes to Christmas presents though, it's your DH's job to liaise with DSC's DM regarding what they are both gifting and then it's your DH's job to go and purchase those gifts - make it clear now that he has to do it and you won't be otherwise you'll be having this argument again on Christmas Eve.

Have you bought them in the past? Did you tell him your mother bought DCs?

Deliveroo, if in your in an area that has it? Mines coming up with loads. But yes, he should be the one to do it!

His job to have figured this out with his child’s mother. Is one advent calendar travelling between their houses? One for each and SC has catching up to do on doors when at other parents?
Not your fault he didn’t sort it out with his child’s mother. Or that he only just remembered. If he’d wanted you to pick one up/ order in weekly shop (if that’s something you do and not him), he could have nicely asked…! Not snapped at you for not reading his mind.

He should go and get one tonight.

1. Nacho method. These are "nacho" (not your) kids, not your job to parent them.
2. This time next year, he should be singing 🎶 On the first day of Christmas, my ex-wife gave to me, D I V O R C E 🎶

How pathetic. Tell him to go shopping. What a twat.

It's been a mix in the past of me grabbing one / him.

He didn't know my mum had got ours one no.

Presume the child concerned has two living parents, so why does someone else have to do it.

So did he go out and buy one last night?

"how awful you didn't get DSC one, you'd get one if it were X (our child)"

I mean, that’s right back on him… “how awful YOU didn’t get one for either of your children, dear. Luckily my mum has covered one so you only need to get one now”

Nope

Is the kid with you today? Why didn't he go get one?

If you have grabbed them in the past and haven’t mentioned that you haven’t got your DC one this year, I can see why he assumed you had picked them both one up.

The quote literally says it’s been a mix of OP grabbing them and DH grabbing them.

Anyway, there’s no excuse for him saying what he did. something like the below would have been fine.

“Did you get the advent calendars?” “ No, but mum got one for X” “right ho, I’ll just nip out and get one for Y, anything else we need?”

I think there is, if he thinks she’s been and bought one for their child but not picked up one up for the second child that’s totally different to not picking any up. Yes DH didn’t check she had bought any but I couldn’t play games like this. Just speak to each other.

He is a shit father. And I’d hazard a guess, a bit of a shit husband too.

What a useless prick. This behaviour will erode your respect for him and end in contempt, which you won’t come back from.