Extortion

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Dh's adult dd cut him off for almost three years with no explanation and asked for thousands before agreeing to meet him. She has never been able to explain what he did wrong, and refused to talk about it.

Fast forward three years and their relationship is back on track but she has now admitted that her stepdad manipulated her, allowing her to keep only a third of the money dh gave her at the time and kept two thirds for himself, thereby profiting from dh's distress over not seeing his dd.

I'm disgusted with him but wondering if I should be equally disgusted with his dd or should I give her the benefit of the doubt and believe she was manipulated? She was 20 at the time and says she can't explain why she cut him off in the first place.

Don't you think that the DSC refusing to see her dad without being given vast sums of money was using coercive control?

I absolutely do.

No I don’t. I think, from what OP has written that it’s likely that the SD was being manipulated and controlled by what sounds like a toxic father figure (her step dad, maybe her mum?)

Like I said, I feel sorry for her. I’d have done anything my parents told me to at that age.

I hope she is able to rebuild a relationship with her father and that the OP and her family find a way to move forward.

Ultimately a father and daughter are attempting to rebuild their relationship. OP says her husband intends to get to the bottom of things. He sounds like a good guy and I wish him and his daughter luck. You too OP

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