Thing that make you eye roll (lighthearted…sort of)

[Shonamona]

I’ll start.

DH still cutting up DSS food (he’s 10).

i wonder if he’ll do the same for any children you and he have together?!

He'll get more independent, I think I might have still been cutting up my DS1's food at that age quite often, and DS2 is 10 now, and normally he's OK, but if something's tricky he'll ask for help.

It's not like they're kids forever, every child learns at their own pace. Only an issue if it's because DH won't let them cut up their own food.

Not saying anything when they forget their manners

babying the youngest whilst being harsher / firmer on the eldest

saying go get the PlayStation we can play it downstairs

DHs expectations of DS4 are wildly out of step with what he expected/allowed of DSD at 8 or even 9/10.
She was still co sleeping at 10 (got distressed, couldn't fall asleep alone, not just a case of enjoying a film in bed with parent on a Saturday night) and needing her bum cleaned after a number 2 at 8.
I wouldn't want my child to have the issues DSD has had as its been quite distressing/humiliating for her at times and her mum actively worked against DH trying different strategies to help her over the years, so it is good that we are both working towards age appropriate independence for our kids.
But still, it does make me roll my eyes inside when he chins DS for having a skid mark because he might not always do a perfect job but at least he toilets independently!

Not a chance. My DH parents our DS and my SC completely differently. They can get away with all sorts but our DS, not a chance. He has hardly any patience with him but my SC can and do push all the buttons repeatedly and nothing gets said. It's so frustrating but I do call it out.

Like they can dick around with food choices and be super fussy and awkward and he panders like anything to it, but DS? Nope!

All the bloody driving around he does , all the money he wastes on petrol and all the time his other kid gets left here whilst he panders to the demands of the older one. Ridiculous.

Just thought of another. Never any money to do anything with me but when it comes to the kids there’s a bottomless pot 🙄

Most sentences that start with "my mummy said...."

My life expected to pause because the kids have arrived

not being able to do anything around the house because not fair on the kids

not being able to watch my shit on the tv because his kids are here

not being able to sit on my own sofa because him and the children have taken it over.

no consideration for anyone else from the second they arrive and everything gets pushed to the bottom so the kids pedestal is higher

ok I was in a good mood now I’m just reminded of how irritating life is every other week 😂😂

Best part of divorce was the realisation the dsc and their dm were gone gone gone from my life....

People eating/ drinking in the street.

Years ago DH took his hyperactive 9 yr old to a large dept store to while away a wet afternoon while I stayed at home with our newborn DD.
They arrived home with a trumpet.

Starting a post to basically badmouth your family.

I do think that children who live between homes might that need a little bit of extra cosseting- the difficulty is the balance of needs.

Not sure what you’re doing on mumsnet then, seeing as that’s what 99% of posts are…

What a horrible thread, light-hearted or not.

Wow. What a horrible thread.

My stepdad married my mum when I was 6 and my sister was 4, then went on to have three children of their own.
My Stepdad never treated me and my sister any differently from our brothers - notice I say brothers, not half brothers as that's what they technically are, but we were a FAMILY and I loved that.

The thought that there are people in this world that treat their SC like subpar citizens makes me sick.

Exactly @Alasia24

What makes me roll my eyes? Non-stepparents trolling the stepparents forum.

This. Every, single. Time.

nailed it

Totally not understanding that my life doesn’t also revolve entirely around his children, who are his overlords. Telling me what activity he and his kids have agreed to do for the day because they ‘really want to’ and sulking if I don’t also want to spend 7 hours in an arcade and do my own thing instead.

Where do I start……

The kids were 7 & 10 at the time and would shout ‘daddy’ so he (dad) could rush in & wipe their arses. They couldn’t do it themselves & according to their ‘mummy’ it was her job (or his) to do it (god knows what they did at school).

Eating everything with their hands (even beans on toast) I shit you not! It makes my skin crawl.

Still calling their mum ‘mummy’ at 15 & 18 (it makes me shudder every time).

The 15 year not able to use a toaster (‘mummy’ says it’s too dangerous). Let alone cook anything.

’Mummy’ is always right and can do absolutely no wrong. I can’t wait for them to figure out how toxic she has been and them work out how she stopped them seeing their dad. She wouldn’t let him speak to them for example on their birthdays.

I roll my eyes as I was pretty independent as a kid and think their mum is going then no favours by babying them.

The ex's obsession with collecting dogs from Greece or wherever but having no interest in her own kids' welfare- they have long bedraggled hair, scruffy clothes, turn up to school late and are basically feral. She's brainwashed them to think I'm evil because I dont let them drink litres of cola and eat processed meat 24/7. To be fair to her my MIL is the same with their diet so I feel very weird for attempting to get fresh fruit and veg into them.

The kids were there before you. You chose them because you chose him. The subtext of so many of these posts seem to be that posters wish their DSC didn’t exist, it’s bizarre. If you don’t want a step children then don’t get with a man with kids. It’s really quite simple.

Awful, awful thread, made worse by the clear intention of the ‘…mostly’ bit of the OP’s title.