I have my own ds with partner and three step children. We have them every other evening until they go back to mums as DH and I leave for work super early. We also have the kids every other weekend. The set up has been the same for years even before we got together and it works.
It's the school holidays right now and he's offered each one to stay an evening over night. This is fine and I have no problem but I didn't even get a heads up before he asked the kids. This weekend is a no step children weekend and he's said one of the kids are staying.
Again no problem with this it's their home too, however an ask would be nice. Weekends and weekday evenings with 4 kids is crazy, running in from work and trying to get a fresh dinner on the table.
AIBU to expect just to be asked before it's offered out?
Please don't judge or think I'm the evil step parent because I love them but I do also like my own time occasionally!
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AIBU step children stay over without me even being asked
workingmum6 · 09/04/2024 21:02
WhatTheFuk · 09/04/2024 21:04
Why isn't he making dinner? If you're expected to care and cook for them then of course it's manners that you be consulted.
TheCheekyKoala · 09/04/2024 21:15
I’d expect to be asked to be honest if it was ok. It may be there home to visit but it’s also yours.
Id expect to be asked if it was ok and check if we had anything on.
He can also make the dinner too.
Youcannotbeseriousreally · 09/04/2024 21:21
If my husband invited his kids on a kid free weekend without telling me I’d be absolutely fucking furious. I’m shattered, I live for my adults only weekends. He really should have been more considerate!
VictorianChic · 09/04/2024 22:50
Stop enabling him. He needs to treat you with more respect and he needs to cook proper food for his children.
workingmum6 · 09/04/2024 21:18
You guys make me feel like I'm not going insane thank you 😘
He is a brilliant dad and he does cook the nuggets and chips but I try to make meals where I can in the week so they get at least one vegetable in them!
Maybe he's just a man and doesn't think 🙈 Too bad he didn't ask be beforehand because if he did I would have informed him I've been invited out for dinner with the girls on Friday so he can have the kids!
workingmum6 · 09/04/2024 21:37
@Youcannotbeseriousreally honestly you make me feel so much better. For context we also have his dad living here temporarily almost 6 months already whilst he sorts a new house out. He's a lazy bugger too, I just get a bit overwhelmed sometimes.
Mummame2222 · 10/04/2024 08:10
It’s not really their home though if this is an issue. It depends if the issue is them staying or the lack of communication.
Youcannotbeseriousreally · 09/04/2024 21:21
If my husband invited his kids on a kid free weekend without telling me I’d be absolutely fucking furious. I’m shattered, I live for my adults only weekends. He really should have been more considerate!
Youcannotbeseriousreally · 10/04/2024 08:19
Have you even read the OP????? 🤦🏻♀️
Mummame2222 · 10/04/2024 08:10
It’s not really their home though if this is an issue. It depends if the issue is them staying or the lack of communication.
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Youcannotbeseriousreally · 09/04/2024 21:21
If my husband invited his kids on a kid free weekend without telling me I’d be absolutely fucking furious. I’m shattered, I live for my adults only weekends. He really should have been more considerate!
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