My partner and I have four teens between us (eldest is a girl age 16 and the other 3 are boys aged 12 to 15). Two are mine and two are his.
All very different and my girl has social anxiety and is very adhd so craves stimulation! She’s complex.
We’ve had okay holidays all together when they were younger but it’s so hard working out what we can do now.
My income is a lot lower than my partner’s income so I can’t afford much.
We can’t do anything adventurous as my eldest can’t handle it. We tried a villa abroad last year but my eldest couldn’t handle the isolation (!) and the hol was a disaster. As I said she is very complex.
She says she wants to stay in a hotel but that means I’d have to share a room with her and her 14 year old brother (and my partner will share another room with his teen boys) but I think my two will kill each other by the end of day 1.
I should also add my girl is doing GCSEs this year and is desperate to go away in the summer. Maybe we should just have separate holidays?! But my partner and I are sad about that prospect as it’ll be our only holiday this year.
We would really appreciate your thoughts. What do you all do?
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Justworkingitout · 17/03/2024 20:29
Hoplolly · 17/03/2024 21:57
Separate holidays is the way forward.
Hellsmells · 18/03/2024 13:21
But even if you went on separate holidays, wouldn't you still be sharing a room with your two kids? Or do you mean separate as in just you and your DD?
Floofydawg · 17/03/2024 21:47
Can you afford to do one holiday with your own kids, and then one with your partner and no kids?
Hellsmells · 18/03/2024 16:43
Then you might as well still all go together, albeit in separate rooms. Or are you worried that the atmosphere between your two would impact your partner and his kids? Would you be able to have all boys in one room and you and DD in another to help redce tensions? Why has your DD decided on a hotel specifically?
thestepmumspacepodcast · 22/03/2024 17:14
What type of things do the kids like doing? What type of thing do you and DP like doing?
Would a villa somewhere central work?
If not then one hol for you & your kids and one for him & his sounds like it could be a good answer. Among the Stepmums I hear from it tends to be that they are all for this idea but the men never are....!! 🤔
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ToastyToes101 · 22/03/2024 19:33
Can you look for a hotel with a suite? We stayed in one in the summer with 2 bedrooms, a kitchenette and 2 bathrooms, but it was part of a big hotel complex with a pool, restaurant etc and was centrally located in a city.
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